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Feeling very left out and sad

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crazyH Sun 27-Oct-24 20:34:48

A few days ago, some photos were posted on our family WhatsApp group, of my 2ds.i.l. and their kids at a pantomime. In one of the photos, there was the mother of one d.i.l. I didn’t think too much of it. I guessed they didn’t invite me along because there would have been some walking involved and I’ve got a bad knee.
Today, I left a message for both the girls and asked them to bring the kids over to spend a day with me, because it’s half term. I was rather taken aback when I was told that they were going away together for a few days. I don’t think my sons are going, just the girls and the kids. But, if either of the mums are joining them, I will feel extremely hurt and disappointed. I know their mums are 10 years younger than me and help a lot with school runs etc. But it doesn’t stop me from feeling left out and unwanted. Just thought I’ll offload.
Thanks xx (btw we all live in the same town)

GrannyIvy Fri 08-Nov-24 18:13:59

Not always the case, my daughter’s mother in law told me on our first meeting she did not share her son with anyone and she hasn’t. She made sure we were pushed out on every family occasion and made to feel awkward and now 19 years later my daughter is well and truly in her camp. We tried so hard but have accepted the situation now that somehow whatever we do we can never get it right ….. The supersonic grandma rules 😂🙈

crazyH Sat 09-Nov-24 15:14:27

Thankyou Jasudow Lydie and GrannyIvy

What an awful day - I am feeling ok. My neighbours have put out this magnificent outdoor Xmas tree. I know it’s a bit early but it’s never too early for a bit of Christmas cheer. The daughter said that their elderly, disabled mother wanted to start Xmas early, because she’s not sure she’ll be here next year. She says this every year, so the daughter who lives with her feels obliged to get out all the decorations. 😂 lovely daughter

Allsorts Sat 09-Nov-24 19:49:56

You can’t fight it I just accepted defeat.