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Gransnetters share the legacy they'd like to leave when they're gone with Cancer Research UK

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LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 20-Jan-20 10:31:36

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As we get older, we often think about what our legacy will be; what memories, relationships or objects we leave behind to reflect how we’d like to be remembered. Making a Will is a way to communicate those wishes and the things that are important to someone are often reflected by the things they include. Cancer Research UK would love to hear what matters to you when you think about your legacy.

Here’s what Cancer Research UK has to say: “We know that when writing a Will, your friends and family should always come first. Once they’re taken care of, if you have even just a small gift leftover to leave for Cancer Research UK, this will still make a huge difference. We know from meeting our wonderful supporters that people have left us a gift in their Will because they are passionate about helping to beat cancer and want to continue when they are gone.”

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

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Maggiemaybe Sun 26-Jan-20 17:27:30

We haven't included any donations to charity in our wills. Whatever is left will go to our three children in equal shares - as others have said, there is no way of knowing how much or how little this will be, and we want them to have something worth having, if at all possible.

We support several charities by direct debit now and will leave it to our children's discretion as to which they support when we're gone.

Jacquilk Sun 26-Jan-20 18:21:25

We, as a family make regular contributions of both time and money to several charities. My sister in law works in blood cancer research, an area which is making strides but is underfunded. I would be likely to donate there.

ScodieHo Sun 26-Jan-20 22:31:21

I will be leaving everything to the Dogs Trust. I think that is a better use of the money than to buy luxuries for people who are already well off. And the company of dogs has been one of life's greatest pleasures. If by legacy we mean how we are remembered, then I don't care how, or even if I am remembered. Life is for living. When you are gone you are gone,

Char123 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:51:27

I ought to start thinking about a will. I would like to leave my children as much as possible.

jeanshepherd2000 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:53:26

I've not made my will yet. I know I should but it's difficult when my circumstances keep changing. As it is the money will go to my family and they support the same charities as I do.

feeona123 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:58:46

I haven’t left anything to charity in my will as of yet. If I knew my kids would be financially stable then I could change this.

fullarton121 Mon 27-Jan-20 09:27:55

I will be leaving money to cancer research for them to research and hopefully beat the horrible illness.

Hubbers Mon 27-Jan-20 11:48:22

I have made a will though am still trying to decide which charities I would like to leave money to, assuming there's any left! Obviously family will come first and I will leave modest amounts of cash for my great-nephews and nieces, to be invested until they 'come of age' (to do with as they please or help towards Univerity tuition fees.) A cancer charity would certainly be among my bequests, but also certain animal welfare and environmental charities. As for my 'legacy' I'm not sure... to be remembered as someone who loved animals, who was kind, who tried hard (though may not always have succeeded) and whose heart was definitely in the right place.

Jabba Mon 27-Jan-20 13:17:58

I think care will eat up anything I have. I do all my charitable giving now. For my non-monetary legacy I would love to be remembered with fondness as a kind person

Charleygirl5 Mon 27-Jan-20 16:41:32

I am horrified to read the number of people who have not made a will.

I have, including making provision for my cat if I die before she does!

Any money I possess, mainly selling my house, will be eaten up by care home fees but I have mentioned several charities in my will.

heatherjw Mon 27-Jan-20 17:03:59

My husband and I always review our will each Easter. It is a habit we got into after our marriage (a second marriage for both of us) and the needs of our children regularly changed as they got older. All the children are now adult, and we have chosen to pass some assets on to them before we die or need to pay care costs, that way we get to see them use and benefit from the money and we hopefully avoid inheritance tax. I have seen real family disagreements with wills and in two situations the family disregarded the deceased wishes and drew up a Deed of Family Rearrangement, to distribute funds in a differnt way. I therefore try and support my chosen charities while I am alive rather than hope that my wishes be fully carried out after my death.

atombomb Mon 27-Jan-20 19:23:45

does it sound daft--id like --to invent something .Something that still proves uesful once im gone

lemongrove Mon 27-Jan-20 20:44:49

When our wills are updated, I would like to make sure that
Three charities get donations.They are ones that I support anyway, but leaving something to them is a lovely thought.

