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Let's talk dating apps with Lumen

(242 Posts)
LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 17-Oct-19 12:08:11

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In recent years, the number of people using dating apps to find that special someone has rapidly increased. Dating at any age can be difficult, but dating apps can make the process a little bit easier. Whether you’ve used a dating app before or not, Lumen wants to hear from you.

Here’s what Lumen has to say: “Dating apps are in full swing these days, with an estimated 59 million people using them worldwide, and that’s only as of 2017. Now, the number will only be higher and it's easy to see why. As our lives become busier and more hectic, it can be tricky to find time to set aside to go on dates, or to even find people to go on dates with. Dating apps come in to help us there, by allowing us to get chatting to people more easily. It’s not just a millennial’s game anymore.

More and more people over 50 are turning to dating apps to find someone to spend their later years with. You may have many friends and maybe even a family of your own, but that doesn’t mean you should be content with being single if you don’t want to be. If you’re ready to get back into dating, whether you’re in your fifties or beyond, then it might be time to try a dating app like Lumen.”

Have you got any experience of using dating apps? If so, were they good or bad experiences? Have you found good connections or engaged in quality conversations on dating apps?

Do you find dating apps easy or difficult to use? And, if you have never used a dating app, what do you think of them? Have you considered it but been put off?

Share your thoughts about dating apps on the thread below and you will be entered into a prize draw where one GNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
GNHQ

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kasperc0 Tue 19-Nov-19 15:48:28

They can be great for some people, but I don't think I'd trust them enough to use them myself

rocketriffs Tue 19-Nov-19 16:51:42

A lot of people with fake profiles and people lying about their age and the majority of photos are filtered. Lots of people hiding behind snapchat filters. I don't want to date anyone with a squirrel's nose, whiskers and kitten's ears.

angiejackson Tue 19-Nov-19 16:53:25

I think as long as you are sensible about it then I see no reason not to use them if you're free and single it's a great way to meet people you would never meet in every day life.

Marshmallowpants Tue 19-Nov-19 17:25:44

I met my husband through a dating app, so think they are totally amazing! There are of course some dodgy people on there, but as I discovered also some amazing people!

sheilads105 Tue 19-Nov-19 17:25:44

I think they are a fab idea. Although having seen the film The Good Liar there are lots of precautions that need taking. They can be a great way to widen your social circle though and are a way of finding new companions.

glennamy Tue 19-Nov-19 17:51:51

Makes things easier but I would not use them unless I couldn't do it through being out and meeting people!

sezz35sezz35 Tue 19-Nov-19 17:52:52

I think they are a great idea for everyone. It seems to be how the youngsters do it nowadays.

towser44 Tue 19-Nov-19 18:02:15

I think they have their place, but, I prefer to the old fashioned methods, you know like actually talking/meeting people in person!

ceejayen Tue 19-Nov-19 18:15:04

Not tried dating apps ...yet!

cheekychicken24 Tue 19-Nov-19 18:24:23

I've never tried a dating app. I did 'meet' my husband online, but we got chatting on a general interest forum, not through an app!

I think if I was single I probably would try an app - you surely have more chance of meeting that special someone by casting your net in the biggest pond - and if you exclude dating apps, then I'd think you're massively reducing your odds of finding 'the one!'

yorkshiresteve Tue 19-Nov-19 18:27:16

I have used some dating apps before. I found match was quite good with genuine people. The free ones such as tinder or POF I feel are too easy to create false profiles

feefeegabor Tue 19-Nov-19 18:51:00

I really don't like the idea of dating apps and don't think I would ever use one

svalentine60 Tue 19-Nov-19 19:30:22

I'll be honest. I'm almost 59 and have bee divorced for over 35 years. I've had a couple of short relationships but never through an app. It's not something I would ever do. You have no idea if that person is being truthful or what could happen. To me it's a dangerous process and an unnatural one.

sscrase Tue 19-Nov-19 19:55:15

Worked for me but you have to have your wits about you. A little bit of common sense and it's a brilliant concept.

Ikea1234 Tue 19-Nov-19 20:27:23

My experience of these sites hasn't been positive to be honest. I've had similar experiences to those that others have mentioned, and it makes me wonder if there was even a vetting process for some of these morons! A friend of mine married a man she met on a particular dating site but he reminded of a mass murderer so I 'm still not entirely convinced!

s861421 Tue 19-Nov-19 20:42:04

both of my children have met their partners through apps so yes I am happy with them, but youstill need to be careful however you meet someone

xsophiefx Tue 19-Nov-19 21:29:48

I think they're fabulous! A lot of my family have met their partners using dating apps and are now happily married with children!

freefan Tue 19-Nov-19 21:34:52

Why not, it can't be any worse than the old adverts people used to put in newspapers haha.
With the internet and social media the world seems a lot smaller than it was when I was growing up so I guess there's a lot more opportunities now for people of every age to meet lots of new people.

Cailin7 Tue 19-Nov-19 21:49:33

no never used an app, not got any need to. but my cousin tried one and had an awful experience

LeeR1985 Tue 19-Nov-19 22:18:32

Dating apps are not necessarily a bad thing, but a lot of the people who use them are time wasters. I had 2 different people trying to catfish me at one point and then plenty of others who I had big conversations with and then out of nowhere they just stopped speaking. No reason why either. I found more luck offline

jessiecat Tue 19-Nov-19 22:36:46

I would definitely not use them I would be too scared. I was widowed at 36 years and divorced at 50 years so I think I will just stay in the house now,

avery64 Tue 19-Nov-19 22:38:44

We have just celebrated our Golden Wedding this summer after meeting on a blind date arranged by a friend for me to get free driving lessons as I was a penniless newly qualified teacher. Although I knew nothing about him like the people on dating sites I did trust my friend's judgement so did not go into it totally blind. After reading all the negatives in the media about dating apps I know I would never have the nerve to use them!

MrRichTea Tue 19-Nov-19 23:25:06

Maybe i'm old school, but i prefer face to face meeting, apps are still great.

yoeydavis Wed 20-Nov-19 03:31:59

I know a lot have people like to use dating apps and they have successfully paired thousands of couples, but it's not for me. I couldn't think of anything worse than being judged, or judging someone, from a photo & a short description, and then meeting an, almost, complete stranger for a coffee, dinner as, basically an interview for a relationship.

katastrophy13 Wed 20-Nov-19 08:10:06

They're easy to use but I haven't found anyone on them who really sets my world on fire! I'm staying away for the time being as I am happily single.