It seems that many MILs and DILs struggle with finding their footing and that a lot of the relationship conflict is rooted in expectations.
By this I mean that both the MIL and DIL have certain expectations that perhaps they can't even identify as such and yet the failure of the other to meet the expectations leads to disharmony.
Some MILs, for example, expect their DIL to maintain the relationship on behalf of the couple pair, perhaps through regular phone calls and visits. Or maybe they expect to treat the couples' home as an extension of their own because they are family.
DILs, it seems, come with their own expectations. They want MIL to be warm and welcoming. Or maybe they want MIL to help with childcare at a moment's notice.
What are/were your expectations as a DIL? How about as a MIL?
