Bez, that member is welcome to change her username if her anonymity is threatened - we're always happy to do so if that is a genuine concern.
Grannyknot, sorry you feel that way (and agree the search function could be better
). An open page on here really isn't that much different than an open page on Facebook though, except the FB post only shows a small 'teaser' of what the thread is about - the end result is exactly the same and most people who interact with our page will be gransnetters or followers of the site anyway. Whether someone has found a thread through Google, or clicked a link on Facebook, the fact remains that they will see a comment made by an anonymous (thanks to their username) poster.
It's also worth mentioning that a lot of visitors do find us while simply Googling other things. Certain key words will bring up threads from the site without even mentioning Gransnet, so it's always worth thinking about whether you're happy for your post to go on an open forum - because it really is open.
Obviously we'd never start promoting a sensitive thread on other platforms, we are careful about that, but part of being a forum is that we want people to come and visit us and join in the discussions. Keeping them hush hush wouldn't work for the type of site that we are.
Also, I just want to reiterate that Gransnet and Facebook are not technically linked. Every post that appears on FB is chosen by us and only a link to the thread, plus an illustrative quote is shown. Even if you've liked our FB page, there's still no connection anyone could make between your GN and FB account unless you've used your real name on both sites, and had commented or liked that FB post. It's not advisable to use your real name on an open forum if you are concerned about anonymity - but then some people aren't particularly bothered, it's very much a personal choice.
If anyone has used their real name as their username and wants to change, just get in touch.