are children psychic

I am still wearing the dratted compression stockings and have to wear them for 6 weeks so another 2 to go. I have a lady who comes in the put them on several times a week, I can manage to get them off but not back on as it pulls on my incision. I am scared of having a DVT I check each day for swelling and redness, I had the gp check me for pains in my arm as I thought I had one the other week.

Ethel, you will soon be doing normal things again, just takes time.Children say all kinds of stuff, when my oldest DGS was only 2 or 3 he used to repeat lines from Disney films,we thought he was saying things out of his own head as it were, but no, it was all Disney dialogue!

Too late, she has mentioned them!

Oh sherish don't mention DVT!!!!!

Ethelbags1 If you need to wear compression stockings they do do them in black. I have to wear them because I have a DVT. If you don't have one I don't think you would need to wear them.

One thing to tick off your 'Ethel's Worry List'

If they say you need more surgery or chemo or whatever then you'll do as advised I hope!

Wear trousers over the compression stockings as others have said and start building up your strength, at least if it's cooler up there they won't be uncomfortably warm!

Exactly!

If you really have to wear them, wear trousers over them, then they won't show.

UNnecessary!

Glad the family arrived safely ethel!

Surely you don't still need to wear the compression stockings? I thought they were only for when you're either in bed after surgery or if you aren't mobile when you come home.

If you're walking about a bit and not lying in bed all day I would have thought them necessary. But if you've been told you must...

my family arrived safe on holiday. so big sigh of relief.

you are all right of course (rational mood today), I do go out but not in my beloved car yet, I can go to the shops now if I don't carry too much.
I can go to the letter box to post stuff ( thank you cards to well wishers etc), I go into my garden but remember this is Northumberland and very cold, even on what was supposed to be the hottest day of the year. I can only sit for a while unless I wear a coat.

I would love a holiday, see post about holidays, I cant afford one, I get resentful of the charges made to singles and I don't like the sound of group holidays.

I hate to go out as I have to wear those awful white stockings , I look mad with them on. I wish they would make them black or something.

I don't know what I will do if they say I have to have more operations.

Ethel.....what are you achieving with all this worrying? It's going nowhere and only serves to make your life miserable. We cannot change what may or may not happen by worrying about it. It's a pointless waste of time and energy-energy that would be better focussed on getting yourself well again.

My late Sil loved speed-fast cars. speedboats and motorbikes, he rode a powerful bike with an engine bigger than many cars and yes, we did worry at times about him having an accident but not to the extent you seem to. He didn't die in a road accident but in hospital following a PE after surgery, surrounded by trained professionals and all the necessary equipment. You see there's no point in worrying about things we can't control-its the unexpected that bites us on the bum.

Take up some of Elegran's very useful suggestions. Why not book a short holiday for yourself to help with your convalescence?

You sound like Great-aunt Ada Doom in Cold Comfort Farm by Stella Gibbons - and if you have not read that it is a great book, guaranteed to make you laugh and lift your spirits. It has been filmed too, it is on Amazon for £4.99

It also seems to me that you are cut off from all your usual occupations and interests and are getting bored stiff stuck at home, so you are filling the gap with worries and morbid imaginings of disasters.

For goodness sake find some more positive thoughts to take their place - why not imagine that your next appointment brings news that you are going to be OK, and start planning a holiday to celebrate? As it is only in your mind, it doesn't even need to be one that is within your budget - the sky is the limit! (Perhaps it would be useful to imagine that you have a lottery win to fund it.) If you can convince yourself of all the miserable stuff, you can convince yourself of the good possibilities too.

And get outside walking around while the weather is good. You are not bed-bound, I assume? They would not have let you home unless you were mobile. See something other than four walls. Or are you afraid your neighbours might come up to you to say they have heard you have been ill and hope you are OK?

ethel it sounds to me that your GD was told she wasn't going away (on holiday) forever. She probably wanted to take all her toys with her, so then she started saying she was going away forever.

I think all your fears and worries are often at the back of most women's minds when we reach our age, but because you've been ill they're coming to the surface too much and overwhelming you.

When my Dh husband passed away, every time I saw my little Gs he begged me not to die. It did freak me out but I reassured him over and over again that I might die but if I did he should remember me in a happy way.

Children say the strangest things and I agree with the others that "forever" in a child's mind just means for a long time.

ethelbags1 As Mishap says I too would recommend that you talk to your GP. It is very unusual for someone to be as negative and untrusting ( other than of the so called psychic ).

We all worry to some extent about our friends and family but I really do think you need help.

There are only two kinds of 'psychic' - the charlatan and the deluded.

I am surprised at you having such trust in psychics, ethel It is not like you to blindly believe someone giving you information plucked out of nowhere - you have been so doubtful about the motives of so many people around you, and the things you have been told about things in this world.

etheltbags it really wouldn't be hard for any 'psychic', doing a reading for a woman of a certain age (and grandmother to boot), to take a stab at her going to hospital at some future time for something 'down below'. In fact, a fairly safe bet I'd say.
Children say all sorts of things. I remember my DD at 4 years old suddenly bursting into tears and blurting out "why does (xyz) have to die?!" She appeared terribly distressed. The person she was referring to was her newly born cousin, whom she had yet to meet. This outburst took place while my mother and I were talking and we were really taken aback and quite alarmed, obviously. But the cousin is still here, married with a little girl of her own, perfectly healthy. My DD probably overheard our conversation, mishearing something one of us said, and thought we were talking about the baby dying. Perhaps we'd said crying, I don't know. There was absolutely nothing psychic about it at all.
Please try not to worry. Someone once said to me "there's no point in worrying, because the things you worry about almost certainly won't happen. Instead, other problems will arise, problems you would never in a million years have thought of."

I once "read " tea leaves for someone , I did it for a laugh . She told me it all came true , I was scared , but it turned out she was turning the joke against me and nothing had happened ,

the psychic told me I would go to hospital for treatment for something 'down below' but I had a small op for womens things 4 years ago so I thought she meant that. she also told me I had something that was incurable but treatable but this was about 8 years ago.

Maybe someone has said to her that they are not going away for ever when she was upset about them leaving? Children pick up on all sorts of phrases and play around with them.

I suspect that if you don't have anything worth worrying about, you worry about just anything at all.

For your £40, did the psychic tell you that you were going to be having a serious cancer operation? If not, they weren't very good, were they? If they did - well, one in three of the population will have cancer at some point in their lives, so they have one chance in three of being right, and if they had been wrong, you would not have remembered the prediction. We remember the things that match the forecast, not the things that were miles out.

Why did you pay for a session (?) if you believe that you're psychic yourself, ethel?

ethel - your anxiety is ruling every aspect of your life - it might help to discuss it with your GP. I know you might not want drugs, but I can tell you from the experience of a close relative, that it can transform your life. It would be so good if you could feel more in control, and rid of this terrible sense of foreboding.