HettyMaud Mon 27-Jan-20 20:51:10

We are also leaving some money to the RSPB and other environmental organisations. Without a decent environment there is no future.

mandydoherty65 Mon 27-Jan-20 21:11:41

I'd like my legacy to be that my children and grandchildren are respectful, kind and caring. It will be our family home and it's contents that will be left equally between my children and my grandchildren will be allowed to take anything of sentimental value and I hope that I leave them with memories that bring them comfort and a smile to their face

mumofmadboys Tue 28-Jan-20 07:25:27

Our will leaves our money to our 5 children equally. We give to several charities presently. Wateraid is one of our favourites. When we have GC we may update our will and leave some seperately to them.

devonnanny Tue 28-Jan-20 07:25:52

A serious health scare prompted my OH and I to write our wills, leaving everything first to the surviving partner then equally between the children. Like other posters we make prefer to make regular gifts to our chosen charities now but leave any estate left to our children.

Livvie21 Tue 28-Jan-20 11:32:20

My husband is younger than me, I will leave everything to him and my children. I don't really have anything much to leave and I would rather I left it all to family.
I hope people remember me for being funny and clever.

grannyactivist Tue 28-Jan-20 12:38:02

My legacy? hmm

I'm very fortunate that I see my 'legacy' now and am really blessed to do so. We have made a positive difference by sharing our home with very many people over the years and by supporting people through the trauma of homelessness, mental illness and learning difficulties. Many of the people I've worked with have been at the end of their own resources and had given up on life - and are now enjoying stability again. There is no price to be put on that.

Our children lived their whole childhoods in a goldfish bowl, sharing their home (and their parents) with strangers. It has had a huge impact on their lives and not all of it was positive at the time, but they are now very thankful for those experiences and value many of the relationships that were forged - especially with their foster brothers. When they inherit financially from the eventual sale of their childhood home I hope they will feel that our house, having provided for so many others over the years, has provided a tangible return for them.

SuzC Tue 28-Jan-20 12:51:00

We have made a will that leaves most of our estate equally between the children - but they do not inherit until they are older as we want them to learn to stand on their own two feet first and the value of hard earned money. We have also left small sums to nieces & nephews and very personal items to named individuals.

I donate monthly to quite a few charities - but yes, if I felt my estate would allow after making sure my children/grandchildren would be okay in life I would consider a gift in my will. Cancer touches most people in their lives sadly so thus would be a good cause.

I hope my children remember me most for the fun times & adventures & experiences I tried to fill their younger years with.

marymod Wed 29-Jan-20 00:00:54

I hope to leave a legacy of being kind and enjoying life. I plan to leave as much money as I can to my son, but also have included some smaller amounts to charities that I support.

CleoPanda Wed 29-Jan-20 10:59:27

I hope family and friends remember me as kind, caring and sensitive. I’m sorting out a new Will this year - lots to think about. I have supported a range of charities all my working life but can’t offer as much in my retirement. I may consider some bequests but there are so many worthwhile causes, it’s difficult to choose which ones.

florrie01 Wed 29-Jan-20 11:38:03

We dont currently consider ourselves as well off enough to be able to leave money to a charity in our will. Our 2 children will be the only beneficiaries having an equal split in our estate. This said we do currently make contributions every month to 2 charities that are close to our hearts. Should our financial situation change in the future i would certainly consider leaving money to a charity

RubyWine Wed 29-Jan-20 13:21:28

I have recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and going for operation very soon. and have already made arrangements to leave to my adult children and 2 charities one of them being Cancer research and the other to Macmillan as I have a very supportive nurse who has helped me come to terms with this.
After going for a number of scans I now have to have a lobectomy and praying all goes well so I can watch my grandchildren and great-grandchildren grow up as much as I am able.

wildchild Wed 29-Jan-20 14:57:00

I haven't named any charities in my will as I have nothing to leave, but if things change then so might my will.