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Hairdressing awkward problem

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Daisydoo2 Fri 15-Dec-17 10:25:30

I have been having my hair dyed, cut and styled with the same hairdresser for years. Unfortunately the price is getting too much every 4 weeks. I can dye my hair myself to save a substantial amount (I am quite good at it and do my friends hair) but, because my hairdresser has done it for years, I don't know how to tell her I just want a cut probably every 6 or 7 weeks, I feel really disloyal so haven't booked my next appointment and gave an excuse that I will phone later. On the grand scale of things I know this is pathetic but I have no tact when I say things and don't want to cause any upset. What do you say to prevent awkwardness. Thank you.

GrannyA11i Mon 18-Dec-17 00:42:34

Nice an easy is good but I’ve started using e salon - it comes in the post blended for your hair length and colour. It’s really good. I just stopped getting mine coloured at the hairdressers when I stopped working full time and then went for a cut with recently coloured hair - my hairdresser has been fine about it - even said what a lovely colour I’ve done! The bit I find difficult is what to tip!

ElaineI Mon 18-Dec-17 00:05:08

It is not like a doctor or dentist. My hairdresser put her prices up to city prices (live in a small town) so I have tried all local hairdressers and found someone more reasonable that I trust and am happy with. It's a pity but you can overprice yourself and lose out.

f77ms Sun 17-Dec-17 15:14:52

Lazigirl Nice and easy is about the best but go for a shade lighter than you would like the end result to be as grey hair is porous . Also decide if you need a warm shade or cool shade . Ash tones are not good for older people and will wash you out , but without knowing what colour you want to end up I can`t suggest anything more .

Greengage Sun 17-Dec-17 15:07:12

Am I the only person who has hated going to the hairdressers all my life - probably due to the hairdresser always cutting my hair far too short when I was a child even though my mum tried to stop him too! I haven't been to a hairdressers in years, and actually cut my own these days too (with a little difficulty, haha)!

Cubagran Sun 17-Dec-17 13:45:54

That should be put £10 a week away!

Cubagran Sun 17-Dec-17 13:45:00

I go about every 6 - 8 weeks for a cut, blowdry and colour (sometimes just roots touch up, other times highlights), and I pay about £60. I find if I can put about £10 away, I have saved for it. I do the same for my paper bill and window cleaner. Had to change hairdresser recently because my old one had become unreliable, and my new one is a breath of fresh air - she is on maternity leave at the moment, so I am working my way through the other stylists in the salon!

ElroodFan Sun 17-Dec-17 09:17:12

Since retiring I've gone to my local college to allow trainees to cut my hair. A cut and blow dry costs me £7. I can honestly say I've never come away with a bad cut. The tutor is always there to keep an eye on things. I've never enquirered about costs but they do colouring and perms as well.

lionpops Sun 17-Dec-17 08:00:13

I had the same problem. I told her my granddaughter was now cutting it as she needed the money. I now use supercuts for £14.95 a drop in and have found they have given me a much better cut. You could just make an appointment and then phone up and cancel it.

PamSJ1 Sun 17-Dec-17 06:35:22

I think I'm lucky with my hairdresser. She charges £18 for cut and blow which I tend to have every 6 to 8 weeks. I have it base coloured and highlights roughly 3 to four times a year for which she charges £35 including cut and blow. The colour lasts quite well as grey blends with the highlights blend as it comes through and so isn't immediately noticeable! My hairdresser is good. When she does it if she's not happy with how the highlights look she works on them until she is.

pinkwallpaper Sun 17-Dec-17 05:40:51

Would it not be better if you explained your predicament and asked your hairdresser for advice on home colouring rather than turn up having done it. I am sure she would be happy to give it and would appreciate her professional advice being asked.

ajanela Sun 17-Dec-17 04:51:00

Hairdressers must be use to this and expect it as people get older, retire and move away, she must adjust her business to meet her clients needs. Many hairdressers have diversified offering beauty treatments to expand their business.

If you reduce your appointments you are giving her a chance to take on new clients. And if she is good that won't be a problem. Or she may want to reduce her workload and not work so much as she must be getting older.

