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Matching sets of lingerie

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CanadianGran Thu 24-Oct-19 04:40:55

I follow a fashion blog authored by a middle aged woman, and the topic came up regarding a new line of bras that she had heard were comfortable, but she hadn't tried them because they did not offer matching panties. She only wore matching sets.

Not being of the matching set crowd, this made me curious.

What ratio of bras to panties would one purchase? I don't wash my bra with every wear, so one would either need many sets to make it through the week, or purchase 1 bra to every 5 panties. Is this what is done?

What if you are wearing light trousers and a dark top? Do you break rank?

What about cost? I know I pay quite a bit for a nice bra, but the matching panties tend to be extraordinarily expensive.

I have a few favourite bras, and do my best to colour match with my fav cotton undies. You may, however, find me unmatched if I end up hit by a bus and end up in the hospital.

Thoughts?

sarahellenwhitney Thu 24-Oct-19 12:31:55

No one to appreciate sadwhat I wear so it's plain white no frills.

LondonGranny Thu 24-Oct-19 12:27:31

I've never had a matching set other than I usually get black or white underwear because it's easier. My problem with matching sets is they usually are sold in sets and I have much bigger boobs than bum, if you see what I mean.
I do have sort of matching sets in the old comfortable grey big knickers and slightly saggy wire-free bra for pottering round the house & garden but I don't think you meant that sort of matching set.

Mollygo Thu 24-Oct-19 12:21:22

I have skin tone and black bras and pants (with one white bra that I only ever wash with whites for fear of colour change), though they weren’t bought as matching sets. My best buy a year ago was 6 pairs of very fine skin tone pants from Lidl. Always fit perfectly, no VPL, wash perfectly and dry quickly. 2 snags-I’ve never found them since and they didn’t do bras.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 24-Oct-19 12:15:34

Actually, Maw, I think our aunts didn't allow themselves to even think the word sexy.

My grandmother wore salmon pink corsets and knickers.

I have some matching sets, mainly for DH's delectation although I do like wearing them.

I have always felt they were only for best, as underpants (mine at least) do need more frequent washing then bras.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 24-Oct-19 11:58:35

Most of my underwear is pastel - white, beige or whatever. I hate black. Often I match 'like with like.' What I prefer is underwear that is smooth as I don't want visible seams.

Please don't use the word 'panties' as it puts me in mind of Benny Hill's character - was it Fred Scuttlebucket or something? Cringe.

Annaram1 Thu 24-Oct-19 11:55:55

Crystaltips

What beautiful underwear you have made! Kudos to you.
I once bought a remnant of green silk and tried to make a pair of knickers but they were so uncomfortable I had to throw them away.
Unfortunately I have never had a matching set of underwear but if I see some in a sale I might buy some, just so I can think I once had some!!

Wendy Thu 24-Oct-19 11:54:08

I always wear matching sets, only because I buy everything the same. I change my bra twice a week, pants everyday. They are skin coloured so don’t show through anything. Have you noticed only women wearing matching sets get murdered in thrillers!!

Stansgran Thu 24-Oct-19 11:44:25

Doesn't matter how many pairs of matching knickers you buy they will never come out of the wash at the same time as the bra. I know this.

whywhywhy Thu 24-Oct-19 11:44:04

I used to always wear matching bra and pants, especially when married to the first husband. He used to buy most of them for me. Well, they lost their magic when I caught him wearing them! YUK!

I now wear the first pair of clean pants and bra that comes out of the drawers, plus I don't have that 36/24/34 figure anymore.

Madmaggie Thu 24-Oct-19 11:44:00

I like cotton knickers and my tummy is too large for skimpy but I do try to buy 3 for 2 offers and go for lace trim or pretty patterns or dots I tend to return to a particular M&S bra I find comfy with lace cups but the colour range is limited alas. In my youth I bought pretty, sexy bras but I had more disposable income too! My mum always preached clean undies in case you were knocked down by a bus (it was always a bus!) confused

Lesley60 Thu 24-Oct-19 11:37:02

When I was younger and slimmer I always wore matching underwear, the first time my now hubby saw them he asked why I was wearing a bikini under my clothes ??
Now seven grandkids later I grab the nearest out of the drawer.

