What happened

aka, it was a friendly suggestion. I'm wondering the same things as you are. I really do think we just have to experiment with stuff like that. What works one day might not work another day though. Hey ho.

Is there anything more to be gained from this navel-gazing thread? It's perfectly clear that whoever reported the thread isn't going to tell us, and just for the record, it wasn't me - this time...

That's my theory out of the window then.

I just think the people who report some of the posts need to lighten up just a little bit. And get a sense of what normally goes on between two particular posters and how each of them is likely to react. I don't think anyone on here ventures into the realms of real unkindness to another poster.

And, of course, you do have to remember that to the site owners Gransnet is simply a business like any other. I don't for one moment believe that this is for the love and support of grannies everywhere! It's to make money! And why not?! #makestheworldgoround

Well said, jings.

Except, I do think it's to support grannies everywhere.

I think too you have to remember that people are joining and leaving all the time, for all kinds of reasons, and some are even being asked to leave, too (not that they are likely to complain online about that, they would just vanish suddenly)

I took a look at the rules and the idea is not to rehash the stuff that was initially deleted in an earlier thread, not to disuade you talking innocently about another thread...

The circumstances for deleting or requesting the deletion of a thread are interesting...didn't think they actually applied in this case but there you go...

And Bags, if this site is to support grannies (and grandpas I presume?) why are single people without children joining? What do they get out of it?

Same as the grannies, I guess, mollie. I, and probably Jingle too, was using the term "grannies" loosely enough to cover grandads and other people old enough to be grandparents but not, plus any other interested bods. The forums can be (and often are) supportive.

Then there's web chats, competitions, etc.

Fair enough...I must stop taking people literally!

I'm not sure Gransnet in itself is there to support 'grannies' it is a vehicle for us to support each other .......or not, as the case may be.

Oh yes! The competitions.

I guess it has got charity status now it has linked up with AgeUk. But that could be for tax purposes.

Still stand by "it's just a business". To them that is.

Geraldine will be on in a minute telling me it's just not so!

What's going on? I nip away to the Faroe Islands for a few minutes and threads start vanishing!
Jingle what have you been doing while my back's turned?
Can somebody fill me in when I return on Sunday. Wifi on board is ridiculously expensive. You can't Skype either and it's dgd's second birthday tomorrow
Love to you all!

Galen I cannot enlighten you. Know what...it's kind of comforting to be unsavvy I like it when we all get along just fine, and I also like it when we have short-lived feather-ruffling interludes. Sooner or later we sort ourselves out. So, what's the problem? There ain't one!

AKA , if there is one thing I love it is a delectable offence , bring it on. Laugh !

Hope you are having a lovely cruise Galen.

Re thread - it's not my fault.

Anyone for a coffee and a buttery shortbread...

jings You are a cross between a wee minx and an angel. Stay that way...

You will soon catch up on dgs's birthday. Give a second one when you see her.

soop !

I shall shortly take my seat for the Andy match. Mr soop has bought me a dark choc Magnum. Backside is beginning to spread [just a tad] but still cannot face putting my backside on the saddle of the exercise bike.

I thought that ana thread about a thread, not allowed.

when

"I'm fed up of the constant jockeying for position, and personal jibes that only some people understand and the rest of us are left wondering what's going on. It's excluding and it shows the person doing it in a bad light."

I do so agree with you. I often wonder what has happened that I am missing out on. I'm not sure discussing the contents of a PM is a good thing to do. It is after all private. The content might be misquoted, we don't know what happened to cause it, we only in fact get one side of the story. Not helpful imo.

While we are on the subject of what we are 'fed up' about, I find it irritating when someone jumps to a conclusion about one of us which bears no relationship to the actual post. It always seems to me that the person doing that is trying to make the person they are doing it too appear in a bad light. Not very adult behaviour imo