Rules for GN cafe

Ok so firstly none of the 'blame' being talked about has been directed at Soop in fact as I stated in my first post I find this use of the space she has set up as somewhere for people to post who simply want a chat, as not only distasteful, but really disrespectful.
But what really disgusts me is when someone who has used that space to criticise and moan and say things about someone that she was obviously unable to say on another thread, then has the nerve to say that soops kitchen has been attacked. FFS it's people who rush in there make really personal and insulting remarks who are really showing contempt. And I still don't understand why the rest of the nice posters didn't simply report the post or ignore it, but joined in like the greek chorus.

So it's not for going into to say negative things about other threads.

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AGAIN! ?

In answer to the queries about what a non-judgmental space looks like, here is soop's description of what the Soop Kitchen is for (the Gransnet Cafe has nothing to do with SK, or it didn't until HQ out the Kitchen in it):

The café isn't the kitchen. The kitchen isn't the café. It is a forum for light hearted banter/ sharing of worries/celebrating positives and wishing well to those who need to know that they matter.

I have never been in Soops Kitchen, I confess I thought it was for cookery ?

I can only agree. Yesterday in particular was a day I would never like to see repeated on GN.
I thought the attack on Soop's Kitchen cowardly and underhand and have only contempt for those who sought to destroy the caring, supportive community we have all benefited from.
It was shameful.

There is a poison seeping into many threads, reading them yesterday I did feel sick, may I say ? Don't be driven off the forum , there seems a need to bully and hurt, so, don't feed the need.

Think about a wasp wizzing around , the more we flap it away the more it whizzes and becomes nastier. ?

There are lovely people here , X

Well said Baggs, in both your posts today.

Don't you dare leave Grey !!

IF anything you said had been against GN policy - I think it would have been deleted by now and you would have had your wrists slapped. AND even if that had been the case, looking at some of the posts on this thread you would have been deleted in good company!

Don't be daft, gd, as baggs says you didn't start this thread. I also am sorry soop is ruffled, but it isn't your fault. Exactly, downsized life is such that confrontation in the virtual world is the last thing many of us want, it seems perfectly fine to me to care for ourselves as best we can by withdrawing from virtual conflict.

You didn't start this thread, gd. You are not to blame.

Ok. It's fairly obvious that it's me that started all this off. I didn't name anyone. I just said what someone else on the London Fire thread said yesterday but I said it in the wrong place and they didn't. I expressed my regret. I will fall on my sword and leave Gransnet, so that the dogs can have their day.

Hear, hear Baggs. I'm sorry to hear soop is ruffled. She does not deserve criticism and is one of the kindest, most generous and special people I know.

Some of us have had enough in RL to want to get into confrontations with anyone, especially total strangers on a public forum. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me because I don't want to read certain threads. Life is too short and with all the hatred going on in the world, it is a relief to find that there are kind, loving people as well. Long live Soop's Kitchen ?❤️???????

Anyone who is blaming soop for anything but kindness on Gransnet can only be doing it out of jealousy. They resent the fact that she is universally liked by all but those confirmed in permanent sourness. She logged out early yesterday afternoon because she was so "ruffled". I told her to have a pleasant evening and to leave the sillies to stew in their own sour juice.

It's more than silliness though; it's mean-mindedness. It was perfectly clear right at the start that the Soop Kitchen was a retreat from argy-bargy for soop herself and anyone who wanted to join her in a restful, unruffling place. If it's not what you're looking for on Gransnet (and most of the time, it's not a place where I wish to leave comments, though I often dip in to have a wee read), then there are plenty of other threads, and you can make more yourself. Leave soop and her kitchen alone. Niggling in a sour and jealous way about it is bullying in its effect.

Are you insinuating I am vertically challenged? I am standing up I'll have you know.

Actually trisher it makes it much worse and even spiteful.( but you know this)

No Names aren't mentioned Elegran but the people involved make it fairly obvious who is being discussed. Does that make it better? I don't think so.

Apologies NanaandGrampy it's MawBroon who does that.

Ok you "Hunker down" seems much the same to me.

But I thought we are not supposed to name anyone? That was what someone at the start was saying, that the "rules" had been broken by naming someone or some group?

Whatever. I must get my shoes on and get off out.

I do try Rigby !

Ps Trisher I have never sneaked away in my life ??

Actually NandG there's a lot going on in the world of politics today but as they are such nasty nasty threads, best to keep away from them eh?

I like to read things from time to time even. if I don't want to post on them. Actually it's Soop and GN you should be apologising to. I don't suppose she expected anyone to use the thread to unload their feelings about other posters. I don't know her, don't want to post on her thread but I respect her far more than some of the people using her thread for their own ends.

"Shining hour"!!

Well always glad to help someone improve the shiny GN hour.
Three whole pages, such dedication to,proving a point....