What happened

Well, I thought it was a good general discussion until it was made personal. That was a shame. It was an opportunity to talk about advice -v- sympathy, something I've dithered about myself. Now I'm inclined to say nothing unless I agree with the consensus which I don't think is very helpful.

It's interesting though mollie, that sometimes there will be four or five posts all agreeing with each other, and then someone bravely disagrees and another five people all agree with the disagree-er, if you see what I mean.
Not thinking of any specific thread or posters, just a general comment.

That's true, I've seen that happen myself...

It's all getting to be rather frustrating.

I don't see why we need so much censorship.

It's just a forum and we can leave threads anytime we want.

As for the PMing, well makes GN a confusing place to be because you never know what is going on in secrecy between people who are in cahoots.

I made that comment myself on another, smaller forum and the next day I was barred! Made me feel like a radical for a while, then cross at the unfairness of it all. I just want a decent discussion, a bit of chat, nothing nasty or unpleasant. I wouldn't dream of reporting anyone for anything, not even the spammers...

At one time there was a bit of a flood of advertising posts (spam) which I and others reported. They were all deleted. I do think that kind of reporting is useful. GN could get very overcrowded with rubbish if spam wasn't got rid of.

Agree with that Bags but not all the secrecy.

Mmm. I guess we weren't very secretive about reporting those posts. But I seem to remember that HQ advised us not to post on the thread that we had reported it if we had reported a nasty post by another GN-er. I sort of understand that as it could lead to more unpleasantness.

Reporting advertising is fine. That is not what we are talking about. We are talking about reporting other GN posters which is quite different.

Snitching on others in secret is bound to create an unhealthy atmosphere in any organisation, GN being no exception. Already we are wondering who is doing the reporting. It can only get worse.

I suggest that people who report posts say they have done so to stop suspicion and speculation. We could have a special 'I have reported...' thread.

Your suggestion is fine by me, petallus, but there will always be people who don't want to and won't say, just like now with jingle's request for advice thread.

A bit of wondering never did anyone any harm. We'll get over it.

I was one of the contributors to the thread in question, and have received no communication from GNHQ, either about my posts or the deletion of the thread. I can only assume that if there was a complaint, GNHQ decided to act before the argument escalated.

I'm surprised this thread is still here, as it's obviously a thread about a thread!

I don't understand this 'thread about a thread' issue particularly as in this case the original thread doesn't exist. What does it actually mean in general use?

It's apparently against Gransnet rules to start a thread discussing another thread - whether that thread has been deleted or not.

Never came across that before...what's the problem with discussing a thread? Sorry if I'm being dense...

That's the second time, at least, I have seen someone using the word "snitching". It's an open forum so complaining about someone's post on the grounds that it contravenes gransnet rules hardly constitutes snitching. (If it doesn't contravene the rules, then GNHQ won't delete it.) Personal abuse contravenes gransnet rules. If someone chooses to report such a post, they are fully entitled to do so.

And the member who made such a post will be informed, by GNHQ, that their post has been reported, and the reason for its deletion given.

So far, protests about using private messages and the report button have been discussed. Both are facilities provided by Gransnet, right next to our posts for ease of use. There's only the comments box left! Anyone want to protest about that, too?

Reporting posts for GNHQ to moderate is fairer than starting fights on here. I'm fed up of the constant jockeying for position, and personal jibes that only some people understand and the rest of us are left wondering what's going on. It's excluding and it shows the person doing it in a bad light.

Think I'll have a rest from Gransnet for a week or so............peace!

I agree, especially when it leads to people actually leaving GN.

when Don't stay away too long!

Good idea when you know you just want to watch tennis!

So is it ok to just mention something that happened on another thread? Such as mentioning the person who felt they had to leave GN or is that a delectable offence?

Why don't you just try it, aka, and see what happens? Nothing like experimenting for discovering stuff you don't know.

Gosh you sound just like my late mother Bags...'just try it and see what happens' was one of her favourite threats utterances.

Not that I expect you are anything like her of course Bags just a long buried memory surfaced then.