Gay wedding-have you been to one?

mrsgreenfingers56

Very interesting answers, I asked because a straight male friend was invitied or will be to a gay wedding and he wasn't feeling very comfortable about accepting which I can understand as straight men seem to have more issues accepting gay men.

Very sad, especially in this day and age. Why does he feel this way? Fear of being “pounced” on?

I went to one and there was a wonderful happy atmosphere. Also, the couple had put a lot of thought into the playlist and the music was terrific. We danced all night.

I’m not religious, but, to be fair I guess some people might think same sex relationships are not acceptable within their religion?

That's why I'm curious - for those who would feel 'uncomfortable', is that purely for religious reasons (which is entirely up to them), or are there other reasons?

Yes, one of the best I have ever been to.A wonderful day.

I imagine for some people it goes against the natural order of things - my mother found it very difficult to accept a gay relationship within the wider family.

Yes, i have been to a few, not uncomfortable in any way whatsoever. We were/are delighted to be included in their special day.

Never have. Doubtful i will.

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Not natural in whose eyes? And your assumption about gay couples - male or female - is way off the mark. Not all male gay couples have one 'effeminate' partner, nor do all lesbian couples have one 'masculine' partner. That's a very narrow - and very stereotypical - view. Gay couples are just as varied as any other partnership.

Well you asked. MissInterpreted! And that’s my view.

Iam64

I’m amazed to see some posters would refuse to go or would feel uncomfortable

Me too

Would people be gay if it wasn't natural? I am not sure how it wouldn't be natural? It's not a side effect of anything, it's been happening since recorded history started

Skydancer

Well you asked. MissInterpreted! And that’s my view.

I did, and you are absolutely entitled to hold those views. I'm just pointing out that your assumption about gay couples isn't actually correct.

Sorry to see the old-fashioned stereotypes coming out.
I know quite a few gay people as friends who do not fit into this idea of there has to be one effeminate in a male relationship and one masculine in a female relationship. It's a shame that you haven't met any ,Skydancer. People are different in all relationships and it is only by meeting different people that we see how wide is the range.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

Ok , so my son isn’t natural !!! That’s an awful thing to say . Being gay isn’t a choice. It’s who you are . And thankfully people today can be themselves .
As for your other stereotypical comments , the majority of gay and lesbians I know are not camp or butch .they’re just living their lives .
Your doctor , dentist , vicar or GC teacher could be gay .

Isn't it good that times have changed? I remember when homosexuality was a crime and young men lived in fear or denial. When I was a teenager I didn't even know that women could be gay and yet I must have been at school with girls who were. I've worked with gay women, know many gay men through my main interest (dressage) been to gay weddings and seen my own daughter's friends come to terms with their sexuality. One of her best friends married her partner, the wedding was featured in Vogue, they both looked absolutely gorgeous. The couple now have a beautiful daughter. I'm so glad that we have a much more honest and open society that allows people to be who they were born to be.

Cossy

My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.

Looks quite beautiful 🥂 .

Skydancer,you clearly have no idea what you are talking about! You must be ancient to have those outdated ideas!Nothing unnatural about two people being in love,whoever those people are and whatever they look like.

Your posts are sad.

Goodness… I only said what I think. Sorry if most of you don’t agree with me.

Jesus never commented on same sex relationships.

Skydancer

MissInterpreted I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being gay as it is not natural. Also - and I really do not understand this - in a male gay relationship, for example, why is one person effeminate? In a lesbian relationship why is one person quite masculine? If this is what the other partner wants then why not choose someone of the opposite sex?

If you look back at my earlier reply I think you’ll find what you think simply isn’t true.

We have many “gays” within our family group and wider circle of friends. They are just so “normal!” Some couples are both quite masculine, both genders, some less so. Just like any straight couple. My husband is much more smartly dressed than me, I wear quite masculine clothes sometimes. We are straight.

Why, oh why, have we not moved on from these silly conversations?

We, humans, are all different, in many different ways.

As for it “not being natural”, gays, like “ladies of the night” have been around since the year dot.

If you think or have to ask about feeling uncomfortable, you shouldn’t go.

“Freya5
Cossy
My daughter and her beautiful wife got married last month.
Looks quite beautiful 🥂 .”

Thank you “Freya” it was a beautiful day x

Skydancer

Goodness… I only said what I think. Sorry if most of you don’t agree with me.

My only surprise is your surprise that most of don’t agree with you.

I feel sad for you