Advice on divorce on later life

I was in your position ten years ago. I strongly advise you to use a solicitor, because it's a complicated process when pensions need to be taken into account and the courts will require an actuary to settle this. Your State Pension is yours and will not be taken into account, as is his, but he's more likely to have a much larger private pension than you. This will help provide you with an income in later life, because you could feasibly live another 25 years. We had a lovely family home...BUT now I have a smaller, brighter house that is mine and has given me the freedom to do what I like in or with it. And my children and grandchildren love it. It's not a walk in the park to begin with, but you'll get there and be stronger for it. Don't hang on to the past and your current house is going to be full of uncomfortable memories. Remember- a woman is like a teabag- the more she's in hot water the stronger she gets. I've never been happier and you will be too. Sending you lots of love.

I think you’re right to want to divorce this man; someone with a temper and short fuse who shouts at you is abusive and impossible to live with.
I got divorced in my 50s but luckily there were no issues over finances. I had my own house and he had his (although we lived together) and we just agreed to keep our own assets.
Sadly you will need to consider splitting everything but get yourself a good solicitor who can advise you.
This is exactly why my daughter, who may eventually marry her BF, needs good advice before doing so. There are ways to avoid a 50/50 split if they divorce but I know this isn’t much help to you now.
Hard as it is, you’ll be much happier when you’re rid of your husband, even if you have to downsize. Wishing you all the best.

Love your post Lel1 and glad you’re happy.

Thank you La Crepescule. xxxx

This sort of problem is why I would never marry my 'living together apart'companion.

I am a financially comfortable widow and he has practically nothing. We've been together nearly 7 years

His two divorces and having to support one child who is at uni ( the mother contributes nothing) has also made marriage ( or living together) untenable.

If I met someone now at 67, living together apart would be ideal! I nearly fell into marrying for the second time a couple of years ago and am thankful I didn’t.