What's wrong with posting about 1st World problems

The best approach to scoffiness about so-called first world problems is to ignore it. The scoffers will get the message if you just don't engage with them.

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There was a thread recently about a missing sock, it had escaped the laundry basket and most comments were of the same nature, very lighthearted and sharing similar experiences..............until someone made a comment about The Ukraine claiming OP and anyone who commented should be ashamed about the topic matter! Really? We are all acutely aware of the suffering of those poor people but why can we not have a lighthearted chat occasionally?

I agree Baggs. In fact I’ve just scrolled past one in this very thread

Of course we can have a ‘light hearted chat’!
No one is stopping us!

If someone has a pop at you, and you think that they are out of order for doing so, do one of the following:

A) tell them so

or

B) ignore them

There is no need to get upset about it; or start a thread about it.

Just think to yourself that they are a bit of a clown and move on!

Blossoming

I agree Baggs. In fact I’ve just scrolled past one in this very thread

It better not have been one of mine, young Blossoming!

In my view Vintagejazz I wholeheartedly welcome and need any thread whatsoever that take my mind away from world issues, some of them are absolutely heartbreaking and far too painful to watch or read and so a thread about dropping pegs off a washing line is a welcome distraction.

We alllll have different issues in our lives, its not someones fault that they have, what some view as, a pathetic issue, to the person who started the thread its a big issue in their life .....

Anyway, I for 1 really enjoy the topics on GN, I answer when i feel the need and I pass by the one's that i don't feel the need or the one's that i have zero interest in.

I've just bought a little container to keep my pegs in and it did feel like an extravagance

Sometimes I post about something I'm struggling with and people are kind and sympathetic. Then I read a post from someone who is very unwell or has suffered a bereavement, I feel bad and wish I hadn't posted as their problem seems so much worse.

Oh Kate, you really mustn’t ever do that.
No one would ever judge anyone (especially you) for something like that.
You are one of the kindest and most considerate people on here

I agree Vintagejazz, especially about what is going on in other peoples lives on GN, we don't know. After what we have been through with Covid, now Ukraine, plus inept governments I can only take so much news each day and certainly don't want to burden family or friends by coming across as miserable, they have enough to worry about so it is the trivia that sometimes keeps a conversation going both in real life & GN.

JaneJudge

I've just bought a little container to keep my pegs in and it did feel like an extravagance

Haha[grin

Serendipity22

In my view Vintagejazz I wholeheartedly welcome and need any thread whatsoever that take my mind away from world issues, some of them are absolutely heartbreaking and far too painful to watch or read and so a thread about dropping pegs off a washing line is a welcome distraction.

We alllll have different issues in our lives, its not someones fault that they have, what some view as, a pathetic issue, to the person who started the thread its a big issue in their life .....

Anyway, I for 1 really enjoy the topics on GN, I answer when i feel the need and I pass by the one's that i don't feel the need or the one's that i have zero interest in.

Exactly.

There are lots of threads dealing with topics I'm not interested in so I don't join in.
Joining a thread simply to say you've no interest, can't understand why someone would start a thread on this, or to rudely post meh 1st world problem is not only rude, it often seems designed to turn a perfectly normal thread into a bun fight.

FannyCornforth

Blossoming

I agree Baggs. In fact I’ve just scrolled past one in this very thread

It better not have been one of mine, young Blossoming!

Off course not dear FannyCornforth, I wouldn’t dare

I am not sure if this comment fits comfortably into this thread but it illustrates the point to me.

My DD's and teenage DGC were having a conversation about things that for better or worse have changed because of the Pandemic. Having agreed that there has been a vast increase in community spirit and people looking out for each other, but were struggling to think of anything else that was positive. I came up with a very trivial 'benefit' - That the pandemic has brought an end to one of my pet hates i.e random acquaintances launching at me with a kiss on both cheeks. The pandemic has put a complete stop to this unwelcome practice, which pleases me no end. We were all agreed on this point and it brought the conversation to an end on a positive note.

A poster called Beswitched started a near identical thread to this a few weeks ago.

Look. I don’t think that there is a poster on here who doesn’t agree that it’s okay, even wonderful, to discuss trivialities.

