NB There are men on Gransnet

The only man I know of on Gransnet is Grandad1943, he must like to be amongst all these women on here. HAHAHA.

Saying thank-you ladies is not so bad a lot of worse terms could be used.

Apricity you ask what other names can we think of for people of mature years. One thing that always gets me is when I have the grand-children our with me and I meet
someone who knows me, they will always ask the children

"Are you out with GrandMa for the day?
My grand-children look at them blankly as they never call me GrandMa they call me Nannie. The children always say it's one of those people again that call you "GrandMa."
Truthfully it makes me feel old, I dress fashionably, keep my hair nice and wear some make-up and even have my own teeth all you people that call me GrandMa please stop
it drives me nuts.

Grandad People, be they men or women, are drawn to Gransnet by seeing a conversation that they would like to join. These conversations are not started by the admin staff, they are begun by ordinary members who have a question or an observation, and they continue when someone replies, someone else answers that reply, ageeing or disagreeing, and it proceeds from there.

The Gransnet forums are a grass-roots phenomenon, not one created and designed by psychologists for a specific social engineering project. It is up to individual posters to initiate threads that attract readers and/or posters. If you want more men on Gransnet, then you will have to start up threads that they will want to join in with, on subjects that attract them, and then keep adding to the conversations, in a way that encourages men to reply to you and develop the debate or the chat so that more men then join in. If there is a need and a demand for men to chat online in a friendly way, then they will be drawn in, but you can't just demand that someone else does it.

Sorry Rufus and I have made no impression on you, 3nanny6. Must try harder.

If I tried, I could probably name half a dozen or more other male posters who post often. It is not always obvious that they are male, their usernames are neutral and they don't make a song and dance about needing the site re-made to fit them. They just join in the general conversation, sometimes adding "from a male perspective . . " when that is relevant to them giving their different viewpoint.

Grumppa yes I have seen some of your posts and was not sure about your username but will now know you are male.
I forgot I have seen Rufus on a few posts I beleive he is the one from Australia (I could be wrong though)
That is three I know of then perhaps because Grandad1943 is quite often posting I have noticed more.

grumppa

The name Gransnet is a straight derivation from Mumsnet, and an obvious contraction of grannies. I don’t think grandfathers are ever referred to as grans or grannies, so if men are as welcome as we are told perhaps it should be renamed Grandsnet.

I think it comes from grandparents and is easier to say than Grandsnet.

But hey, I'm not looking for trouble!

Lucca

Is there a Dadsnet ? Or do men contribute to mumsnet?
Agree grandsnet would be better.

You know what? Now it's been mentioned, I actually like the sound of Grandsnet better than Gransnet.
To me, it both looks and sounds slightly less condescending or 'twee' - but I'm prepared to accept that most people might not feel the same!

Are you out with GrandMa for the day?
3Nanny6 Obviously we haven't met, otherwise you might have noticed me, usually sitting in the corner on the naughty stool, minding my own business.!
Can I just say that the image we project is often not we imagine and a free opinion from an unbiased third party could be food for thought.!
Bon Appetite!
Cheers.
OoRoo,

Hello Rufus2, and thank-you for introducing yourself. I too try to mind my own business although sometimes not successfully.
You are so right about the image we project is often not what we imagine. it to be.
How can people that know me ask my grand-children
Are you out with GrandMa for the day?
The image that conjures up for me is a little old lady with grey hair set back in a bun and round silver framed spectacles.
Perhaps I have turned into that lady I sincerely hope not.
Enjoy your day and cheers.

Mamacaz I would quite like that, too.

3nanny6, isnt it strange how different we all are? Nan, nana and nanny sound ancient to me - Little old ladies in rocking chairs with their knitting. My nan seemed very old when I was young.

My granny was elegant, sophisticated and had a sports car!!

I'm actually Ma!

Kittylester;

It is strange how we view what titles we are given.
Growing up we had Granny and she was much loved by all the children in the family.
The thing was she was always regarded as perhaps old as her own children (my aunties and uncles) were always around as well. She dressed well but when going out she wore a hat with a hat pin in. I just saw her as being ancient and often had the thought what it must be like to be so old

I think that when someone says GrandMa I get a picture of my old Granny. Maybe I should find a hat and get a hat pin.

nanny sound very ancient to me
Kittylester Not very subtle!
OoRoo

Referring to other GN posters as "ladies" makes me think of Dame Edna Everage saying "we ladies..." and the Little Britain character saying "I am a laydee"!!! Apart from referring to toilets in public places I don't often use the word "ladies"!!!

