I really don't want this to degenerate into yet another 'let's all have a pop at Christians because they choose, in one church, on one occasion, to pray for persecuted Christians in the Middle East. If you attended church regularly, or even irregularly, you would know that different groups of people are prayed for each week. To pray for one group doesn't mean excluding another. But as you presumably believe that prayer, of whatever kind, is pointless, I don't understand why you are troubled by it.
I do wonder why you feel the need to say the churches need to do a better job. I would never preach that atheists need to do a better job. People need to look to their own conscience before they start instructing others.
As for the old canard 'so many wars have religion at their heart'. Wars are about greed, land grabs, power and pillage. Sometimes, they use religion as a hook and a justification. Sometimes it's an ideology qv the Pol Pot massacres, the Rwandan slaughter, the millions who died in the camps and the millions more who died in Staninist Russia. Man's inhumanity to man knows no bounds.
As for a good death. In mediaeval and early modern times that meant putting ones house in order, making peace with anyone who has been unjustly treated, repaying debts and sharing out ones worldly possessions. And making ones peace with God.
I agree the recent idea of a bucket list is distasteful but that's a symptom of our present day materialistic society, and to be regretted, I think.
And, yes, Mishap, I love Miss Read. I wrote to her when I was just a teenager and got such a lovely reply, I think she must have been a serene and contented person.