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Wrinkles- what has happened?

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MawB Sun 03-Nov-19 21:10:35

Two years ago I was under enormous stress, Paw had been seriously ill for months and who knew what the future held.
He died that November so I was not at all surprised that it showed in my face.
Two years on I seem to have aged a whole lot more and hardly dare look in the mirror, without recoiling at the wrinkles.
When did my age (71) catch up with me?

PamelaJ1 Mon 04-Nov-19 16:43:20

No Maggie it’s all of us.
You go to bed and when you get up it’s a different face looking back.
Suki, your oncologist could be right, grief and illness do take their toll but I have heard the 7 year droop happens to us all.

When FaceTiming, Skyping etc. Move the picture up to the top . Knocks years off you, putting it in the bottom corner is NOT a good look.

BladeAnnie Mon 04-Nov-19 16:44:12

I consider myself to be a young at heart 57 year old and people always used to compliment me on not looking anywhere near my age which was always so lovely. Then around 18 months ago I contracted sepsis, went into to septic shock and my family were told to expect the worst. But thankfully it didn't get me and I lived to tell the tale ?. However, the illness aged me terribly and I now look well older than my 57 years but in all honesty I really don't care - I'm just grateful to be alive

Alison333 Mon 04-Nov-19 16:49:09

LullyDully and Yorksherlass you made me laugh so hard I had tears coming out of my eyes. I've seen that strange old woman in a shop mirror!

grandtanteJE65 Mon 04-Nov-19 17:04:16

Well, I haven't been through such a lot of sad things as many of you, but the wrinkles are there all right, plus bags under my eyes, hairy chin and a nice moustache and thinning hair.

When I catch sight of myself in a mirror by accident instead of having made myself look, I wonder, "When did I become so old and ugly?" Vanity obviously hasn't died yet, but the moderate good looks I was blessed with earlier certainly have gone.

elfies Mon 04-Nov-19 17:07:52

Diabetic medication aged me horribly . Leathery skin and deep wrinkles

kaycee Mon 04-Nov-19 17:27:35

It does creep up on you this old age. My GD had to tell her new teacher what I was like as I was picking her up from school and apparently she said I had wrinkles! The wonderful thing was she didn't see it as something bad to have - as far as she is concerned it is just the way I am - wrinkly. Fortunately he didn't seem to be able to pick me out so the wrinkles can't be that bad. It is the bags under the eyes that get me down - I look like a bloodhound, thank god for glasses.

Hetty58 Mon 04-Nov-19 17:36:58

It just happens to the best of us - inevitable really. I recommend never cleaning mirrors, lower wattage light bulbs and always removing glasses (so you can't see the details).

I gave my magnifying mirror to my daughter (fat too traumatic looking in that). Simple water boost hydrating cream, blusher and a shorter hair cut seem to help.

Bossyrossy Mon 04-Nov-19 17:47:29

I have noticed with each decade that passes, I sometimes look in the mirror and think I don’t look my best today. Time has taught me that is how I will look on a good day in the next decade.

Barmeyoldbat Mon 04-Nov-19 18:02:20

Its the saggy bits I don't like, I don't have many wrinkles which I put down to all the anti wrinkle cream I have thrown on it over the years. But saggy bits.... horrible and I take a terrible photo.

Merryweather Mon 04-Nov-19 18:07:23

Pregnancy at 39 is doing me no favours. Where/what is this glow I’ve been hearing of? I have always had deep-set dark circles under my eyes and now noticeable wrinkles too.
Will my middle ever go back to my size 8’s after? I will possibly have to have a hysterectomy at delivery too.
Fortunately, as a ginger gal there's only a few grey hairs but my word they are coarse.
I think my health conditions and medications have a part to play that's my excuse and I'm sticking with it.

Sparklefizz Mon 04-Nov-19 18:22:38

She had drawn me with my mouth turned down.

I think this is what they call "resting bitch face" in the media. I have always had this. Even when I was young, builders would call out to me "Cheer up! It might never happen"

I think the worst thing is the body sagging. My friend's husband said she looked like a melted candle from the back shock !!!! Who needs a partner like that???

Mollygo Mon 04-Nov-19 18:33:32

If all the face stuff and moisturisers I use really worked, I wouldn’t need to worry about the wrinkles I see. Or, how much more wrinkly would I look if I hadn’t used them? Scary thought!

QuaintIrene Mon 04-Nov-19 18:35:07

I had terribly spotty, oily skin when I was younger. My mum always said never mind, Irene because you won’t get bad wrinkles in old age. Must’ve been said to comfort me because it is not true. My youngest GS used to sit on my knee and trace them with his finger !

00mam00 Mon 04-Nov-19 19:09:26

Resting bitch face, is a haughty, expressionless face Like Vivien Leigh. people who adopt it are less likely to get wrinkles. MyDD says i have a RBF, I am flattered.

MissAdventure Mon 04-Nov-19 19:13:40

A melted candle! grin
So cruel, but so funny.

PamelaJ1 Mon 04-Nov-19 19:16:19

My expert advice here.
Wait for it.
Chew gum! If exercise makes for tighter, shorter muscles surely chewing would do the same for the masseters.?

MissAdventure Mon 04-Nov-19 19:23:00

Oh no!
With my teeth and face I'd look like I was in a gurning competition.

Callistemon Mon 04-Nov-19 19:50:03

Keep doing the facial exercises - yes, gurning is good but make sure you're on your own in a locked room
grin (a big, wide one)

grapefruitpip Mon 04-Nov-19 19:57:51

You know carved pumpkins that have been about lately........Yip, that's me.

Callistemon Mon 04-Nov-19 20:02:17

But they do have nice smooth skin!
But rather an odd grin like this grin

Photocrazy Mon 04-Nov-19 20:18:09

Marmight
Let us know when your little machine arrives, if it works we will all want one! Years ago I used to work with a lady who said that her face was taking longer and longer to wake up every morning, now I know what she meant. I keep using the cream, I call it damage limitation, it does no good for the lines and wrinkles but I keep hoping no more will appear!! I can dream.
MawB hope it has cheered you up that we all seem to be in the same
boat. Any suggestions from anybody for a miracle cream gratefully received.

Callistemon Mon 04-Nov-19 20:21:31

I'm gurning.

DH is in the room but too busy watching the TV to notice.

Callistemon Mon 04-Nov-19 20:22:43

Bottom lip over top lip, moving from side to side

DH still watching the crocodiles

MissAdventure Mon 04-Nov-19 20:24:35

His eyes are probably flicking sideways at you..
"Still pulling those faces.. i'll pretend I haven't noticed until I work out what to do.."

Callistemon Mon 04-Nov-19 20:25:43

grin grin grin

shock shock shock

Oooh, oooh, ooh

It's quite therapeutic