Arguments attract aggressors.

Shall we have an answer jeannie?

Ana that is such a good observation! (Sat 06-Jun-15 23:16:57)

Are there really people doing this? Could it not simply be that people see the arguments and want to add something to them and they don't usually post because they find the threads boring. Otherwise we may have a very strange phenomena-not "Reds under the bed," but "Grans under the net"

So far. I am not so sure the later part is going to.

Yes. My life turned out almost exactly as I was expecting.

Did your life turn out how you were expecting, soon? Are you in that category?
Just asking.

And some people carry around huge sadness. Some peoples' lives dont turn out how they were expecting.

jeanie99 may be venting.

People in life who may not speak nicely all the time, are actually perfectly capable of doing so.
So I assume it feeds something inside themselves when they choose not to speak nicely.
Stress can cause it. And anger from decades ago. It is a very sad situation for them.

I too am so glad that you are so not interested in this type of communication and wouldn't get involved that you felt obliged to get involved! and glad you didn't waste your time either

You were bothered enough to bring this thread back up again though, jeanie99. For what purpose?

I have noticed on some posts throughout that people can be very nasty to each other.

I don't bother to note who these people are because I am not interested in this type of communication and wouldn't get involved it would be a complete waste of my time.

It's a very useful tip, Anya, better learned late than never, eh?

Exactly Ana well worked out!

So this time I was less subtle and ......

All unkind remarks are wrong behaviour. People should actually try their best not to do them.

I do try my best, honestly soon
As they used to say to me at school: 'Your best is just not good enough'
(can't do any better though can I, or it wouldn't be my best!)


Repeats:
Every Day in Every Way I'm Getting Better and Better
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rose!

But actually it was quite a clever way to ensure that no fury was forthcoming.

it would have meant some posters exposing themselves
anya I am in

This is too much for someone of my tender years

Goodness, I never thought my post a propos of a couple of comments from -Magpie would rank as unpleasantness!! I was merely referring to the 2 occasions when Gransnetters were accused of having " sad lives" by the poster in question. Now that was what I call "unpleasantness", that along with the assumption that we were all suffering from Alzheimer's. Unpleasant AND uncalled for.
So Anya don't shoot me down in flames please. Hey, anything to brighten up a sad life.

Not sure how to answer that jingl. I row with my husband from time to time. Does that count?

Or have they? Come on. 'fess up. When did you last think something evil wicked slightly non Christian?

No it's not! It's - human nature.

Alright for you missis. An impure thought has obviously never entered your brain.

All unkind remarks are wrong behaviour. People should actually try their best not to do them.
Saying human nature, is a cop out.

Oh! It's human nature to respond in kind. We're not saints.

I'm surprised people can remember past small wrongs experienced on here. Better memory than me.

Me too loopylou. I was once "told off", not long after I joined the site. I almost went away intending not to come back. I decided to stay after thinking it through and coming to the conclusion that I might not have been very clear in my post. I always know what I want to say, but sometimes it doesn't come across well. Now I make sure that what I do say will not cause anyone offense.

You mean I don't own the site ?

Anya You originally said "Most of the real nastiness comes from a small band of long term posters who think they own the site".

To which, Magpie responded:

" Anya, well said. Sad lives that's all I can think of".

Given the unpleasantness of both those comments, I thought Soutra's rather witty riposte was appropriate.