Feeling ignored

I think it natural for your d and family using your home to see otter family and friends and don't take it as ignoring you. you wouldn't want them in a hotel, next year you might be invited to theirs.

Babamaman

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Children just do t realise how hurtful they can be

No, so sometimes it's up to us to tell them, so they don't have to go through it when their kids grow up

Except it for what it is. They come at Christmas and spend that day with you. Youngsters always feel their old home is still home when they return. Hence. They revert back to being a child in a way. Going out with their friends. It is exactly what they did when they lived at home. Don't feel hurt.

I think it’s when I read ‘ they have had very little to do with us’ that I sense the problem. We also live in the family home and our son often goes off with his family when they stay here. I realise that they want to see friends who are still local and go to familiar old haunts. But it can feel hurtful. It kind of works both ways. Sometimes we’re pleased they’ve gone off and give us space too and other times we feel a bit used. Perhaps actually instigate an outing in advance and clearly ask them if they’d like you all to go out together for just one outing.

I know several people who simply won’t speak up when something is bothering them. Why? I doubt many of us are mind readers.