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Bare arms -yay or nay?

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gettingonabit Sat 08-Apr-17 10:29:00

Over the past year I've managed to lose some weight. It's only about a stone and a bit, but I'm gradually feeling a little more confident about putting previously-hidden bits of myself on display again.

I've also been doing some weight training. I'm a little more toned all over my body, but I have been noticing the difference in my arms particularly. There is much less bingo-wingeage now.

I'm slimmish, with straight shoulders. I'm not used to seeing myself with bare arms unless in sports wear. So-should I?

And another thing-I was brought up with the notion that you NEVER went bare-armed in the office. Is this still the case?

Thoughts, o wise, stylish ones?

Anya Sat 08-Apr-17 20:38:51

I'm of the opinion that your Great Aunt Jenny was a wise woman Anniebach and LadyGracie speaks sense too.

Judthepud2 Sat 08-Apr-17 21:30:48

I don't like seeing the cellulite on my upper arms so prefer to keep them covered. Wish I could go sleeveless like when I was in my 40s. Ah well. Tempus fugit!

NonnaW Sat 08-Apr-17 22:39:09

In my experience office temperatures were always way too cold for me to have bare arms! Otherwise I would have done,

annodomini Sat 08-Apr-17 23:00:29

I never had to suffer office temperatures but in College, the classrooms I usually taught in were overshadowed by a neighbouring multi-storey car park, so were not conducive to bearing flesh.

Anniebach Sun 09-Apr-17 10:24:05

Anya, I haven't worn even short sleeves since my early forties and for years I cover my flesh ,as instructed by g aunt Jinny, I wear floaty, skirts and dresses to ankles , sleeves three quarter or long but again floaty, if i like a dress with sleeves just above the elbow I use silk shawls , always have loved floaty wear in summer and straw hats with scarves or flowers around the brim, and I am very skinny and quite tall. Love kaftans

gettingonabit Sun 09-Apr-17 10:31:11

I think I may have a Great Aunt Jinny equivalent shaking her finger at me too!

I remember going to a nightclub back in the day decked out in my father's shirt, green footless tights and a very high pair of stilettos.

My mother hid from the neighbours for weeks!

Anniebach Sun 09-Apr-17 11:09:51

The one thing my mother banned from the house was my afghan coat, had to keep it in an outhouse, if wet it ponged.

Off topic but this was so,like many mums, I was going on a big demo, my father said take care , don't get involved in any trouble, my Mum ? Don't get arrested you will be on tv grin

Lostmyglassesxx Sun 09-Apr-17 11:14:15

Seriously
Why are you asking this in 2017!
Unless you have a horrific skin condition get your arms out ...presumably they look ok after your weigh training .exfoliate slap on a good moisturiser and go forth with your biceps !

Daisydoo2 Sun 09-Apr-17 11:17:54

Arms is arms, get them out and get the sun on them. I refuse to sweat/feel sick for vanity. Be proud.

Witzend Sun 09-Apr-17 12:14:57

I am not overweight, but I don't like to inflict my ageing flesh on anybody. Of course everybody is entitled to wear whatever they like, but personally I think skimpy things + old, and particularly + old and wobbly, do not look at all nice.
For warm weather I like loose, floaty cotton or linen, at least to elbows and calves. Can be very casual or dressy, and quite apart from anything else, it's usually cooler than having the sun beating down on your skin.
The only exceptions for me are beach or pool.

Caramac Sun 09-Apr-17 13:04:30

I wear what I want and that often means bare arms in the summer. My arms are reasonably slim and toned which is also partly due to weight training and partly good luck. Wear what you want.

Sheilasue Sun 09-Apr-17 13:27:20

I never bare my arms now, unless I am in the garden. To wobbly.

