Daughter ignores us unless she needs us to babysit

It is absolutely appalling, and terribly sad, that kind and supportive parents should be treated like this. I’m sure it would be a wrench for you Bunny, and others who are in the same situation, but it is time you started to consider yourselves and became less available. Don’t message her, just get on with your life and enjoy the time you have with your DH - indulge yourselves and spend quality time together. I despair of this behaviour! 💐

She sounds selfish, ignorant and dreadful! Sorry, but IS blood "thicker than water"?

Me too Cossy outrageous is the word. Don’t be so available for your DD Bunny in the future.Babysit now and again to maintain a relationship with your young DGD.

Honestly, what’s wrong with some of these rude and selfish, entitled AC!

I have no advice as wouldn’t wish to upset you further, but I’m outraged!!

In hindsight, you should have told her off when this behaviour started. It is a little late to expect anything to change now.

I myself would tell her next time that she wants a babysitter, that I was engaged that day with people who don't just want me to do things for them, but actually seem to enjoy my company!

It's good that you continue to see your son and GD despite his wife BigBopper. Not all son's are prepared to maintain their relationship with their parent(s) in such circumstances.

Join the club, that is exactly what has happened to me. I could have written the post myself.

Our son visits me every so many weeks and brings our granddaughter to see me. I have not seen our daughter in law since last year. I have not asked why I don't get invited to their home as I no longer care and as long as I see our granddaughter and son, my daughter in law can go to hell.

I do not talk about her to my son and he does not mention it either. I always invite them and our other son and his family to my home (my husband died a few years ago) when I throw a party for my birthday and she always luckily there is no unpleasentness as I am busy doing things.

This is how it is, I am in my 80's and life is too short to be worrying about if someone likes me or not. Both our sons are great and our other sons wife is fantastic but we never discuss family problems when we are together.

If my husband was alive perhaps things would be different as he would have wanted to know what the problem was but I am not like that, I know I have done such a lot for them when they first married and then had a child, helping them out with money and childminding so for the life of me I have no idea what I have done wrong.

I am sorry your D is treating you so badly Bunny, my advice is to stop messaging her and trying to initiate contact. I understand that you'll be missing your GD but your D's behaviour is unacceptable and you shouldn't tolerate it.

Really don’t let it spoil your life.
Step right back and enjoy your H and your own happiness.

Selfish aren’t they? Adult children. Not all but quite a few.