Gay wedding-have you been to one?

Yes, i have. It was a lovely event, and no different from any other wedding I've been to.

Our son married his husband two years ago. A sunny day in every respect. Love is love ! and a ' gay wedding ' is simply a wedding.

I note the OP hasn't returned. Perhaps the posts were generally not to their liking? I have been a witness at a Civil Partnership of two very good friends. It made me happy to be part of the occasion and certainly not uncomfortable. Sadly one of them died suddenly a couple of years ago. I am glad that they lived in a time when they could be openly happy.

Nanna8 gives the reason why some people might feel uncomfortable. It’s a valid one, and presumably if you felt that way you wouldn’t attend.

Seems not everyone can have an opinion, I attended a gay wedding but I respect those who don’t wish to

Shelflife

Our son married his husband two years ago. A sunny day in every respect. Love is love ! and a ' gay wedding ' is simply a wedding

Exactly Shelflife. My lovely daughter married the love of her life. It was a beautiful day, shared with family and friends. I love my daughter in law, she’s kind and gentle and has made my daughter so happy.
Being “gay” isn’t a choice. My daughter struggled with it and suffered dreadfully with depression for most of her young life. Thank God that she’s happy at long last.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion - just as others are entitled to disagree with that opinion. If someone doesn't wish to attend a gay wedding, that's their choice - doesn't mean I have to agree with that choice or approve or it.

MissAdventure

Yes, it involved exactly the same as a straight wedding, except it was less boring, and nobody dressed up, which suited me just fine.
Bride one wore a dress from her wardrobe, bride two wore denim shorts and a t shirt from her wardrobe.

What is boring?? Oh you mean traditional, where bride groom and families dress up for the occasion. Wear their best to pay respect!!

Yes, that's part of it, and the other is the religious side, as I have no belief in any of that.

I don't like dressing up, either.

I'm a real misery, in fact, come to think of it.

One of my nephews is gay and one great nephew so been to two. They were both very low key affairs. One couple had been civil partners for years and took the opportunity to marry once the law was introduced. Never had any problem with these occasions.

When I got my first flat back in the 1960s I realised the two young men who lived next door were gay and we became friends. My current cleaner is a gay man. Gay men are often very good at housework. I hate it.

Although I am heterosexual Ive had several friendships with gay men during my life. I always felt I did not have to "perform being a woman" in such relationships.

I've been to 2 gay weddings, a Mr and Mr and a Mrs and Mrs and they were glorious!

G. A. Y is an acronym.
Meaning Good As You.

Source... The Acronym Dictionary.

I haven't attended a GAY wedding but have GAY friends with whom I stay regularly. They are in a Civil partnership. I'm completely relaxed and comfortable when sharing their home with them. When one of them was seriously ill the GAY community rallied round (as did heterosexual friends, myself included ) offering tremendous love and support.
Thankfully in this country at least, the days of 'The love that dare not speak its name' are long gone.

paddyann54

Why insist on saying “Gay”wedding? It’s no different to other weddings ,it really irritates me just as much as when my lovely niece and her long time fiancé were refused permission to marry in a church they had worked tirelessly for for two decades.
It’s just two people exchanging vows ,what they do behind closed doors makes no difference to the vows or to anyone else .

👏👏👏👏

MissAdventure

Yes, that's part of it, and the other is the religious side, as I have no belief in any of that.

I don't like dressing up, either.

I'm a real misery, in fact, come to think of it.

No! You’re def not a “real misery” You bring a smile to my face so often!

Yes we went to the wedding of one of our daughters school friends and her wife.

An absolutely wonderful day celebrating the love of two lovely people.

Being honest, 10 years ago I would have felt uncomfortable. I didn't know anyone who was gay and demonstrations of affection between same sex couples were seldom seen on screen - and when they were it was usually seen as shocking. Now I still don't personally know anyone who is gay, but same sex relationships are so visible on Tele and not made an issue of - even in adverts - that they have become commonplace and if I was invited to a gay wedding it wouldn't discomfort me at all.

All weddings are wonderful celebrating love

I would not feel comfortable so I wouldn't go.

For those who say they wouldn't go because it would make them uncomfortable, can I ask why it would make you feel that way? I've not having a go, honestly - if you feel that way, fair enough - but I am genuinely curious as to why you would feel uncomfortable about it.

I agree with those who say that love is to be celebrated whether it's a marriage between two people of the same or of opposite sexes. There certainly isn't enough love in the world, and so we should support it wherever it is to be found!

I've never been to a gay wedding because I don't know anyone who would have one (except a friend's DGD, who isn't in a steady relationship) but would be happy to do so if invited.

It did occur to me that we are so lucky that so many people are happy to consider this subject positively now. It isn't that long ago that the idea of gay weddings wouldn't have been contemplated by anyone.

MissInterpreted

For those who say they wouldn't go because it would make them uncomfortable, can I ask why it would make you feel that way? I've not having a go, honestly - if you feel that way, fair enough - but I am genuinely curious as to why you would feel uncomfortable about it.

That’s how I feel about my earlier question. genuinely interested and curious.

Why when two women get married one very often dresses as a man, suit, tie, brogues etc. but I have never seen a man marrying a man but dressing as a woman.

Hope you get an answer to your question.

I’ve never been to one, but would be happy to. My son went to one and said the father of one of the grooms was obviously uncomfortable, though he tried to hide it.

It’s interesting how attitudes have changed in my lifetime (I’m 84). When I was young, gay relationships were against the law - not that that prevented them - and the idea of a gay wedding would have been astonishing. Many people honestly thought it was morally wrong to be gay. My parents, especially my father, would have been horrified if I or my brother had turned out to be gay. Even as a teenager I could see that it was a perfectly valid way of life, that the law was ridiculous, and that ‘love is love’.

Rosie51

Meant to say cossy didn't your daughter and her wife make a lovely couple! Congratulations to you all.

Thank you x

Very interesting answers, I asked because a straight male friend was invitied or will be to a gay wedding and he wasn't feeling very comfortable about accepting which I can understand as straight men seem to have more issues accepting gay men.

Lisaangel10

It’s very simple, just like straight women, some gay woman are very feminine and some are not. Many, many women dress in “more manly” clothes, whether they are straight or gay.

I know many gay men, some quite camp, but unless they are drag queens in their spare time I’m yet to find one who prefers to dress in a dress. (Aside from those who wear kilts, who could be straight or gay)

It’s certainly not the stereotype that among lesbian couples, one is the girl and one is the bloke!