Peaseblossom Sun 09-Apr-17 13:59:56

I always wore sleeveless low necked tops to work in the summer, often with thin straps and a strapless bra. I always wore trousers/trouser suits. Luckily I have good arms and am slim, apart from my middle, which has annoyingly started to expand for no apparent reason, although thankfully still much smaller than my hips. What I hate is some of the girls showing massive cleavage which is totally unsuitable for work and one of them (in her mid 50s!) was overweight and looked 7 months pregnant and her cleavage was almost up to her neck! I found it embarrassing and thought there should have been a dress code. A girl in her 20s wore shorts and tights, which I think is a silly fashion and shorts are not suitable for work.

GranDi Sun 09-Apr-17 14:21:25

Come on ladies - flap your wings! Several years ago I contributed a piece (The seven signs of ageing) to a book entitled Defining Women - on mature reflection (Third Age Press). In it I announced the official launch of the "Campaign for the Freedom of Bingo Wings'. Sadly it never got off the ground so maybe it's time to try again. I maintain that ugliness is in the eye of the beholder so let's be 'cool', unashamed and not embarrassed.

Caro1954 Sun 09-Apr-17 14:49:45

Dress in what makes you feel comfortable - be guided by your instincts. Well done for losing and getting toned!

Nanna58 Sun 09-Apr-17 15:02:27

Wouldn't bare at work, but anywhere else I don't mind as long as arms are tanned(real or fake!)!

Willow500 Sun 09-Apr-17 15:26:46

Great work losing the extra weight and I agree if your arms are looking toned then go sleeveless if that's what you want. I lost quite a lot of weight a few years ago but unfortunately it left me with awful sagging skin on my upper arms - if I bend forward it looks like it's going to run down to my wrists shock It reminds me of my mum's arm when she was in her 90's and in care (I'm 63) so it has to be extremely hot for me to go sleeveless. However I'm not sure about in the office - as I work from home I could go topless in my office and no one would know grin

acanthus Sun 09-Apr-17 15:39:08

If you feel comfortable baring your arms, then go for it. Personally there are several parts of my body which I don't put on public view: ears (ugly things generally - apart from my DD's which are small and perfect), toes (mine are in good nick but I still don't like seeing mine or other people's), arms and legs. If I could get away with it I'd put a paper bag over my head too...perhaps it's time for me to invest in a few burkas. Good on you by the way for tackling the arm flab - ever since breaking my shoulder twenty years ago my upper right arm flesh flaps in the wind!

henetha Sun 09-Apr-17 17:24:39

Sounds like you might be just fine with bare arms, gettingonabit, with your new slim toned arms. Anyway, I think we should wear whatever we want and feel comfortable with.
Definitely sleeves for me though, with my untoned arms!

gettingonabit Sun 09-Apr-17 17:27:07

Thanks all. I went out for a walk earlier and didn't realise how hot it was! I took off my thin parka-thingy and tied it around my waist (until I got back to civilization) and it felt....ok.

Whilst people-watching in the supermarket I noticed a LOT of flesh on display, young and old. I think it must be a British thing-we don't get much sun but, boy, when we do, everyone goes mad!

I think I must be a winter person because I dislike dressing for summer and feel quite exposed in the sun even if I'm fully covered. Weird!

clough1945 Sun 09-Apr-17 21:05:03

Do lots of Pilates and you can be proud of your arms

gettingonabit Sun 09-Apr-17 22:07:20

I do Pilates, clough. I find it good for toning up if a bit tedious.

Shizam Sun 09-Apr-17 23:16:49

Upper arms go weird as you get older. I had spectacular muscly arms from years of riding horses. Now they look all wasted and prone to creasing depending on angle. Hate it. But once it's hot, I have no option but to go sleeveless as the other thing that's gone is my thermostat. Far too hot in sleeves in summer. My knees are also going wrinkly and yet I still wear shorts. Sorry world!

Flowerofthewest Sun 09-Apr-17 23:32:40

I once waved goodbye to my DD and DGD from the car. In the wing mirror my wings continued to wave even though the rest of my arm had stopped. Go ahead it seems that you've worked hard to tone.

Rowantree Mon 10-Apr-17 00:48:10

I was once involved in a heated online discussion with some Americans about guns. They ferociously defended their God-given right to 'bare arms' grin

What's good enough for them....