Tarot reading has worried me

Only one Tarot reader has ever said what came true in my lifetime. Eric in Salem asked who Charlie was? I was coming into money, it would take time. My daughter was told the same about Charlie and money plus she was very close to her Dad. She after me, so knew Charlie was going to be her firstborn's name, she found her Dad, 2 months later having passed. I was executor of his will which acculmalated 8 months later. She and her sister could start on the Property ladder.
Still waiting for my man to come into my life and a second wedding ring ?

notanan2 has put it well. People usually don't go to tarot readers when things are going well in their lives so they start of speaking sympathetically.
What is wrong will either be work or home so they have a 50% chance of being right and people tend to think a second guess is them being right.
Then, what is the most common problem with work, the boss. What it the most common problem with bosses? They are people who won't leave you alone to get on with the job or people who don't give you the help you need. An open question which make it look as if they have read the right answer.
The same is true of hair colour. Aside from a few areas, red hair is rare so it is going to be blonde or brunette.
No one wants to believe that they have been read, but you have.
It was disgraceful of him to give you the reading about the future that he did as it could push you to behave in a way that would make it true. He is a toxic person that you need to find a way to wean yourself off.
Eglantine has given good advice but you need to relax if you can as stress makes people make mistakes - and binning the tarot is part of that.

Saggi, I don't see any posts from Mumbo Jumbo?

When I was being picked on at work I started making timed and dated notes, then told a friend of the bully what I was doing. Miraculously he started just saying the absolute minimum to me.

Mumbo Jumbo.....for goodness sake grow up.

Include your personal email as a blind copy in emails you send and forward any important emails to your personal address in case there is a time you cannot access your work email. Good luck

I had my tarot cards read for a laugh with some friends.
I was told I was getting a big promotion at work as I was so good at my job——I am 75 been retired for 11 years lol
my next card said sadly I would never have any children—-
I have three children 7 grand children 1 great granddaughter.
the third card said sadly I would lose my dearest dad before the end of the year—— my dad died in 1990.
All my friends got the same sort of things not one of us got anything that could ever come truth.
The reason he was so wrong was not one of us gave any indication the he was on the right track no facial movements or anything.It was quite hard but
we had agreed not to.
One of the reasons we went beside the laugh was another of our friends had been and come home terrified of what he had told so we thought the only way to carm
her down was to expose him for what he was a charlatan.
You will be pleased to known our friend is fine now she had a good laugh at how very very wrong he had been about all our cards.He has been doing it for years and obviously made a good living.

If you want Tarot cards, buy a pack and learn how to use them. Same as Angel cards, rune stones and all the rest, they are guides (or a hobby). Best to deal with what the problem actually is ie you boss.

Three things: persuade yourself to stop having tarot readings taken. Everything others here have told you about any kind of fortune telling is true.

Believe your manager when he says it takes time to get to know the job and that he is reasonably satisfied with your progress.

Have a word with your HR about what you perceive as bullying from the manager. She should be able and willing to help you. If things don't improve start looking for another job.

Keep a record of difficult interactions with manager. Can you go to their manager and say you want / need training but it is not being supported.
Any future issues over job you will need evidence - dates / times / conversation, / keep any email conversations to support a bullying claim

I agree wholly with Eglantine 21 keep records but in the meantime stay away from tarot card readers ,I can imagine it is worrying if you feel you could lose your job but this tarot reader is not helping matters just have faith in yourself and your abilities BIG HUG to you

Shandy3. Yes, I would say I have experienced this, but it was a subtle things and it was hard at the time, when I was in a bad state, to put my finger on how that counsellor was pushing me to see things in a particular way when I felt that she hadn’t grasped the facts. I just knew that I felt very uneasy and so stopped going and found someone else who was much more supportive and really listened. Much later I did counselling training as part of another job and saw that, however well trained and supervised, there are some counsellors who still ‘tell’ the client. Just saying.... follow your gut reaction.

I agree with Nancat:

" Tarot is Guidance, not Destiny. You are shown the pitfalls ahead so that you can take action to avoid them."

You can't, you need to take this as advice and think of ways of avoiding a situation. If you have a bullying HR manager and can prove this then you need to take action i.e. record all incidents so you have ammunition to fight back.

