nfkD- all girls turning up at school, however studious, polite, hard-working, etc- are automatically suspended until they agree to remove their scarf. Even if it is brightly coloured with a design, and leaving the face totally free.
At the last French exchange I organised, the French students came first. On the day of arrival, we were told one of the French students had not been able to come due to a family bereavement. We of course included our student in all the activities with the group- she was very disappointed and her family had made lots of preparation for the French student- but of course understood the circumstances.
Then after their return to France, we got an e-mail to say the French family would not be able to receive our student on the return leg, with again, family reasons given. We replied that as she was one of our best students, we expected them to find an alternative family, even a staff one- so that she could join us. We were told that would be very difficult. We wrote again, and again, asking what arrangements had been made- and the answers were always that no solution had been found, and 'unfortunately' she would not be able to come. I was in touch with the older girl who had been placed with our family (she had repeated several years and was older than the rest, and about the same age as our youngest at the time- so I agreed to host her instead of a member of staff as per normal)- as she had asked me to help her find a host family for her as an Au-Pair for the autumn. I told her what was happening- and she knew our lovely student well, as she had tagged along with us on a few occasions. Her mum rang back a couple of minutes later and offered to have her as well as me, to stay at theirs, so she would not be let down, and we were delighted. We e-mailed the FRench school the next morning to give them the good news- and the reply came a couple of hours later. You can't do that- they said. Why not- it's done.
And then the whole story came out- our student was the daughter of a local GP and wore a scarf- and therfore both the French family (no bereavement of course!) and the school thought she was not suitable for an exchange. The family were well integrated and fully aware of the the needs for adaptation to their food and routine during the girl's stay. The school said that if she came to school in France wearing a scarf, she would be turned away. I almost cancelled the whole exchange there and then- but then our families had already made huge efforts when hosting the French kids. I went to see our student's parents, and played the whole thing down- but said it was FRench law and therefore we had to adhere to it. I offered to cancel the whole exchange- but they asked for a couple of hours to consider. They came to visit me after school, and said that they had decided that their daughter would be exempt from wearing the scarf for the duration of the exchange, as she really wanted to go, and they didn't want the exchange to be cancelled for the others. It was such an eye-opening and tragic situation, and the family showed great understanding and open-ness.
Two opposite groups of French staff were adamant that she should not be able to come into school- the far right-wingers, who were openly racist- but more surprisingly all the liberal-left wingers.