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Is longer hair on a 69 year old ok?

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Itsnell Wed 18-Nov-20 16:41:00

Hi, my hair is thick, wavy, curly and a darkish grey many years ago I was dark brown. I’m thinking of growing it to about chin length longish layers and wonder what people on here think about this for a hairstyle for a lively 69 year old.

I’ve a short messy style which I don’t like and looking at photos of me, I’ve had it short for a while and it never looks good - it sticks up and out and I can’t seem to style it. I don’t know why I ever went for a short style in the first place.

If I look at photos of me when I was in my 40s and 50s it’s was longer and layered and seemed to suit me better.

Basically I don’t know why I’ve ended up with short hair when it doesn’t suit me so I thought I’d ignore hairdressers for a while and grow it outta about chin length. My worry is looking a bit like mutton ...

bikergran Thu 19-Nov-20 11:00:04

Itsnell be who you are, what makes you happy and comfortable.If your not happy with your hair, then yes change it, if you are happy then go with it.Don't waste precious time thinking what others think smile

Alioop Thu 19-Nov-20 11:02:08

I wear my hair long, it's tapered and layered at the sides. I have thick red hair and get comments about it and with being a redhead I'm keeping my colour longer, which infuriates my friends who have been dying their hair for years. Wear your hair as you like, I do.

mousemac Thu 19-Nov-20 11:05:54

I shall shortly be 80 and I wear my hair in a ponytail. It's easy to control and I don't need any help with cutting off the split ends smile

V3ra Thu 19-Nov-20 11:08:31

HannahLoisLuke I've just asked my husband how old he thinks you look and he said 60-ish ?

cc Thu 19-Nov-20 11:17:34

Chin length isn't long! I'm almost your age and started off at chin length but 3" longer by the end of lockdown. I rather liked it a bit longer, but home hair colouring meant that it was in terrible condition so my daughter chopped it off for me.
I think that you can afford to have it a little longer if its curly as it lifts the length up.

Rosina Thu 19-Nov-20 11:22:10

Not seeing my hairdresser for months resulted in my hair growing to shoulder length - and I love it. Friends have said it suits me, it is easier to manage, and if it gets unruly (and I have very naughty, unmanageable hair) I can tie it back with a band or put it up with a clip. Try it! You might be pleasantly surprised, and you can always have it cut shorter again.

Erindoors Thu 19-Nov-20 11:29:37

I am the same age as you and during the first lockdown it grew and I quite liked it so have kept it longer. I do have the tips taken off to keep it in good condition though

osprey Thu 19-Nov-20 11:41:04

I would love to grow my hair (I'm 68) but its so thin and fine that I have to have it really short. I don't think age should define our hairstyles.

Cambia Thu 19-Nov-20 11:42:59

Have you seen Jane Seymour?? Same age and gorgeous long hair. As I have long hair, way past my shoulders since lockdown, she is my new role model! Long hair is so easy to manage too. Pony tail on a bad day and chignon on a good!

spabbygirl Thu 19-Nov-20 11:56:40

I used to watch the original Dr Finlay in 1968 or so, Finlay had a house keeper Janet Macpherson who was older and had a wonderful long plait that went down to her waist. I decided I wanted one like that & now in my mid sixties I still feel like that though my hair never seems to grow longer than boob level. Sod what anyone else thinks, do what you want

aonk Thu 19-Nov-20 11:58:10

I’m the same age as you. Quite grey but have it coloured light brown and wear it shoulder length. There’s a huge difference between modern and youthful and “mutton.” Let’s face it we might as well look and feel good and a bit glamorous while we can. Hair can easily be cut anyway. Ask anyone you know who has nice hair to recommend a hairdresser you can use when they open again. Think of Helen Mirren or other ladies who look youthful and attractive. I think we owe it to ourselves to look our best.

