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Would you vow to submit to your husband?

(73 Posts)
Greatnan Sun 30-Sep-12 08:40:33

Sydney Anglican church is asking brides to include the word 'submit' in their wedding vows. If I had submitted to my ex, we would have been bankrupt, uninsured, and probably dead from his dangerous driving.

Joan Sun 30-Sep-12 09:30:29

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

This must be from that prissy faced right wing bishop Jenson. He makes my flesh crawl with his smiling smug face and oh so self-righteous views.

What a laugh!!

Bags Sun 30-Sep-12 09:32:04

I wouldn't vow to submit to anyone. Wonder what drives women who do that?

Marelli Sun 30-Sep-12 09:33:39

SUBMIT???? Not on your life!!

whenim64 Sun 30-Sep-12 09:34:31

Aren't some people daft? If it was up to them, women would be subservient and chained to the kitchen. Twits!

baublesbanglesandb Sun 30-Sep-12 09:47:52

Who in their right mind woul voluntarily vow to submit to anyone? I wouldn't vow to 'obey' and that was 37 years ago.

annodomini Sun 30-Sep-12 09:50:39

Never did; never would.

Nelliemoser Sun 30-Sep-12 09:57:47

I know a girl, then 23 who did. She was intelligent and well educated. She belonged to very evangelical wing of the C of E which I think led to this.

To say the least I was astonished.

absentgrana Sun 30-Sep-12 10:03:16


dorsetpennt Sun 30-Sep-12 10:15:02

Submit? Do they also still include obey in the vows? - we might as well as break out the burkas smile

Grannyknot Sun 30-Sep-12 10:35:50

greatnan that's FUNNY! Or maybe not ... But I'm sure there are many women who meekly say they'll submit and then proceed to dominate and terrorise their husbands too.

Ana Sun 30-Sep-12 10:37:53

Good point, Grannyknot! And he could hardly sue....

jeni Sun 30-Sep-12 10:48:19

I promised to obey 45 years ago today. It was my choice.fortunately it was very rarely we disagreed. That wasn't to say we didn't have rows!

Grannyknot Sun 30-Sep-12 10:50:25

jeni flowers.

annodomini Sun 30-Sep-12 10:51:42

jeni flowers.

Butternut Sun 30-Sep-12 10:57:08

jeni smile

jeni Sun 30-Sep-12 11:20:41

Actually rowing with my husband was VERY FRUSTRATING! He always refused to argue and that would make me madder. This would go on until I totally lost it!
He really could be the most infuriating person I knew.
I used to grow things until he learnt that he was safe as long as he didn't duck! I was a lousy shot! Still am! That's why my waste paper basket is always empty but surrounded by various pieces of paper!confused

jeni Sun 30-Sep-12 11:21:12


Ariadne Sun 30-Sep-12 11:22:57

Certainly not!

goldengirl Sun 30-Sep-12 12:10:46

Submit? No way! I never agreed to 'obey' either.

Jeni My DH refuses to argue as well and it's soooooooo frustrating. I jump around and get myself all worked up and then go away and have a good cry - feel a lot better after that!

jeni Sun 30-Sep-12 12:50:38


Sook Sun 30-Sep-12 13:00:33

Definately not! Way back in 1975 I also refused to obey.

nightowl Sun 30-Sep-12 13:23:03

Definitely not. If marriage is not a partnership of equals it's doomed from the start.

Ana Sun 30-Sep-12 13:25:14

I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted either 'submit' or 'obey' in the vows!

soop Sun 30-Sep-12 14:10:06

NO...not matter...simples!