Visitation Dreams, have any of you experienced one?

That's very sad, Esmay.
Are you able to steer your dreams, at all?
Do you think you would be able to explain to her in your dream?

Yes I have many , one with my two cavalier king Charles dogs , I woke to feel and see them sitting on my chest , they were real , I smelt them , snuggled them , they were with me for maybe 25 seconds then evaporated . This was 17 years ago I still remember. I have many , I know the difference between a dream and a visitation dream . The memory is forever

I dream about childhood friends , who died and adult friends ,who've passed since .

In my dreams , my grandma says I've been here all the time
I'm not really dead .
We are always in an incredible garden - like me , she loved plants .She wears a favourite royal blue dress . Her face is calm and smiling .
It's so vivid .

I think that the night that she takes my hand - I'll pass .

I should find her presence comforting and reassuring , but I remember just how overcome with pain and grief I was when she died and how much I miss her .
She was a wonderful person and frankly , life with my crazy parents must have been intolerable .
I suppose that I feel guilty that I wasn't there for her during her last few years .
But she pushed people away ...

If it’s disturbing and upsetting then it’s a dream, where your mind is trying to work something out or come to terms with something.

A visitation in my experience is much more “real” that that and almost always brings comfort, reassurance and understanding.
It often involves a physical manifestation too of being held or touched.

Your grandmother would never want you to be troubled or upset by her presence.

Is it your grandmother you dream of?

I have these frequently .

But I wonder if it's because I long for people that I've lost .

I really miss my grandmother .She looked after me from babyhood until I left home .
She provided me with love and stability .
My parents should never have married each other and they should not have had a child .

I find these dreams disturbing and upsetting .

My sister told me of a visitation dream she once had. There was a knock on the door and when she answered it, there was my mum and 2 young ladies with her. They were all dressed in white.

My sister asked my mum ‘who are the two young ladies with you’ and she said ‘They are your sisters’ and she mentioned their names, the names of her 2 daughters who passed away when they were toddlers.

I once dreamt of my dad and eldest brother. They were sitting on a blue sofa together and when they saw me, they stood up and greeted me and were so very pleased to see me.

Yes, I have had comforting dreams although none of them as far as I remember involved dead people.

Not really a visitation dream but one that always sticks in my mind.
Many years ago I dreamt of a knock on the door. When I answered it both my children were standing there. By then they were adults but in the dream they were children. My daughter was wearing a little pink skirt that she had as a child. I brought them in and cooked them a meal, then we went and played in the local park. I felt so happy and asked them if they would stay another day.
My son said but we can't mum, I have to return to my Ship. (he was in the navy) and sister has to go back to work. I said oh please can we do this again. They said, yes they would return but they never did.
That dream sticks in my mind as if it was real.

When my children were growing up we had a small pet dog who slept in my room. The last thing he did every night was come to my side of the bed to check I was there and I would put an arm out and pat him, he then happily went to his own bed in the corner. Fast forward a decade and both adult children were visiting together, very unusual as they live on separate continents, the first night we went to bed I was dropping off to sleep when I felt two little paws on the bed, I actually put my hand out to pat him. Now I'm a cynic and in my sensible moments I'm sure I was thinking "everyone is home" but in my fanciful moments I know I felt those two little paws.

MissA

It was indeed lovely MissAdventure. Like you, I would describe myself as cynical and I never expected to experience anything like that. I hope some night you’ll have a lovely dream about your daughter ?

Not silly at all.

That would do for me.
What a lovely thing to happen!

I had an experience a few weeks after my lovely Dad died 9 years ago. Any time I visited my 90 year old dad he insisted on helping me on with my jacket when I was leaving ( I had a very painful frozen shoulder) He’d fetch my jacket , stand behind me and pull it up onto my shoulders and pat me on both shoulders.

I have a relative with a severe learning disability who idolised my dad. He tried to copy a lot of my dad’s behaviour and mannerisms. After my dad died he began jumping up if he saw me putting my jacket on and insist he was helping like uncle D. Tbh he tried his best but he wasn’t able to do it and just pulled on my jacket without actually lifting it upwards and I’d thank him and say well done.

One day we were going out and I was putting on my jacket and I felt it being lifted up onto my shoulders and then a tap just like dad used to do. I thought John has finally got the knack. I turned round to say thank you and well done John. But he was in the livingroom watching the end of his tv programme and there was just the two of us at home.

Am I silly to think my Dad came back for a final visit and a reassuring tap on my shoulders?

I believe those we have loved are still with us, unseen.

Shinamae, I hope you get one some day.???

I would so like a visit from my dad…?

Ah, thank you.
We had talked about the fact that I am cynical, so I must keep an open mind, so I do try to, but she is ever present in my mind, anyway.

Misadventure, please don't give up hope and don't try to ' invite' a visitation from your dear girl. Trust that it will happen when it happens. Remember her daily, I'm sure you do, focusing on happy memories from better times.

I would never have believed in this if I hadn't had a lovely dream about my dear Dad, many years after he died. I remember it being unlike any dream I'd ever had, and I awoke smiling, feeling comforted and yes, 'visited'.

I am so sorry for your loss. ???

I absolutely long for a dream, or a sense of my girl, and we had talked about her "giving me a sign", but nothing, not at all, has ever happened.

Not even one dream.

Yes but only once. Someone I loved very much, held out his hand and I grasped it.

Yes, 3 times in my life and they are totally different from usual dreams. I won't go into detail but you would have had to experience it to understand the difference.

My mother was very superstitious.
We, her close family were quietly amused, in the kindess possible way, when mum died on Friday the 13th
As the thirteenth anniversary of her death approached I had a very clear dream. Mum and I were walking down a road. Mum's arm was round me as we walked. I heard her say 'You don't need to worry about me, I'm alright'. It was a very comforting dream, so much so that I rang my siblings to tell them.

Yes, and the memory of it will always stay with me.