If you have been going to her for years she may be wondering if you are ill or she has upset you so maybe the best thing is to tell her over the phone when you make your next appt.

mumofmadboys Sat 16-Dec-17 23:34:27

I have my hair cut and blow dried every 8-9 weeks in a bob. I go to the hairdressers with freshly washed wet hair. Cut and blow dry costs £17.50

LuckyFour Sat 16-Dec-17 23:24:21

Don't worry about your hairdresser, she'll be fine. Just start colouring your own hair. I do mine every four/five weeks, I couldn't possibly afford to pay someone to do it. Also hairdressers take hours , I've seen people having it done. Couldn't waste all that time,

judylow Sat 16-Dec-17 22:48:52

I wash my hair at home as I hate the back wash and also was trying to save money and then pay £16.50 for a cut which is pensioner's rate. Just let your hairdresser know it is getting expensive for you, I'm sure she will understand. Mine said that is it is the regular customers like me who are her bread and butter.

SpringyChicken Sat 16-Dec-17 21:34:47

Daisydoo2, some things are easier said over the phone than face to face. This may be one of them.
Ring her soon (to get it over with) and ask her to book you in for a trim but no colour. Then tell her the truth, that you have to make some economies and you are going to have to colour it yourself from now on. She'll understand if you tell her the truth rather than prevaricate and most of the embarrassment on your part will have eased by the time you see her again. If she doesn't like it, well, she wasn't your friend after all, was she?

newnanny Sat 16-Dec-17 20:55:42

I always colour at home using two boxes of colour every 6 weeks as my hair is long. I only have it cut twice a year about 2 inches each time. It grows quite quickly. I sometimes wonder about having it cut more but I have always had long hair and I am a bit worried to change it now.

W11girl Sat 16-Dec-17 19:16:46

I would be honest with her. She will be happy that you still want her to cut your hair. Not a problem.

Lazigirl Sat 16-Dec-17 17:39:27

I'm starting to think I am being ripped off for cut and blow dry (no colour) costing £49, which I can't really justify. I don't live in a city either! I don't colour my hair but it is looking very insipid as it loses colour, not a nice white, but pepper and salt look. I dread to think how much even highlights will cost. Can anyone recommend an easy home dye?

GrannyLondon Sat 16-Dec-17 17:35:57

Why not try longer between appointments? 6 to 8 weeks might be fine. Try that first, then have a rethink if that doesn’t work.
Explain things to her. I’m sure she would rather keep your custom.
Golden girl. Which products did your hairdresser recommend?

blue60 Sat 16-Dec-17 17:29:12

I think just be honest and say you're having to cut back on expenses and this is one of them.

I stopped having my hair highlighted nine months ago. I am naturally blonde and found my natural silver is coming through and blends rather well in to my hair.

The cost for a cut and blow dry is £30 which I have every six weeks or so to keep the shape good (a bob). Colouring was £75, which I was beginning to feel as a luxury I didn't really want. So, I just booked in for a cut and was never asked why.

I'd prefer to spend £75 on other things.

Daisydoo2 Sat 16-Dec-17 15:26:42

Sarah I haven't dyed my own hair yet, I do my friends hair. It is the 4 weekly dye that is so expensive which I need to rectify... without upsetting my hairdresser, I am trying to work out how to do this.

sarahellenwhitney Sat 16-Dec-17 11:39:55

Daisydo2
What exactly are you trying to achieve? As you already dye your own hair that is not the issue but I cannot see how you need a cut or trim every four weeks unless it is growing like grass. I go eight weeks between cuts.
I do not think you would offend your stylist by being honest but do you have to justify your actions to anyone?If you want more space between cuts and your actions appear to upset your stylist then look elsewhere. You have paid for her services so you owe her nothing.

TellNo1Ok Sat 16-Dec-17 11:25:50

a couple of years ago i actually changed hairdressers... though i loved them ... they had increased their costs over time and i thought... hold on .. this is a step too far ...

When i'd found another i liked i wrote to the owner.. who i knew and admired... telling him why i wouldn't be back... no reply but my new hairdresser has actually been a breath of fresh air...

JanaNana Sat 16-Dec-17 11:00:28

Before you book your next appointment do your own colour before you go. When booking next say it will just be a cut this time. Then when you have your appointment you can say my situations changed at the moment and I,m having to do things differently. Yes your hairdresser has her business to run, but as you have been a good loyal customer and friends with her she should be able to accept this without any problem. I would think other customers have had to make cutbacks at times so you won't be the first. It will be the initial awkwardness I think but once you,ve done it then next time will be easier. I always used to book my next appointment in advance while paying my bill, but this tends to create more of a permanence. Just ring as and when between appointments to be more flexible.

goldengirl Sat 16-Dec-17 10:44:27

I too found colour rinsing my hair at the hairdressers expensive. I asked for just the cut instead and she suggested some very good products for colour rinsing my hair at home - I just want a hint of colour - and it's all worked out fine. It's best be honest I think and I found it wasn't an awkward situation after all.