Cosmetic surgery - worth the risk?

It isnt always to make people look younger, but better, and feel more confident ,if something was really bothering them
My grand daughter also has bags under her eyes, can be hereditary, and is saving up to have surgery, because she always looks tired, which was why i had mine got rid of

If you have a really big nose or something like that then it's ok, but putting yourself through surgery just to look younger is not something I'd do.

I have had 2 eye suregeries, the main reason being i always had bags even when when a teenager and people commented on them, i didnt manage to get anything done until my late 40s, and only because my daughter helped pay for them, i felt like a different person, it gave me the confidence i never had, and even changed the way i dressed, i felt worthy of looking good in every way, fast forward to 1995, i went for another,[bags do come back] a great mistake, but only because i picked a surgeon from an ad in the paper, it left me with one eye bigger than the other, and i wore dark glasses to cover it up, it has gone back to more normality now, but took a long time
So just pick a good surgeon and make sure hes qualified check the register of cosmetic surgeons,[that surgeon was struck off as apparently i wasnt the only one whose surgery went
wrong]
I would love a neck lift, but probably too old now, and couldnt afford it anyway, but hate my jowls and turkey neck, so now looking into non surgical facial toning machines,
I did post on advice from anyone who has used them, yesterday, and some have good reviews
If you want it done and find a good surgeon i would say go for it, you will feel so much more confident
My daughter has had the HIFU treatment which seemms very popular just now, supposed to encourage collagen to regenerate, but i can see no difference, you can have the whole face treated or just certain areas, but i think its been a waste of money
Good luck

I think the most unattractive thing about vanity surgery is just that... vanity
It's all more of being unaccepting of age and yes it is age or else people would have procedures to make them look older I hate the idea that we are now so unable to accept ourselves and what we ve been given that we need to change it
I m not a confident person I don't love what I ve been given but I think to spend so much money on changing what God if you believe or fate if you don't has given you is totally self absorbed The strange thing is most people who have cosmetic procedures look no better to others if you look at most celebrities who ve had work done they look so much worse because it brings no contentment, they are constantly chasing the perfection they yearn for and most folks who ve had a 'little eye lift' or a wrinkle filled out here or there, look no different
Watching the old folks (Marigold hotel ) in US the other night on TV and seeng Rosemary Stregar having a 'little filler' made me laugh she looked absolutely no different as the 'surgeon' walked to the bank

Cosmetic surgery is, medically speaking, like any other surgery; there’s no increased assumption of risk simply due to the cosmetic nature of the procedures, and many are comparatively minor. www.cosmeticare.com/

Nelliemoser, I daren't show photos of what I looked like before I had the surgery, they are too awful! But I would be very happy to show you what I look like now.

Yep, blame my tablet and me for not spotting it in the preview!

Funny, reading Judi's comment about being too old, that's almost what Maggie Smith said. It's like both of them are saying they're too old for it not to be obvious. Meryl Streep is only in her mid 60s, so she's a lot younger than the other two.

It would be nice if people were honest about it. I did laugh when I was watching that Loose Women clip on YouTube. They were talking about guests on the show who have carpet tape stuck on the back of their necks to make them look better on camera. The loose women in their seats can see it clearly, but not the audience - and they all said that once they spot it, they can't stop looking at it!

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Well I don't know about "Judi French" (darned iPads?) but this lady hasn't!

Wilma I'm sure that both Meryl Streep and Judi Dench have had work done. As indeed have others who claim that their "natural" beauty is solely as a result of good genes, plenty of water and a lots of energetic s..x. Yeah.

I don't blame them one bit for having stuff done. Getting old in the acting profession is tough. But making out that your ageless beauty is natural when it clearly isn't is a blatant lie.

Maggie Smith clearly hasn't had plastic surgery and Meryl Streep speaks out against it, although admits she's blessed with her Scandinavian heritage bone structure. Some experts are not convinced though and think she's had small amounts of work done over her career. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. Judi French though has almost certainly had work done above and below her eyes to remove loose skin (blepharoplasty). Apparently it is virtually impossible to see the fine scars after about 6 months and doesn't even require a stay in hospital as it's done as an outpatient procedure.

It's also worthwhile saying looking natural is the point of plastic surgery. Nobody wants people to look at them and know that they've had it done. Many treatments are non-invasive these days too without the risk of anesthetic.

Actually I'm surprised at how many posters have said they've had work done.

