Correcting others’ grammar/spelling mistakes

It is not just education, upbringing or even the dreaded auto correct that affects our posts. I post when I have the energy and check as much as I am able but if I was to wait until I think I could do it perfectly you would never hear from me at all. I know my grammar has gone down the swanny as DH tells me so because he is a pedant. That is ok because I can get my revenge later! If anyone else did I would consider it rude and unacceptable. Post stroke and with ME/CFS I am much more fragile than before so it can take much more out of me than you could imagine unless you are similarly affected. I would encourage more kindness and forgiveness.

Wholeheartedly agree Grandma70s. It’s lack of manners that gets to me, not language usage. Posters on Pedants’ Corner talk about cringing when they see bad grammar. I admit I notice it, but I certainly don’t cringe. Bad manners, deliberate rudeness, that’s really something to cringe about.
And I was taught early on that it was discourteous to misspell someone’s name, so I do try to get thst right.

It’s just rude as anyone with any sense knows. This is a chat forum and not an English exam.
I guess you can take the teacher out of the classroom etc.......

My Mother always said that the worst possible manners was to point out what others were doing wrong, be it spelling, speaking or using the wrong cutlery. How right she was - there may be people suffering with all sorts of problems like dyslexia, poor eyesight and so on, but joining in on a discussion is a great thing to do and must help many lonely people. I am the world's worst typist, totally untrained, fast and wildly inaccurate, and often have to go back and correct my typos. Let's all give each other a break!

It is often the case that some people on Gransnet are quite critical of other posters’ point of view, not just their grammar and spelling. I have not been here very long, but I am often surprised. I don’t know people’s names well enough to know who to fear, but there are enough unfriendly posters to worry me, at times. And lots of lovely ones too.

I must have the thickest skin on the planet. I couldn't care a fiddler's fart whether people correct my grammar or spelling and I hardly ever notice it when people make an oops spelling or grammar wise. In the grand scheme of things ...

? good for you Grannyknot.

Me neither Grannyknot

If anyone wants to correct my spelling and grammar, please feel free to do so.

However, Be Warned! I do enjoy using split infinitives so if you boldly go and soundly reprimand me I will happily ignore you.

Live and Learn!

I have trouble spelling , been corrected many times. The funniest was typing erotic instead of exotic ?

Jalima

In full agreement Maryeliza54. I posted this on another thread on this very issue.

Just picked up on the thread about people 'declaring' their disabilities, in this case and it seems at other times people have 'declared' dyslexia.

What is wrong here, in my view, is that anyone who is willing to share their views, debate and yes, even argue using the written word, should have to even think about their dyslexia. To point out grammatical, spelling or punctuation errors is just un kind, and to use those things to undermine confidence in the argument being made or the veracity of the knowledge says more about the "marker" than the producer of the work.

No one should feel that they have to 'declare' their 'disability'. Their ability is in what they think, and their willingness to stand up for what they believe in, on line and in writing, how brave is that.

I should have added that it is just pomposity to correct others spelling, grammar and punctuation. My feeling is that people who do this sort of thing do it just "because they can".
It benefits know one in these circumstances and only serves to shut out people with intelligence and good things to say, by publicly embarrassing them.

Love that one Anniebach!

This thread has reminded me of some worksheets I devised for children with a spelling problem, full of deliberate mistakes. They loved doing them. Though our secretary found them difficult to type ( the days before computers.)
And another time working with a reluctant reader, I read, making deliberate mistakes and he loved correcting me.
It seems to be a sort of compulsion with some people.

Cabbie21. Don't let those few make you fearful. You add to the conversation and say what you think. I have taken some flak on Gransnet, but you will see there are a lot of kind people who come to your aid.

Sometimes I felt quite battered, but the choice was give up and retreat and that is simply not a choice for me. It can be with just a few maybe a handful, less who cannot address the issues so they attack the person, it's the lowest form of argument and debate.

My advice for what it's worth is stay on the moral high ground. Try really hard not to respond in a similar manner...very tempting to tell them to f.... 0... Just don't. I have adopted a phrase...play the ball not the person. Whenever these few start to target me instead of the issue, that is mostly how I respond whilst thinking something quite different.

Believe me there are lot's of people who will support it you start to be bullied. These people hide in the anonimity of the internet and pseudonyms if they were fact to face you can bet it would be a different story.
So don't be bullied into retreat.

So right Fennel. They do it "because they can"!

No thought in my school days for children who had difficulties spelling, in junior school I was so humiliated when a teacher marked our essays and wrote on the blackboard my spelling of Duke of Edinburgh, I had written Duck of Edingbugh

Well said Synonymous.

Those were the days Anniebach. Blackboard dusters flying through the air, pieces of chalk being thrown at the boys at the back of the class. Standing in corners as you say humiliation for getting things like spellings wrong. Still it made us realise that those things were wrong. From the little I know about you having gleaned from your post's, I guess you are like me and just hate injustice, or people being humiliated, or demeaned in anyway.

Allygran
"These people hide in the anonimity of the internet and pseudonyms if they were fact to face you can bet it would be a different story."
If I'm one of those, I would say the same face to face as I've said to you via my pseudonym.

From my point of view, as long as the sense of the message is there, it is no-one's place to correct the spelling or grammar of someone who might not have had the educational privileges that I am lucky enough to have had. Their views and the right to be heard politely are paramount.

And we all put in typos, or have a bad day when we are less coherent.

It is about respect really.

I have a dyslexic DD who is a highly intelligent, kind and thoughtful person. I would hate to think that someone on a forum might keep correcting her spelling and not noticing the real person.

Apart from being called duck by school mates for a few days Ally it didn’t bother me after those few minutes of squirming .

Yes , humiliating and deameaning people is something I cannot accept or understand

I'm largely in agreement with the feelings on this thread. As a ret'd teacher I twitch rather than cringe at some of what I read but don't offer corrections!
Have every sympathy with mistakes due to typo's , predictive text and certainly dyslexia.
Recently I have noticed a different set of mistakes and must assume they're due to snobbery (can't think of a better way to put it!)
Does it really 'sound more polite' to use I instead of me even when me is correct?
And what about whom when it should be a simple who ?
If everyone just relaxes and communicates naturally we should all be just fine.

mcem, you are correcting us ?

"Fennel Thu 07-Jun-18 12:45:43
Allygran
"These people hide in the anonimity of the internet and pseudonyms if they were fact to face you can bet it would be a different story."
If I'm one of those, I would say the same face to face as I've said to you via my pseudonym."

Fennel why did you associate yourself with my comments.?