I've googled your cards and yes they can be construed as 'bad cards' but you need to get the context right. All can be seen as doom and gloom but there can be positives to this. For peace of mind I would stop dabbling with these and work on being positive in yourself, try to build your confidence and find an ally at work. Ask for training and don't let that awful man get to you. You would not have been given the step up if you were not capable so take comfort in that. It may be that HE is the one facing redundancy or trying to make himself look good. As others have said keep taking notes and try to stay strong. Good luck xx

What a selfish, exploitative, blood sucker. Don't go there. What you need is moral support. This may help, or have a Google yourself. Life is going to be better! www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/confidence.html

Cathieb
If you have ever experienced a counsellor who is manipulative report them!
Counsellors should not be manipulative. They should be empathic and work with you. If you've not experienced it personally yourself it's an unfair thing to suggest.

Just had a very quick read and there seems to be lots of good suggestions to work with.

However, have you considered looking for a new job as well as putting into practice some of the suggestions that have been offered.

IF - if I have got the right of things you really are suffering from a bullying manager with HR 's backing.

If that is your working reality you are going to be up against changing the company culture. You won't do that.

Who wants to take on that battle as well as trying to do their job and have a life outside work.

Tarot cards or no Tarot cards if your working situation is so bad the company and it's culture is not a good fit for you.

No amount of counselling, Assertiveness Training or confidence boosting will fix the attitudes and beliefs of the a manager or HR.

So the issue is not about the Tarot cards, the reader or your belief in them.

The real issue is IS the job you have now the right job for you/ or is it the right company for you to be working at.

I understand you don't really want to change jobs but may be that is the healthiest, most self valuing thing you can do.

Wishing you the best possible outcome.

Everyone has rights not to be dismissed without good cause, no matter how long you've been working!
Word a 'nice' email (so you have a paper trail!) Asking for the training you feel you need to be able to do your job to the best if your ability. Stop giving them control over how this pans out, it's your job, your life take control back, when you do you'll find you become more confident by the day.
Take a deep breath and start today, leave it any longer and it's playing into their hands!
Good luck

Whatever you may think about tarot card reading and fortune telling this experience seems to have brought to the surface some real issues with your work. As others have said, you can now choose to take steps to deal with the situation and gain some control. Don’t be scared! Long ago I dabbled with reading tarot cards myself and it is very extraordinary how you can ‘see’ things in people that they don’t tell you. It was uncanny, I didn’t like it and I stopped doing it. It is impossible to explain unless you’ve experienced it. Yes, people are vulnerable and there are charlatans around, but also be careful of counsellors and other professionals who may be manipulative and think they have the power to ‘tell your fortune’ in a different way!

Well I'm going to buck the trend here. I have tarot cards. I read them for myself and know that if you are honest they tell you true.
The other thing I know is that I had a probation being Deputy Manager for someone who did not want me to be there at all. This manager was supposed to train me to the specifics, but did nothing but undermine me, make my life a misery and destroy my self confidence. I did not pass the probation (it was a year and I made it to 11 months). The sheer relief of not being near this horrible person was like a weight from my shoulders. My life went into a nose dive for a while - but the eventual outcome has been SO much better that it was not a disaster in the end, but a complete change of direction with a happier life altogether than I'd been striving to maintain.
Wishing you well, however things turn out needamum.

I’d set your intention to be successful in this job. Make some goals around the job. Be very specific. Build rapport with your boss and HR and take it from there...
check out rapport building skills online very easy to do

Tarot reading is never a good idea and opens up a person to the demonic.
Jesus told his disciples to not worry about the future and to trust in God.
Using tarot cards can also attract the attention of various demons and evil spirits.
Try to have more confidence in yourself and more positive thoughts - believe in yourself.

As others have said rise above it, keep working as well as you have been and think about leaving Tarot etc behind you.
A prayer to St Michael would be my first choice.
Take care and don't worry.

When you are feeling vulnerable and lacking confidence people like this Tarot reader have a field day; GoldenAge has put this very well about your being wiser to spend your money on having some counselling and confidence boosting - this will do so much more for you than listening to the purveyor of doom and gloom who is upsetting your life. Take heart - you can help yourself so much and will feel more confident for it, and then the work concerns will fall into perspective. A lot of good advice on here to deal with the bullly too. I had this kind of situation once working in a big office; when we were sitting in the lunch room with the bully present and straining to listen to everyone's conversations I said quite loudly to a colleague that I had always noticed people promoted beyond their capabilities usually became aggressive with others. She took it up and we had a general discussion about bullies being cowards, how it was easier to get birds out of trees by charm rather than throwing a brick at them - a lot of platitudes but we both felt it had gone home and things did improve.