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Gransnetters share the legacy they'd like to leave when they're gone with Cancer Research UK

(263 Posts)
LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 20-Jan-20 10:31:36

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As we get older, we often think about what our legacy will be; what memories, relationships or objects we leave behind to reflect how we’d like to be remembered. Making a Will is a way to communicate those wishes and the things that are important to someone are often reflected by the things they include. Cancer Research UK would love to hear what matters to you when you think about your legacy.

Here’s what Cancer Research UK has to say: “We know that when writing a Will, your friends and family should always come first. Once they’re taken care of, if you have even just a small gift leftover to leave for Cancer Research UK, this will still make a huge difference. We know from meeting our wonderful supporters that people have left us a gift in their Will because they are passionate about helping to beat cancer and want to continue when they are gone.”

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

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KatyK Tue 21-Jan-20 11:33:33

We've made a will. We only have one child and everything will go to her. We have stipulated that a small amount of money should go to our three nephews who we have always been close to. We need to update our will I think as it was made over 20 years ago. We may consider leaving some to charity now. My husband has prostate cancer and he has had excellent care.

M00se Tue 21-Jan-20 11:38:55

I think that what it boils down too, is that I wish to be remembered with love and fondness.

adrisco Tue 21-Jan-20 11:42:15

Have made a will leaving everything to my four children. I hope I'm remembered as a loving mother and grandmother.

tabbaz Tue 21-Jan-20 11:51:12

To be honest with you I will leave everything to my family. HOWEVER, I do raise money for various charities and donate throughout my life. Also when I inherit from my parents then I will be making donations then too.

sputnicki63 Tue 21-Jan-20 12:13:44

I don't expect to have much money to leave especially if I need to pay for care. I'd hope to have left those around me with memories of quality time spent together though.

sheilads105 Tue 21-Jan-20 12:21:52

My children are my legacy. Over the years we have bought a few nice paintings and we plan to leave these to named children depending on which ones they like most. Not a lot but they will have a memory of us through art.

omgitslani Tue 21-Jan-20 12:57:10

It would be nice to be able to leave my family with enough to ease some of their own financial burdens. And have some left over to put to charities close to my heart. I hope I am remembered fondly by the people that I know and that my family and friends have many funny anecdotes to share about me for years to come.

moneysavvy Tue 21-Jan-20 12:59:53

I have included the rspb in my will. They provide valuable habitats, not only for birds but to preserve natural area for out future generations

happysouls Tue 21-Jan-20 13:45:08

Well there won't be any money. There is a will and hopefully that will make things easier. I hope people will just think of me from time to time and think about happy times we shared!

LOU1ASH1 Tue 21-Jan-20 13:47:40

We will not be leaving any money to charity as we are leaving whatever we have to our children.

Royston23 Tue 21-Jan-20 14:14:44

Our money will go to our daughter, we support lots of charities and we are working hard to give our daughter an easier life than we had.

glennamy Tue 21-Jan-20 15:09:49

I'd like to be known as kind after I have departed. As for charity / leaving money to them there is a good chance most will be taken by Alzheimer's care as we managed to scrimp and save for a mortgage... I now wonder why we bothered!

xsophiefx Tue 21-Jan-20 15:36:09

I really hope my family remember me as a kind and caring person. I try my best to always be positive and kind and would like people to recognize this.

live7 Tue 21-Jan-20 16:01:02

We have recently updated our wills, after about 15 years. As before we are leaving about 1/3 to charity and have specified 10 or 12 charities for it to be split between - ones that we regularly give to now. Our children have the rest between them and know we are leaving a share to charity.

Pittcity Tue 21-Jan-20 16:51:43

We would like to live long enough to spend our children's inheritance.
We give to charity in both money and time now.
As others have said we don't know what the future will bring so we hope our offspring will use anything they may inherit wisely.

sezz35sezz35 Tue 21-Jan-20 16:59:40

I support charities now via one off cash donations, buying from charity shops, giving to charity shops or hosting/attending coffee mornings etc. I would like to be remembered as kind and fun. I have no wealth to leave to charity.

kinseygirl Tue 21-Jan-20 16:59:57

I give to Charity now so will be leaving any money to my two boys.
I would also hope that my legacy to my boys would be that I always encouraged them to live life to the fullest, and to be a good, kind person.

giddyypixie Tue 21-Jan-20 17:05:04

In my will, I have left everything to my son. I haven't updated it in about 10 years and really should do as a lot has changed! I haven't set aside any for charity, as I feel I donate quite a lot now.

Minnibix Tue 21-Jan-20 17:14:59

I am leaving everything to my son although I am thinking of donating some to a charity

Damdee Tue 21-Jan-20 18:05:12

I'd like my children and grandchildren to remember me fondly, as someone who was kind and that they enjoyed spending time with.

I made a Will years ago and then it became invalid due to divorce. I know I need to make another one and think about it but the potential cost puts me off. Charities offer to make you a Will for 'free' but I would be embarrassed if I didn't leave a legacy to the charity making the Will and so would probably prefer to make one without a charity's help.

Anything I leave would be split equally between my two daughters.

abigailflo Tue 21-Jan-20 18:14:04

I have a will and my children will be beneficiaries; having worked in a solicitors office I know how important it is to leave a Will

Ikea1234 Tue 21-Jan-20 19:19:01

We have written a will, and believe we have taken care of every eventuality (if you aren't legally fluent, you have to take the advice you are given and hope it is the best) Children and grandchildren are accounted for, and we have even taken care of our tortoise (!) We haven't considered leaving money to charity, but may consider it in the future perhaps.

gd Tue 21-Jan-20 19:21:40

I hoping to spend everything and leave no legacy.

Annak789 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:11:03

I Think we all should write a will regardless of how much we have
I’m definitely going to leave some money to a charity

pinkjj27 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:13:45

My will is written I wrote when my husband wrote his when he was dying of cancer. He left money to cancer research and Macmillan. I have no idea why he did so, as when he was dying only five years ago we had no support at all from any big charity no matter how much we tried. We were always told he was terminal so they couldn’t support us. He had a rare cancer and his doctor told us it was NOT trendy enough for cancer research to offer trial drugs and there would never be any research into it as it was so rare. I felt then and still do that no one cares. I cared for my husband for 3 years with no support or help and he was treated with no dignity at all so much for all the research into it. The only support we got was a little given by Wessex Cancer trust. I have changed my will so I will only be donating to The Wessex trust.