Not in the spirit of Gransnet

Is this the thread Jane?

www.gransnet.com/forums/science_nature_environment/1301437-Jane-Judges-Mice

Third time lucky, and this thread seems to be running well. I have just read it all, and can't see any knickers getting in a twist, although I've obviously missed a little kink in the middle somewhere!

Anyway, great last post Doodledog encouraging those less robust posters to post, although you are right to point out the pitfalls. However, I am not sure the chat threads are always the ones where you are less likely to be disagreed with? I agree about early contributions sometimes getting short shrift, and yes, you feel like walking around with your tail between your legs for a week! It is all very well being called a dimwit on a Politcs thread when you come out with something you didn't realise was silly at the time, but to then be followed onto other threads like Chat or TV by posters who seem to want to continue the attacks just isn't on. That does smack a bit of nastiness, because there are some areas where you might be far from being a dimwit.
Also, how many times do posters say "sorry" when they have got something wrong or got a bit aanoyed? I aways try to do that and am about to do so on an earlier thread. Having said that I did try to on one occasion and got told, "but you're not at all sorry, saying it doesn't mean it." Things said like that do strike home, so is it any wonder posters also remember who actually made the comment which hurt?

Beswitched

Callistemon21

Beswitched
I wasn't being unkind when I laughed at your typo pisters
I'm always making typos or being miscorrected by autocorrect.

bossy pisters
I loved it ?

Hi

Don't worry. No offence was taken. I laughed when I read it back myself

It's the word of the week, Beswitched!

JaneJudge

I remember when I first started posting, I think it was in one of the lockdowns and I upset someone unintentionally because I'd said something she thought was awful about <insert famous person of choice> and she followed me for weeks from thread to thread about it. At the time I was looking caring for my adult dd who requires 24/7 care and was just upset/frightened/exhausted and did think it was a bit OTT to take what I'd said so personally. Surely our members are more important than <insert famous person of choice>

I have let it go but surely we all should be mindful about other posters circumstances especially if they post something personal and upsetting. Beswitched, I don't know if I have got mixed up - so I apologise if I have but wasn't it you who posted about a problem with the hospital and your dying Mother and people just continually had a go at you? Things like that I find exasperating

Oh, it wasn't Nicola was it?

I've just been in trouble for taking the pister out of the saintly Nicola.

Blossom, No it certainly wasn’t you, I thought the pisters typo hilarious

LadyGaGa
Don't worry about it. A lot of people are upset when their post gets missed, but often it is just because threads can move quickly - nothing personal.

I don't usually post on the 'chat' threads, as I'm not great at small talk, but they are the ones that always have hundreds of replies, so whereas you are less likely to be disagreed with, there are far more posters, and individual posts are more easily missed.

Why not post on more of the less general threads, where there tend to be fewer replies and you are more likely to get responses? You do sometimes need to have quite a thick skin, though. On my first (or definitely one of my first) posts on here I was told that the person I responded to 'couldn't be bothered' to answer my question, and that I should 'do some research' and find out for myself ?. It wasn't that I couldn't have googled - of course I could - but I was more interested in their opinion than the facts that are available to all, and I was just trying to join in.

I was going to say that it was water off a duck's back, (and I certainly didn't let it put me off posting), but I have remembered it all this time later, so it must have struck home. Some people are just naturally rude, but the vast majority of people on here are caring, kindly people. We all have different perspectives on all sorts of things, but most of us can disagree vehemently about one thing and be in complete agreement about another.

LadyGaga I sent you a pm

Elegran

Blossoming Facebook is full of pisters. Also boasters and shitsters.

All social media is.

Oh dear ? just re read my post from earlier about no one one saying hello to me on regular threads. What have I become! I’m a sixty year old professional woman and I’m acting like a sulky teenager ? I need to get a life!! Goodness me, feel like I’m back at school. Thanks for the ? by the way! But onwards and upwards to knicker problems, and the real world ?

Are you referring to my mum’s knickers or someone else’s?
There seems to be some talk about a gift of knickers that l may have missed.

I gathered that's what you meant.

Ah ! Screenshot that’s the word l was looking for. Thank you

Elegran

Blossoming Facebook is full of pisters. Also boasters and shitsters.

True.

Blossoming Facebook is full of pisters. Also boasters and shitsters.

MissAdventure

I couldn't care less if anyone has screen shot anything I've said.

It's a public space, anything posted is fair game.

It is OK, MissA. The poster said that she had "photo shopped" something, which is a completely different thing from a screen shot. After being worked on with Photoshop, anything you posted will be unrecognisable.

Well, well done to the ladies who have tried to make a joke out of a subject which is very far from amusing.

I fear this may be me. I did, and still do, find the word ‘pisters’ amusing but I was not mocking the typo. I make plenty of those myself! It’s such a perfect name for a group of old grans for several reasons.

I definitely don’t belong to a clique though, I’ve been a misfit all my life.

" . . . . but surely no one needs to be downright nasty to anyone?"
Very often, a poster who is being downright nasty to others is incredible quick off the mark to complain when someone else says something that they don't like. You'd think that either they would be tough enough to take it on the chin and smile, or that feeling it from the other side would show them how unpleasant it is to be sniped at for even existing.

I couldn't care less if anyone has screen shot anything I've said.

It's a public space, anything posted is fair game.

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MichaelGransnet

Hi all. We'll have to take this thread down if it descends into guideline breaking personal attacks and rehashes of old arguments.
As always - if you have any concerns about a post or poster then please report directly to GNHQ. We're always fine to take a look.

Please let's not get into personal attacks, this started as a polite thread, descended to amusement, I understand about the knickers GillT
I would not like to see this thread deleted as it will just go the way of the others,and I think most posters are being polite and stating their thoughts in a reasonable manner.

Smileless2012

You could have said rather loudly, in case anyone was watching 'I'm just pegging yours out dear' as you hung out your Bridget Jones undies GillT.

Good idea . I just hid mine on the inside with t shirts and stuff on the outer

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You could have said rather loudly, in case anyone was watching 'I'm just pegging yours out dear' as you hung out your Bridget Jones undies GillT.

I think if you’re a regular poster ( with strong opinions on whatever subject you’re talking about ) you’re likely to have a few issues from time to time, especially on smaller forums where everyone stands out more. There will always be cliques & people who appear to dominate threads, but on the whole, I’ve never come across anything too bad, & find gransnet a very friendly supportive place in general.
Real life can be worse! I was in the woman’s institute for a few years & couldn’t believe the fall outs & gossip that went on.