And if someone does gripe at you on a thread, or seem unnecessarily critical; it’s probably because they are having a rough day themselves, and are in need of a bit of slack to be cut themselves.

Ohhh haha Granny23 this made me chuckle because I am 1 of those you would be jumping for joy never to experience hahaha, the reason I say that is because when we were in the depths of the unknown with the pandemic ( I know we still are, but I mean avoiding people like the plague ) .... I said to anyone that would listen "When this is all over I am going to randomly hug and kiss everyone and anyone I see."

Hahaha and I am not a BIG hugger and certainly not a person to plonk a kiss on someone's cheek, no way hosay.

Fanny Your post brought a lump to my throat. So are you both of those things.

Granny23

I am not sure if this comment fits comfortably into this thread but it illustrates the point to me.

My DD's and teenage DGC were having a conversation about things that for better or worse have changed because of the Pandemic. Having agreed that there has been a vast increase in community spirit and people looking out for each other, but were struggling to think of anything else that was positive. I came up with a very trivial 'benefit' - That the pandemic has brought an end to one of my pet hates i.e random acquaintances launching at me with a kiss on both cheeks. The pandemic has put a complete stop to this unwelcome practice, which pleases me no end. We were all agreed on this point and it brought the conversation to an end on a positive note.

Yes hopefully that will come to an end.

Thanks for all the comments on here
Glad to know I'm not the only poster who finds this annoying and insensitive.

H1954

There was a thread recently about a missing sock, it had escaped the laundry basket and most comments were of the same nature, very lighthearted and sharing similar experiences..............until someone made a comment about The Ukraine claiming OP and anyone who commented should be ashamed about the topic matter! Really? We are all acutely aware of the suffering of those poor people but why can we not have a lighthearted chat occasionally?

I missed the missing sock.
Once upon a time when the DC were home there was a bag of single socks in the airing cupboard seeking mates. Some were lovely, brightly coloured ski socks but still they stayed single.
DD decided she'd wear one of each colour so that solved a problem.

Years later the single socks went in the ragbag.

We all need a bit of light relief from the world's problems. We can't do anything about them, apart from futile gestures such as recycling our yoghurt pots, so there's no point in fixating on them.

(I'm sure someone will be along to tell me that 'if we all do our bit' etc etc, but even if we did, which isn't very probable, it still wouldn't make much difference).

Our own worries are different and they affect us personally, so we want to share with people who understand because they've had similar experiences.

I don't know why but reading this thread brought the late Phoenix to mind. How I miss her posts! She could take the most banal of topics and turn them into pure comedy.

I never knew Phoenix. She was already very ill when I saw other posters talking about her. But she sounds like she embodied all that was best about Gransnet.

Of course we should be aware of what’s going on elsewhere in the world and the hard times being experienced by so many in our own country. Nevertheless we should be grateful for what we have which would be envied by so many others. If we take pleasure in more frivolous things from time to time we’re helping our mental health and keeping as cheerful as we can for the sake of others. It’s often the little things in life which keep us going. We should enjoy what we have while we have it. Those who are currently suffering wouldn’t want it any other way.

I wasn't around during WW2 but I remember seeing film clips of all those still "at home" having wonderful sing-songs and dances. During Covid people were horrified by seeing nurses and paramedics having a bit of a laugh and fun with each other despite working in terrible circumstances for 24 hours at a stretch.

We all need to switch off at times, it does us a power of good, and I for one, enjoy the "daft" threads that crop up.

FannyCornforth

Of course we can have a ‘light hearted chat’!
No one is stopping us!

If someone has a pop at you, and you think that they are out of order for doing so, do one of the following:

A) tell them so

or

B) ignore them

There is no need to get upset about it; or start a thread about it.

Just think to yourself that they are a bit of a clown and move on!

I totally agree. We should be able to confront posters who are unpleasant or duplicitous.Unfortunately it's like advice to confront anti social neighbours. You don't know what you'll get.

Some will respond with politeness and respect. Some will go nuclear and become even more aggressive and nasty.

It's a shame really.

You're such a lovely poster Fanny. But not everyone is as kind and uncomplicated as you.