Wow, grannyactivist, what a great response! It was the narrow, prescriptive views (admittedly of individuals, often hidden behind a façade of "holiness") and an ensuing church split that eventually drove me from what I think of as "churchianity" about eight years ago, rapidly followed by the loss of meaning of faith in general. I've been working through it ever since and more or less at a place of acceptance and peace now.
Phoenix, I'm so sorry to read of the loss of your son, and of your dreadful experience afterwards.
Alexa, thank you for posting. It caught my eye in the "discussions of the day box". I will follow with interest. Hoping that it won't turn into one of those "light the touch paper and stand back" threads ?