Shapewear

I have a strapless slip thing and I also have the long shorts, but going to the loo in either, much less both, has to be planned like a military operation.

So fed up with us ladies of a certain age being made to feel we should look like magazine shoots. Our bodies are marvellous machines, have given us our children, and carried us on our journey through life.

Bravo GrannyGravy13!

I understand the need to look svelte and for the flabby bits and bulges to be under control, but imo shape-wear is the work of the Devil unless you are reasonably thin to start with. Ironic, huh?

I tried an all in one piece - almost like a swimming costume but stronger and all it did was ride up and push any spare flesh I had out of the top and bottom. It was extremely uncomfortable. It flattened my tummy somewhat but because I am not slim, the whole thing kept rucking up. It was so constrictive and I was uncomfortable all day and felt awful.

I'd suggest some decent control pants but I tried those too and they kept rolling over at the waist and were hellish to get on and off. In the loo I I was jumping up and down (like giving myself continual wedgies) to try and get the horrid things back up.

I have learnt my lesson. I'd go for a loose fitting jacket and blouse with either a skirt of trousers (depending on whether you want legs on show) and some fabulous shoes a lovely bag and stylish costume jewellery. It's important to feel comfortable on the day. You'll enjoy it more. Good luck!

What about a skirt with a matching loose top over it. I've seen this sort of thing in Bon Marche and Edinburgh Woolen Mill. When you wear them they look like a dress and can be very pretty.

I have bought lots of shapewear on the past and its all in the drawer. I never wear it , too uncomfortable!

My tummy has never been flat although TBH I suppose it's not too bad. I have some M&S firm knickers but for DD2's wedding I bought an M&S long line shaper. It was very high waisted, supposed to go up almost t my bra. The assistant said I could return it if it wasn't the right size. I've a few pounds still to lose on Frugal February but I'm not overweight but I had such a struggle getting into it because of my generous thighs that I could not possibly have returned it, the elastic was all out of shape. Anyway, I wore it to the wedding and it made a difference but the high waist didn't stay up, it sort of wrinkled downwards.

this thread has really made me laugh, with 'continual wedgies', and people (silverlining48) waking up in an ambulance.

Waking up in an ambulance has scared me off buying shape wear.

The thing is, if you were taken poorly, somebody might need to loosen your clothing. Imagine them trying?

I am hugely embarrassed just thinking about it...

Just be careful with the all in ones when Youbneed the loo, I wore one and the more alchohol I drunk the more difficult it was to catch the flap when I bent !!! Not a pretty sight

Why not wear something by “Masai “. .? Lovely colours stylish and loose fitting!

The video supplied by OldMeg is a hoot. That's what most REAL women look like in shapewear.

Let’s hear it for Grannygravy13 and Day6!! I’ve tried various shapewear and just ended up in the loo taking it off (or I too might have ended up in an ambulance!). I just got hotter and hotter and more and more flustered - horrible. Buy something cool and floaty OP and just enjoy yourself!

If only tummy a problem look up what foods to avoid that cause bloating, and cut them out for a week or so before the event. Shapewear very uncomfortable and I found it took so long to struggle she going to the loo that I had to make sure I never left it too late, !

OldMeg brilling video

oops.... brilliant

Nanawind, if you decide to buy any shapewear, have a practice run at home, one thing I found useful was an all day panty liner, because they get quite sweaty.
What I also found useful was spare underwear, because after wearing them for 3 hours at a wedding, I couldn’t wait to take them off!
Hot, sweaty and uncomfortable, not only that but every time I touched somebody we both got a static shock, probably due in part to the carpeting in the venue, but, never again.
Apart from a close friend noticing that I had lost weight ,all eyes were on the bride and I just felt uncomfortable.

I bought mine from M & S for our eldest wedding in 2016. It's full shape wear that you wear as an under garment. I wear it as a pull on and there are no buttons and bottoms to mess with for toilet use. It cost me £30. That should work

Have you thought of trying the Lagenlook style clothes? You don't say what size you are or how tall, but what about something like this

www.lagenlookclothinguk.co.uk/collections/new-in/products/copy-of-lagenlook-lace-poncho-top-in-dove-grey-code-14052

I started buying some of their stuff when due to disability the weight went on, and when I wear something floaty like the one in the link, find I feel very elegant, might be worth a look???

If you Google 'Lagenlook', there are lots of companies that sell it, some is better made than others, but you can usually get an idea from the price - the company I gave the link to, is generally a reasonable finish.

Forgot to say, I too bought control wear for my daughters wedding, started off OK, but when I got up after the meal, I found it had started rolling down from under the bust and I looked like I'd got two sets of boobs - off to my room to remove and feel comfortable, no one looks at you much after the ceremony!!

I've always fancied a salwar kameez suit, but never got round to ordering one:
www.utsavfashion.com/salwar
But they don't tell you the sizes, and most come as pieces ready to be stitched. I like the idea of matching trousers, because I have spindleshanks legs.
Here's a selection for plus sizes:
www.utsavfashion.com/plus

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I wore the full slip one for my daughter's and my own weddings . It was really comfortable and gave me a sleek silhouette which was very flattering. I felt very confident in it. Why don't you go and try some on ? They are very worth trying.

Can someone help me here - when buying shapewear do you buy your normal size or a size below?

wear light trousers floaty, and fabulous shoes. A great haircut and colour and a lovely top.