Private messages

If you have a pm from a poster and in the ‘send to’ line it lists other posters, when you reply does the reply go to all mentioned, or just the original sender?

I think it is just to the sender, unless you choose to send it to all.

Thanks, Elegran

Try it out - send a PM to more than one person telling them it is an experiment and will they please reply to you and please tell you whether they get a reply from the other person as well. Then we'll know for sure!

I haven't seen a 'reply to all' option, Elegran. Isf there is one, could someone tell me where.

People will use PMs however they want but don’t insult my intelligence that all uses are squeaky clean. Of course I can’t prove this but then neither can it be disproved so I’ll shut up.

Kittylester neither have I. I think you have to actively add everyone individually.

suziewoozie
I don't understand what you mean by not squeaky clean perhaps I'm naive

Yes you are

Oh do people plot on PMs then?

I’ve never been part of a clique, maybe that’s why, I thought it was just a normal PM thing.

suziewoozie Your intelligence isn't in question. Of course it is possible to use private messages to exchange opinions of those who can't read them, just as it is to talk about real life people who can't hear you. That doesn't mean that every group conversation is a witches coven of whisperings. Thinking that is like believing that every mention of "certain posters" or "someone" is a reference to ones's own most recent post - unless one knows that post was a nasty one.

Elegran my post was quite clear - I did not say that all PM exchanges are ‘witches covens’ as well you know and it was unbecoming if you to imply that. As for your comment referencing my criticism of the use of ‘certain poster’ etc I stand by that. There are many examples when that technique is used to avoid the deleting pitfall of the personal attack and you know that.

Agreed suzie. My comment about pm's come from a bad experience with another Forum- the first I joined a long time ago- for expats in France. It was a mixed Forum but some of us asked for a Ladies only section to discuss health issues which are related only to women. Some of the women, including some Moderators- began to mock one gentleman who was a very friendly member. At first, it was just a bit of fun- then it turned nasty, and some even went ton to try everything to entrap him. I asked again and again for it to stop- but they would not- and it got really unpleasant.

pms, sorry.

And Elegran you know full well the recent example of the use of ‘a certain poster’ to have a really nasty dig at an easily identifiable individual but to avoid in a cowardly fashion bring deleted. Best day no more as it would become a taat.

Sigh day = say

Not everyone reads every post on every thread and knows exactly who used what term and who (in that instance) it was referring to. "Certain persons" has been used many times on Gransnet, so there is no need for you to go all prickly about me mentioning it. That says more about you than about me. Your replies illustrate what I meant - a general statement taken as a personal prod and replied to in a confrontational way can turn a conversation into what GNHQ refer to as a "bunfight".

Perhaps I should add to ALL my posts what I ended the OP with - " . . please note that this post is NOT directed at any "you" in particular, so no need for anyone to feel got at by it . . "

Elegran would you care to address my point that your post was misleading about what I said about PMs? It’s a commonly used GN ‘trick’ to imply that a poster said something other than she did and then attack her for it.
Eg
Poster A the sun is shining in Worthing today
Poster B it’s just not true that the sun always shines in Worthing. I’ve been there when it was raining
Poster A WTAF

No, suziewoozie, because I wasn't referring to you, and (if you said anything similar to what I posted) I wasn't aware of it, so I have nothing to "address

In fact, my "addressing it" would be tantamount to adding your name onto my previous post. Ask yourself - just WHO is dragging your name through the mud here? - You are, not me.

"It’s a commonly used GN ‘trick’ to imply that a poster said something other than she did and then attack her for it." So stop doing it.

Really ? Really? That’s just not true and you know it. I don’t actually care at all about PMs - they are used for good and ill. But it was you that introduced the emotive phrase about covens which was a tiny bit OTT.- but there you go.

suziewoozie - you really are barking up the wrong tree.

Let her bark on, kittylester. I think the squirrel has moved on to more interesting trees.