Aepgirl Thu 24-Oct-19 11:35:17

Well this is certainly an eye-opener. Matching undies - usually just be chance; making my own - highly unlikely. Who cares.

pce612 Thu 24-Oct-19 11:26:43

For every day, I buy skin tone bras as they don't show under thin white/light tops. Most of my knickers are black, as I always seemed to wear black or dark trousers to work, but I do have a drawer of 'naughtier' undies in various colours and cuts for my special man to appreciate.

Elijah Thu 24-Oct-19 11:01:21

I have never been a matching set person. Having been a larger lady all my life comfort has always been more important. I tend to wear black bottoms and have 3 colours for bras black, white and neutral which cover all situations

Kartush Thu 24-Oct-19 11:00:44

I just buy everything in black or red so they always match....not that I actually care about the matching, I just like black and red

kwest Thu 24-Oct-19 10:40:27

Black 'Doreen' bras and black Sloggi pants. Deeply boring but comfortable.

MooM00 Thu 24-Oct-19 10:40:03

Triumph bra for me usual colours, white, black, and skin tone and lots of sloggy pants. The only ones that don't give me a wedgie.

jo1book Thu 24-Oct-19 10:39:53

I always wear black undies with a few nude bits under certain clothing.
I find white undies look scruffy faster, although a friend of mine boils her knickers of cotton airtex every week in an old-fashioned boiler and pegs them on the line with H's vests and pants. I have to admit the whiteness is stunning but I just couldn't be bothered.

icanhandthemback Thu 24-Oct-19 10:33:13

Blimey, I don't even wear bikini's as matching sets. I tend to buy in the Sales and often buy one half patterned and the other half with one of the colours picked out. Or something with a black background so it matches any of my black other bits. I hasten to add I only wear a bikini in the back garden, I wouldn't offend the rest of the world by wearing it in public.

Paperbackwriter Thu 24-Oct-19 10:30:33

Most of my underwear is black so it matches by default. I do also like to wear a slip as I think it gives a better 'line' to dresses (I'm absolutely not a trouser woman - bum too close to the floor). Wandering around in a slip makes me feel quite Saturday Night and Sunday Morning-ish.

dragonfly46 Thu 24-Oct-19 10:25:34

Wow I am impressed by matching underwear. I grab what I can. Since my mastectomy though I have found the prettiest and most comfortable bras are the cheapest from Asda. Their PJ's are very good too.

NotSpaghetti Thu 24-Oct-19 09:57:46

Because my bras are super-expensive I don't buy the knickers to match.
Also, I do like cotton knickers and the pretty ones matching my bras are always synthetic. I like Prima Donna bras, the briefs for the last bra I bought were £65. I think I can do without!

MawB Thu 24-Oct-19 09:44:47

I had a German aunt who was glamorous (to me) in a sort of Marlene Dietrich way, who always only wore black underwear which she once said to me was slimming! I suspect I was too young for her to say “sexy”
I do remember staying with her one very hot summer when I was perhaps 7, and she and mum walked around her flat in their petticoats- Mum’s was white, Tante Erna’s was black.
Of course.

JackyB Thu 24-Oct-19 09:43:59

I have everything (bras and pants) in skin colour (why am I called a "white" woman when my skin colour is really beige) and definitely no scratchy lace. And no matching sets for the reasons given above.

- too expensive,
- you'd need more pants than bras

and

-the bottoms and tops from a set probably wouldn't both fit well anyway

Coolgran65 Thu 24-Oct-19 09:31:23

I have black, white and skin tone (otherwise known as yuk). I do break rank all the time for wearing dark and light together. Comfort is the main goal.