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Rigby46 Fri 16-Jun-17 09:00:24

HQ - can you clarify a point over which there is some current disagreement please You say that GN cafe is meant to be non- judgemental. Does this only mean non-judgemental re named individuals? if so, under the guidance is it fine to go on and pass judgement( negative of course) about groups of posters on the political ( or any other threads) so long as names aren't mentioned because this counts as being non judgemental?

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 17:47:53

Sometimes all kitchens need a good clear out and clean up.

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 17:46:17

I don't mind anyone 'turning' Elegran and posting a spirited defence is always welcome. It's the sneaking away and posting insults without actually naming someone and then pretending you aren't being bitchy I object to.

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 17:43:07

Because looking at Soops kitchen- which I don't post on- it only took me three pages to find the comment you made, which was replied to by the nice people in very derogatory terms and which was obviously about another thread and poster. But never mind you are all such nice people and sometimes (horrors) I swear.

NanaandGrampy Fri 16-Jun-17 17:15:58

smile exactly Alima just checking !

MawBroon Fri 16-Jun-17 17:10:41

Oops Trisher
FFS"Nope. Why?"

Alima Fri 16-Jun-17 17:09:47

'Cos they're all on 'ere?

MawBroon Fri 16-Jun-17 17:07:31

Nppe.
Why?

NanaandGrampy Fri 16-Jun-17 17:04:58

Is this a slow day in the world of politics?

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 17:04:41

Is that an apology MawBroon? Oh I forgot 'nice' people don't need to apologise.

Elegran Fri 16-Jun-17 17:03:56

Why is anyone surprised that such nice people can defend themselves? Even a worm can turn. Beware the anger of a patient man (or woman)

durhamjen Fri 16-Jun-17 16:58:46

"Welcome on board .... even if I say so myself, our company in the kitchen is well worth having. We leave that lot to hiss, spit and be really nasty to each other. I no longer waste my time reading what they write."

And this one, spoken in a pleasant manner, as usual, trisher.

ninathenana Fri 16-Jun-17 16:57:06

Seriously considering becoming a "lurker"

MawBroon Fri 16-Jun-17 16:55:33

Sweetness and light as ever flowers

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 16:49:49

Oh and you don't need to name a poster for everyone to be aware of who you mean.

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 16:37:36

OK so your definition of moaning must differ from mine
"Hunkering down as somebody has been extremely aggressive, foul mouthed, rude and has given me a total stillalive and kicking. "
Isn't that moaning?
And lots of 'Aww' posts following but NOBODY saying don't post about other threads.
In fact some pretty nasty comments considering you all profess to be so nice. I

kittylester Fri 16-Jun-17 16:07:54

Meant to say, exactly Maw!

kittylester Fri 16-Jun-17 16:07:20

T.risher no one moans about how awful other threads/posters are except in a general way, as in perhaps ' blimey I was lucky to get back here alive!' grin

Baggs Fri 16-Jun-17 15:47:50

Nothing wrong with stating one's beliefs with passion, it is the derision that ensues or the unfounded accusations against other posters if they do not agree 100% with those beliefs and perhaps take a more mainstream, pragmatic approach.
They are considered beyond the pale, lacking compassion, stupid (and patronising) etc etc. (*jalima*).

Yup.

trisher Fri 16-Jun-17 15:45:45

You missed out "Moan about how awful other threads/posters are."

Jalima1108 Fri 16-Jun-17 15:43:25

What do you mean that's your chair???

as I said to someone at the Art Group once - 'oh, that's my chair' having sat in the same place for about 3 years. She said 'This isn't the Old Folks' Home!' grin

MawBroon Fri 16-Jun-17 15:35:22

Rules for GN café /Soop's Kitchen
1) Be nice
2) Feel free to weep on any convenient shoulder
3) Feel free to offer either or both shoulders yourself
4) Never, ever feel you are being a "moaning Mnne"
5) Remember this too shall pass except when it's a furniture van up a one-way street
6) Pets are available by the hour for adoption/petting/pampering. T's & C's may apply (comfort of lap, availability of treats, softness of bed and or sofa etc)
7) cupcakecupcake are always a good idea
8) wine is not compulsory but may help
9) A brew in the right company goes a long way
10) repeat numbers 1) to 9) as necessary.

(What do you mean that's your chair??? gringrin

Joelise Fri 16-Jun-17 15:32:06

Excellent post Elegran , some people could start a riot in a convent !

Jane10 Fri 16-Jun-17 15:22:28

As ever Elegran says it all.

Jalima1108 Fri 16-Jun-17 15:22:05

Oh come on why is it argumentative and losing one's temper to get into a political discussion and state one's beliefs with passion?
Nothing wrong with stating one's beliefs with passion, it is the derision that ensues or the unfounded accusations against other posters if they do not agree 100% with those beliefs and perhaps take a more mainstream, pragmatic approach.
They are considered beyond the pale, lacking compassion, stupid (and patronising) etc etc.

kittylester Fri 16-Jun-17 15:20:06

Another good post Elegran!