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Venus do you have any before or after cosmetic surgery photographs you would be prepared to show us?

I am on the no side. As LuckyGirl and others have said, I feel that cosmetic surgery purely for reasons of personal vanity is buying into the concept that aging is wrong and unnaceptable.

For the sake of anyone with less than "perfect" features we should be able to accept people as they look. Personality is what is important.
Look at these women.

Dame Judi Dench in 2007 (b 1934)
Dame Maggie Smith (b1934)
Meryl Streep (b1949)

They look natural and they are all strong women not worried about lines and wrinkles.

What is even more worrying about all these cosmetic surgery "fads" is that quite a few younger woman now seem to be thinking that they need surgery to obtain "designer vaginas."

mrsjones my Dad's youngest sister is only 12 years older than me and keeps telling me to stop catching up her as she has to keep 'adjusting' her age!

Alea, of course there are other signs of aging, but having cosmetic surgery has given me much more self assurance, and I'm quite happy to be taken for a lot younger than I am. I keep active, have always taken care of myself and, if I can find the time and finance, I would have a lot more done. I will do my best to hold back time, evn if it's only in appearance. I don't think people should beat themselves up about thinking that they're being vain. So what! You do it to please yourself and if I'm vain, I simply don't care. I'm happy!

I don't want to look ten years younger than my age, but I feel that I look ten years older, as having lost weight I now have horrid 'turkey neck' . So I'd just like to look my age ( and have smaller breasts because they are uncomfortable and make buying clothes very difficult). I certainly couldn't afford both procedures even if I were brave enough!

I'd like to look 10 years younger but am too much of a wimp to put myself through surgery for cosmetic reasons. I keep slim, have a modern hairstyle and generally make the best of myself. I'm 27 in my mind and that's good enough for now!

Oh dear , I like to think I look as good as I can (give or take the odd stone lb or two) but I am who I am and(dare I say) proud of that. I am conscious that with 3 very stylish DDs I don't want to appear a frump, but let's face it, anybody over the age of 40/50 is "old" so "10 years younger" isn't as big a deal to younger people as it might be to us!! Good luck to those who feel they want to go down that road, but like Lesley Ash(she of the trout pout) you have to bear in mind that things can and do go wrong and rather like cases I have seen of unwise hair dyes, what you see in the mirror is not necessarily what others see!

It does not always go according to plan for one thing.

o.k. peoples, whats wrong with wanting to get rid of signs of ageing,
bit of vanity is o.k. My son paid for mine, said he liked a young looking mum.

Alea I could not agree more- the pain after a knee replacement is not a barrel of laughs either. I have never experienced pain like it so no way would I contemplate cosmetic surgery- having seen too much "from the other side".

Venus(is the clue in the name? ) I doubt whether people who are paying top prices are not also getting top surgeons (Jane Asher amongst others) but much as I hate to disappoint you, you cannot turn the clock back. It goes on ticking.
Apart from the other issues of image - have you looked at the backs of their hands? Their knees? Their feet? Their décolletage? Collagen loss can show in surprising places. Then there are age spots, there is deterioration in hair texture, not to mention other less visible, shall we say," signs of ageing" mental acuity, cataracts, arthritis, bladder control, hip or knee replacement surgery, vision and hearing.
Hate to be depressing, but it is self-delusion to think that just because you look 10 years younger, you are!
PS it nearly killed me
Really?
You want to try triple bypass surgery

It is a painful operation! I had mine lifted and it nearly killed me!!!

Although I believe it's a painful operation I do wonder why more people don't go for breast reduction. I'm thinking of people like a certain over-endowed politician who was on Structly several years ago. It must be so hard having to lug those around with you everywhere, especially as you age and things go south.

Daddima

I saw a clip from Loose Women the other day and was shocked at how Sherrie Hewson looked. She's clearly had a lot of work done, but not only did her face hardly move, it affected the way she spoke. She didn't seem to be able to move her mouth properly. Anyone looking at her would know she's had work done. I didn't think it looked at a natural.

Alea, if you go to a good cosmetic surgeon, your face will look perfectly natural. It will look refreshed, not artificial at all. And yes, in appearance, you can turn the clock back ten years. Infact the surgeon who did the show 'Ten years younger' is the one who operated on me. I still have plenty of character in my face and am delighted with the result. I would love more done, but don't have the time these days. I haven't ruled out having more done though.