Gransnet forums

Religion/spirituality

Has anyone else heard of being "Churched" after the birth of a baby.?

(115 Posts)
Grumpyoldwoman Sun 04-Sept-11 10:53:28

Following the Baptism thread remined me of this.

When I gave birth to our first daughter in 1972 I spent a week in hospital (as you did then) and when she was about 10 days old I proudly set off with my new baby in her gorgeous coachbuilt Silver Cross pram to visit my mother who lived about half a mile away.

My grandma (who I adored) was staying with my Mum and the excitement I felt when I rang the door bell was immense.

Mum made a fuss of baby and as I manouvered the pram into Mum's front porch ..Grandma had a word with Mum.

What transpired was such a shock and certainly dampened my euphoric mood.

Mum said I couldn't ''come in'' beacause I hadn't been ''churched'' shock

Apparently any woman who had just given birth was ''unclean'' until they had seen a vicar to say some ''special prayers'' with you. Therefore they cannot be allowed into someones house !!!

I couldn't believe what I was hearing and went home in floods of tears. My hubby was furious and although very mild mannered really told my Mum and Gran off and no more was ever said.
I just wondered if any of you had come across this barbaric nonsense.

My daughters were horrified when I told them after they had babies shock!!!

Penstemmon Fri 06-Sept-13 14:14:38

lily soneone earlier was saying they were not allowed ina house because they were 'unclean' from childbirth. I know nothing of any of these practices!

merlotgran Fri 06-Sept-13 14:42:16

I was in hospital for 10 days after DD1 was born (best holiday I've ever had) grin

One day a vicar appeared in the ward and asked who would like to be churched? I'd heard of the practice and was not interested in the whys or wherefores but I trotted along with a few others because I had nothing else better to do. It was a simple service and I think the words 'blood' and 'cleansed' were probably mentioned but I can't say I felt any better for it.

A simple thanksgiving for a safe delivery would probably have made more of an impact.

I didn't bother with it after my other children were born.

Galen Fri 06-Sept-13 14:46:16

Can't remember if I was or not!

Elegran Fri 06-Sept-13 16:16:40

I definitely wasn't.

thatbags Fri 06-Sept-13 17:12:10

Heard about it, yes (though it died out long ago). Thought further about it, nope. Celebrated the births of my children with other loved ones, yes, of course.

thatbags Fri 06-Sept-13 17:12:28

thought, not though

Nonu Fri 06-Sept-13 17:15:15

Yeah but it was a thing before your time , Bags !

thatbags Fri 06-Sept-13 17:23:25

That's what I thought, nonu. Ancient history and all that wink

Anniebach Fri 06-Sept-13 17:23:27

Penstemon, yes this was at one time the custom for new mothers not to be accepted into homes unless they had been churched but i think for years this had become a superstition. My mother was churched but never told she couldn't enter homes, she too chose it as a small service of thankfulness , so that's my knowledge of Churching of women in the forties, fifties, sixties and seventies , no mention of not entering homes and no suggestion by the Priests that it should be 'done'

Nonu Fri 06-Sept-13 17:53:51

Quite .

smile

Sonsybesom Thu 07-Nov-13 19:52:50

Interesting, because the unclean symbolism passed me by, I went to church to give thanks for a safe delivery and a healthy baby, it was a happy occasion for me.

Monika Fri 24-Oct-14 13:57:17

I just did a google asking the history of Getting Churched and it lead me here. I married a Geordie from North Shields UK. I'm an aussie, and after the birth of our first child his grandmother who just lived around the corner would not come to visit or we could not go to here house until I had been churched...???? I am not religious even though we got married in Christ Church... a Church of England.. Anglican. To please hubbies family.

So yes I went along to the church and the minister spoke some words over me and mentioned that it had to do with being cleansed after the birth....

STRANGE... that was in North Shields 1976. So some oldies back then still believed in that and I just went along not to make waves...

Nonu Fri 24-Oct-14 14:19:47

This makes me curious , how DO people find these dormant threads ?
I never seem to !
confused

TriciaF Fri 24-Oct-14 14:34:50

If anyone is interested about the origins of this tradition read Leviticus chapter 12.
As Monika says, strange that it has lasted so long.
I can't understand why the waiting period is longer after the birth of a girl, compared with a boy.