Abuse, silent treatment, threats

Lynnie, I really feel for you, and I couldn’t just scroll past as your post is heartbreaking .
There’s excellent advice from others on this thread . Please leave him . You deserve better . Do you have children or siblings ? Or thought abusers often isolate their victims. X

Just read your update. Can you access the joint account? Prepare everything to leave, quietly and quickly. Then access the joint account and remove half of it, or as much as you can via a cash machine. Do you have a bus pass, if so go as far as you can.
There is evidence that abusers become worse at Christmas. Wishing you luck.

Again, thank you all so very much; kindness like this is unimaginable.
I feel overwhelmed.
I will update you, but in the meantime, pack a go bag and source all financials I am able to.
Thank you again xXx

Please don’t disappear from us. Tell us what you’re doing about all this. Let us cheer you on from the sidelines. You’ve got this.

Roughly whereabouts are you geographically Lynnie?

LynnieME

Again, thank you all so very much; kindness like this is unimaginable.
I feel overwhelmed.
I will update you, but in the meantime, pack a go bag and source all financials I am able to.
Thank you again xXx

Fantastic, go girl!

Please please do leave. Make a safety plan with Womans Aid there is advice on their website. Contact your pension provider and DWP and arrange for your money to go into an account in your sole name. Ask banks to put a block on any joint accounts until the financials are resolved. Make sure you have taken all ID documents and important stuff. See a solicitor who specialises in DV as soon as you can

That's wonderful Lynnie, please let us know that you're safe when you're able. I'll be praying for you .

Hi Lynnie ,

I was going to suggest trying to record the abuse -but as it's getting worse - you are in danger .
Don't end up as a statistic .
Shouting is one thing and blows are another.

I've met so many women like you .
My Australian friends found a friend in a coma from a head injury delivered by her husband .
He was devastatingly charming and swore that he was innocent .

Follow the good advice given by the other gransnetters .

And please go .
I'm also praying for you .
Keep in touch with us .

OmG.

LynnieME

Again, thank you all so very much; kindness like this is unimaginable.
I feel overwhelmed.
I will update you, but in the meantime, pack a go bag and source all financials I am able to.
Thank you again xXx

LynnieME In your original post you said you have no friends or family.....you have everyone here.

You deserve better and some peace and happiness....it's not the forthcoming New Year for you, it's the start of a new and better life

Glad to see you getting such support, Lynnie

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Ring the number given and hopefully you will find a way to get out and stay out.
Don’t delay, you’ve waited long enough. You deserve better, you deserve an abuse free life.
Wait until he is not in then ring the number.
Wishing you all the very best 🌺🌺🙏🏾

Hi Lynnie

GN at its best!

I’ve read the whole thread and can’t add anything. Thank you for coming back with updates. Wishing you well

Keep in touch

Please find the strength to walk away while you can you deserve to find peace and happiness and although it might sound impossible and scary the life you are living sounds a lot worse

Great support and advice here Lennie. Do it

Dear God, I hope she has left.

Cheering you on from the sidelines here, too, Lynnie, and so pleased to see that you have taken the excellent advice given.
Your life will be so much better without this man.
Keep us updated and every good wish to you.

Good luck Lynnie. Onwards and upwards!

Dear Lynnie just read your updated post. I'm so glad to hear that you are taking advice from GN posters'. Dig deep, find the strength and courage you need to to get out of this intolerable situation. None of this is your fault. You have been a victim of an abusive man. Take heart, make today the last day of living as a victim. Wishing you all the best for your journey into a new and better life.

Lynnie, if you don't manage to, or can't pluck up courage to leave right now, still come back to this thread so we could help you to make a longer term plan, if that's what's needed.

Lynnie You are not the first person to post a story like yours. The last person to post such a story succeeded in leaving her abusive husband, so it can be done. Her circumstances were not that different to yours.

I have read this before.
Did you post the exact same query a few days ago ?

As well as being immensely selfish this man is a brute who has got used to living his life through his cock. It's crude but 100% true.
The police take this sort of carry-on much more seriously than the days when it was "just a domestic".
You mustn't end up as a statistic in the tabloids.

Lynnie accidentally.ly posted it on another thread a couple of days ago.