I for one wouldn't mind if more men joined.

I'd be interested to know what led the current male Gransnet members to join?

Come on fellers - don't be shy! Do tell....!.

grumppa

Sorry Rufus and I have made no impression on you, 3nanny6. Must try harder.

No please grumppa stay just as you are.

Come on fellers - don't be shy! Do tell....!.
RamblingRose

"Where do I begin^
To tell the story of how great a love can be
The sweet love story that is older than the sea
The simple truth about the love she brings to me
Where do I start
I can do better than that, but it's past midnight and my bedtime here, but I'll dream up something to satisfy your curiosity. Meanwhile, other Grandads will no doubt pick up your gauntlet!
OoRoo

Ramblingrose22, you ask in your post @15:05 today:-
"I'd be interested to know what led the current male Gransnet members to join? Come on fellers - don't be shy! Do tell....!"

My answer to the above is quite simple, I came onto this forum by way of a complete mistake. I was reviewing discussion forums and whether I clicked on the wrong sign up page I am not sure. However, having signed up I immediately made a first post which was met with an absolute wall of Misandry.

Some mocked my spelling and choice of wording while others simply stated in a very outright manner that I as a man should not be on this forum.

The above made me very determined to remain on this forum, if only to unsettle those who had made such remarks.

So, with that I am still here with the same determination to remain. ??

No one should mock another’s spelling, but it does happen sometimes. I’m very surprised that anyone said outright that men are not welcome on this site.

We have grumppa and Rufus2 (what happened to Rufus1?) and they are very welcome. Sometimes R2 gets a bit frisky but I tend to put that down to to the Fosters or a surfeit of sun. And he does have a sense of humour.

Furret

No one should mock another’s spelling, but it does happen sometimes. I’m very surprised that anyone said outright that men are not welcome on this site.

We have grumppa and Rufus2 (what happened to Rufus1?) and they are very welcome. Sometimes R2 gets a bit frisky but I tend to put that down to to the Fosters or a surfeit of sun. And he does have a sense of humour.

Furret, stating that men should not be on this forum, has been very common on this forum, and although now less common it still is stated at times even in these more enlightened times on Gransnet.

However, I feel there may be disagreement within the management of Gransnet on how the site approaches its future. That was, I believe, demonstrated last week with the site generated "please read" thread which must have a huge disappointment to whoever initiated the thread.

We also have Michael, grumppa and others.

I've asked GNHQ a few times to change the name to include Grandads but no response.
From another viewpoint - I belong to a WW2 forum which is male dominated.
Main Mod. takes part a lot and keeps on calling us guys or blokes or lads etc which irritates me.

Furret your post at 15.58 saying that sometimes R2 gets a bit frisky that made me laugh. I thought the post of Rufus2 to RamblingRose22 was getting close to a serenade and maybe he is a cheeky one to watch, or like you say too much of the Fosters. I do not think I have heard of Michael on Gransnet threads.

Talking of men....

I thought the post of Rufus2 to RamblingRose22 was getting close to a serenade.
3nanny6 Oh No! Please don't say that! Brings back sad memories of when I was "reported" for "flirting"!
Honest! I still have the papers framed hanging on the wall! I felt quite chuffed to think I was still thought capable at 91 years! She must have had an inflated ego!
Anyway, Rambling Rose has obviously not even noticed.
OoRoo

There was a song called Rambling Rose, Were you quoting from that, Rufus ?
Nat King Cole sang it www.youtube.com/watch?v=mae_NJ_12sc

Were you quoting from that, Rufus ?
Elegran Not exactly! I know the song and Nat's versions are alright, but when I went looking for the lyrics I came across a Julie London version and she looks pretty good too!. Of course I can't find it again!
Btw; changing the subject! You said that if you "tried", you could remember the names of half-a-dozen or so Grandads.
We'd be grateful if you could remember because more are needed to join the ranks, especially as more ladies/women are clamouring for more male input!.
The old order changeth and all that...!
OoRoo