Sarnia Thu 19-Nov-20 12:00:47

Go for it, it's your hair. Dreadlocks, bald, multi-coloured, mullet, shaved, Mohican. Take your pick.

icanhandthemback Thu 19-Nov-20 12:05:47

You have lovely hair but it should be worn how you like it. There are some very old fashioned ideas out there which try to dictate what older people should or should not do. Personally, I intend to get older disgracefully! I worried about fitting in as a young person but I've long since outgrown those shackles and don't intend to go back to them.

CarlyD7 Thu 19-Nov-20 12:25:31

I used to have short hair - appropriate for my 60s (blah blah) but it grew under the first Lockdown, and I decided to see if I could keep it. Discussed it with my hairdresser (who said that 50% of her clients had decided the same thing). It's now past my chin and flicked up. It's SO easy to manage (as long as I keep it in good condition) and, having seen a photo of myself recently, much more flattering than my short cut ever was. I would say do what YOU want and also go and read the poem that begins "When I'm old, I shall wear purple" by Jenny Joseph. Your hair, your life. Go for it!

Kartush Thu 19-Nov-20 12:49:00

Mine is long enough to almost touch my butt and im 65. Grow your hair as long as you want, its your hair your business.

JaneD666 Thu 19-Nov-20 12:59:26

I'm 66, and my greyish hair is well below waist-length now (must get DH to cut it for me...). Personally, I think it makes me look like a witch (well, I do keep a broomstick in the hall), but I've actually been complimented on it in the past by complete strangers. I used to colour it with Movida semi-permanent colour, but stopped when that was discontinued - 10 years ago? - as I had a mild reaction to a patch test with the replacement.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:00:59

I shall soon be 69 and my hair reaches my waist. I wear it up and have no intention of cutting it.

Lulubelle500 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:01:16

There was a time when long hair on older women was a no-no but now it seems it's all about condition and style. Quite a few years ago model agencies started looking for both male and female 'silver foxes' and women with longer hair. Mine is just going grey and my hairdresser uses silver enhancing mousse before she dries it. And I agree with the posters who say long hair is much easier to manage. I've had long and I've had short, and apart from having to wash short hair so often because it gets greasy, I find long hair can look good every day with the help of my trusty hairdryer.

Nana4 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:07:09

Itisnell, overwhelming approval of the changes the Covid virus has unwittingly made in our lives—- and shaken the status quo. Even in our hairstyles!! Wear your hair longer if it pleases you, I have and I am 75!! I do love sheep anyway !!!!

timetogo2016 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:12:02

WOW your hair is lovely Itsnell.

Beau2020 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:16:57

Go for a longer length if that is what you want, don’t worry about what other people might think, it’s nothing to do with anyone else 69 is not old, I think that we all worry too much about what other people might think, as I am getting older I realise we spend far too much time worrying and not doing what we want, so now I do and wear what I am comfortable in and I don’t worry about what others think, I just think to myself, If you don’t like what your looking at Don’t Look?

seadragon Thu 19-Nov-20 13:25:22

I stopped cutting my hair before lockdown and so it is waist length now. I do wear it up but the twisted ends are quite long now and form ringlets which stick up in a variety of different shapes each day. One variation is a teddy boy style 'quiff' and there have been a variety of hairy 'fascinators!! I really enjoy the daily surprise, especially because the 'quiff'/fascinator is a brownish colour in contrast with the gray/white of newer hair. I don't really care what others think. I'm having fun, fun, fun!!!

chrishoops Thu 19-Nov-20 13:26:20

Itsnell, wear it how you want. I have long hair but wear it up all of the time as I look awful with it down. My hair is grey, slightly curly, goes frizzy easily and looks frumpy like the queen's hair if I have it short. I find I don't have to bother with it so much when it is long, I had years of keeping it short but I was always washing it and messing with it. Go for an easy life and do what suits you!

Calender37 Thu 19-Nov-20 13:31:21

Go for it Itsnell ! Lovely head of hair. Age is nothing really - just a record of the years we have been alive. Just promise that you will post another picture when it has grown to a length that suits you and that you are happy with.

Tempest Thu 19-Nov-20 13:37:36

Just google images of women over sixty with long hair. You'll see how many options you have to choose from. Go for it.