Later life dating

Most men seem to give up. My frind and I just laugh at the facebook offerings. Just what has happened to normal going out and chatting to people with the hope you might find someone compatable. Myself I am looking for trust, no beard, no tatooes, doesn't smoke just someone to enjoy spending time with 68 and counting 😂

My husband died when I was 60.

I didn’t have a computer and knew nothing about online dating.

I met my now current partner 18years ago at a singles dance.
I went to a lot of them and met a really decent guy.

I would say, don’t go on the internet.
Join clubs, singles, anything you’re interested in. Do it.

I wouldn’t trust the internet.
Unless you want to kiss a lot of frogs etc.

Last week I saw a man of 80 advertising for an attractive lady. He was looking fir someone between 33 and 55!

I met my second husband online , it was 15 years ago . Not sure if it's changed much , I knew what type of guy I was looking for and ignored many messages, that were too forward for me. We met at our local coffee shop first and have several lovely dates before things got serious between us . I think its fairer to reject the ones you know you wouldn't be compatible with , shared interests are quite important

Don’t give up on the walking and dancing! My husband and I are in our 70’s and went to a great dancing school - ballroom etc and there were plenty of older men there who enjoyed dancing and were willing to learn more. They had social dances too with lots of interested people - male and female. We only gave up because my husband had foot problems related to his diabetes and couldn’t dance for a while. Happy dancing and walking! And good luck with finding the right man.

I owned a dating agency in the eighties. It was shameful back then and I had lots of successful relationships. Now it’s the norm.

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Last week I saw a man of 80 advertising for an attractive lady. He was looking fir someone between 33 and 55!

If he’s got money he will probably find one too but it’s unlikely to end happily, great potential for gold diggers.

I think you are very fortunate to meet someone in later life on a dating site. The people I know that used them, never did and eventually gave up. You could use them as a means of just meeting new people and take it light heartedly. I missed the boat, I was so heartbroken when my husband died I knew I couldn't have anyone in his place, looking back I was too young to do that but you cant help how you feel. I would have liked male company but twice when asked out they made it clear they expected more. So I did and do things I enjoy, there are men but no one i would be interested in outside the meet ups.

Tried dating apps, frequently the second sentence made reference to my underwear!
However I have had a couple of nice dates, not that they went anywhere but still nice nevertheless.

One chap stated he just wanted a chat friend which I thought ok fair enough but then revealed he occasionally cross dressed
Ok……….,,,..,, I thought, not for me
I cooled the conversation and thought it might would die a natural death.
However his kindness and perseverance led me to eventually agreeing meet him for coffee.
I couldn’t wish for a kinder more considerate understanding un-jealous platonic companion, excellent dancing partner too!

I think if you are serious about meeting someone, it makes more sense to join a group and meet in the flesh on common ground. Wherever you live, there are social groups for seniors so you shouldn't have difficulty finding one to suit your interests.
I have been 'chatted up' in my local charity shop while perusing the books. There are a couple of men who share my preference in reading material and it's easy to start a discussion on which authors you prefer. Also, unlike a library, you are free to chat in a charity shop. An obvious follow-up would be to have coffee together, though that hasn't happened yet!

Be very very careful on these dating sites I’ve just watched love rats some men have run off with their partners money how can women be so gullible.

Fingers crossed for you obviously.

I've given up myself - there might always be a "bolt from the blue" but I regard it as 101% unlikely I'm afraid.

The nearest I've come is I've got two intelligent male friends here that I can have good conversations with - but that's as far as it goes. Thought I might have met a "possible" recently (though he doesn't own a house - so it would have been just dating...) until I saw a comment from him online to the effect of being interested in what looked like an orgy LOL (yep....things can be a bit "free and easy" amongst a section of the local population here and I'm still wondering if a local community hall knows just what sort of social event they recently let it out for.....ahem). Not for me....

I've become very aware of the second half of the sentence of "after a nurse or a purse" and thought "Maybe I've still got it after all" when a couple of younger men seemed interested - but in a poor area like I'm in now even a woman of "modest means" like myself might get attention from a man because even her "modest means" is more than he has (yep...I've just got a two-bedroom house and a low job pension on top of my State Pension). So the person even with only "half a loaf" looks good to the man with just "breadcrumbs" and that happens a lot to women in this area (can't speak for the rest of the country) and I'm gobsmacked at the women for putting up with it - but decent men are noticeably scarce here it seems. Unless two people have moved here from outside as a couple or are a local couple that met here back rather earlier in their lives then there is a lot of women here in this area that are with men that are "less than them" (less money/less intelligence/outdated attitudes to women etc).

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