Movedalot, thank you for your thoughts, but the idea that somebody who is heavily addicted to opiates will just 'come back into the fold' is quite bizarre. She is 47, not a 17-year old child having a rebellious phase.
And you are wrong - I didn't expect cruel and insensitive posts, no matter how much certain people dislike me.
I see you did not think my pm was necessary - but was it nasty? Or just a plea from one mother to another for a little compassion? I see you accepted jingle's assertion that it was nasty without knowing what it contained. Could you be slightly biased?
I did not invite anybody to judge me as a mother. I know that I have devoted years and most of my income to helping my daughter. I don't claim to have been perfect but I certainly have done nothing to deserve the way my daughter has treated me. I will always love her unconditionally, and blame the drugs for her paranoid delusions.
Her father and I did share all our basic values and she was brought up to be loving , kind and honest. It is no guarantee of what will happen to your children in adulthood. I am very happy for those of you who posted what wonderful relationships you have with your children - long may they continue.