Do you know what?

I'm with the not engage club.

Say what you want to say, trust that others who are kind and open minded will hear you with the genuine desire to help you intended.

I've probably contributed to ruining threads just by determination to defend myself from people who want to tell me what I think/meant regardless of what I actually say.

I won't do that anymore.

People will like me or not

SEP

Someone else's problem

Presumably a non-partisan kind person, biba!

23-Sep-20 21:55:43
yes, 100%.

I doubt that anyone's opinion is objective, though, biba!

I totally agree Callistemon.

Starblaze

I'm with the not engage club.

Say what you want to say, trust that others who are kind and open minded will hear you with the genuine desire to help you intended.

I've probably contributed to ruining threads just by determination to defend myself from people who want to tell me what I think/meant regardless of what I actually say.

I won't do that anymore.

People will like me or not

SEP

Someone else's problem

Trouble is in this particular instance should one choose to disengage, the poster in question might actually be encouraged by such a sensible suggestion, being under the mistaken belief that the little woman had been put in her place.

Furret
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BlueBelle what gets my goat is posters that look for attention or make stuff up to get sympathy or shock We had a few a few months back that really emotionally upset people and it’s all very well saying ignore them but some very good people get sucked in to try to help

Agreed. I find it hard to just ignore, when you see so many well meaning kind people falling for the latest sob story and trying to help. You know from past experience that the poster is not genuine, and has history. They presumably get a kick out of this behaviour, and then of course if anyone says anything against them, they are perceived as being bullies. It's all a game to that type of sick poster.

Sometimes it's very difficult to tell - some threads are started which are a cri de coeur, the story sounds so farfetched as to be unbelievable but I know from experience that some could be true.
It's when the story begins to unravel or posters who ask a pertinent question are verbally abused then it becomes clear that it's not genuine.

I’m fairly new and mainly lurking, as I don’t really know anybody yet. I’m starting to recognise names though. I feel a bit uncomfortable at the idea of joining in threads where people obviously know each other well and are referring to previous threads that I haven’t seen. I think that’s true on any forum though.

Blossom, we were all like that, didn't know anyone originally. How are people going to get to know you and you them if you don't post?

Hi Blossoming and welcome. I am not such a regular poster as some, but please start to join in. People take a while to get to know you, like anywhere, but they will. We have all been "new" at some point. .

Thanks ladies, I am starting to join in, but it takes time to get the style and culture on any new forum.

Blossoming
Style and culture. That'll be us. You've come to the right place ?

Phoenix, I am sorry to hear that you were caught up in some unpleasantness yesterday.
I agree with you and think GNHQ do not covered themselves in glory, appearing to allow posters who have badly, to continue without apparent sanction.

Others, who then try to point this out, suffer sanction, undeservedly in my view.
It’s a complete pain in the neck and spoils GN for me.
I am careful where I post and I avoid certain posters’ threads.
I also know of some GNs who have given up ... which is really sad.

? Phoenix.

MerylStreep

Blossoming
Style and culture. That'll be us. You've come to the right place ?

Excellent!