Gransnet forums

Style & beauty

Should I take notice of a friends remark about my dress

(44 Posts)
kaycee Thu 05-Aug-21 19:13:47

I usually wear trousers because I am a bit embarrassed by my veiny legs. But this summer I thought I would get a few dresses and to hell with it.
One of the dresses I bought was from Boden and my DH said it looked really good. It came to just below my knees. I felt good in it and it is really comfortable. I am a size 10 petite.
Anyway to the point. I wore the dress out to lunch with a friend and her husband. He remarked how nice to see me in a dress. When I saw my friend next she said she thought I was very brave to wear such a short dress.

As I said it came to just below my knees so I didn’t think it was so short and the veins were visible but the dress would have to have been floor length to cover them all! I don’t actually look good in midi length for some reason – I think because I have skinny legs and where a midi dress ends seems to just show the really skinny bit of my legs and looks ‘scraggy’.
I was a bit upset and thought it a hurtful remark or am I being too sensitive?
I asked my DH if he honestly thought it was too short and he said no but not sure he would have said anything else. I will ask my daughter-in-law next time I see her but it’s knocked my confidence to wear a dress to be honest and I was so pleased with myself. Should I just ignore her remark?

lemongrove Thu 05-Aug-21 21:34:45

kaycee

Thank you all for the encouraging remarks. I really didn't think she was jealous or envious - she is slim and stylish. She does believe in stating her opinion though and will always say if she thinks something looks nice, that's what made me doubt I guess. I will continue to wear the dress and others and give St Tropez a try.

Good for you?
Dove do a good tanning product for legs too, Summer Revived.

Millie22 Thu 05-Aug-21 21:39:22

Yes ignore it. You should see how short some of my dresses are ???

Kali2 Thu 05-Aug-21 21:45:51

Rise, rise, rise - ignore- smile.

justwokeup Thu 05-Aug-21 22:04:38

Your DH and her DH said how nice your dress was, you like it too, so why listen to the one negative voice? I agree, whether it seems like it or not, she is upset that her DH mentioned it. I'd make a point of wearing it when you meet again wink.

Skydancer Thu 05-Aug-21 22:07:44

So many women just wear trousers. I wear them but I love to wear a dress and often do. I feel more feminine in a dress and I think I look better than in trousers. If you are concerned about veins why not wear thin tights or even boots if the weather isn't too hot.

Pammie1 Thu 05-Aug-21 22:11:33

Dress to please yourself and if you feel comfortable and confident in the dress, that’s great. If you’re a size 10 and petite, it’s probably a bit of jealousy creeping in. Treat it with the contempt it deserves.

seacliff Thu 05-Aug-21 22:21:20

Sounds like you looked great, I envy you having that figure. Never mind if your legs aren't "absolutely perfect" they are slim, and you obviously looked good to have 2 men complimenting you. Wear another, especially when you're out with her!

Allsorts Fri 06-Aug-21 12:35:32

She isn’t much of a friend! You have confidence in your choices, you felt good, your husband thought you did, she should have not said what she said even if she thought it, unkind.

JackyB Fri 06-Aug-21 15:40:41

Agree with everyone so far. Don't go for a longer dress; if you are not very tall, and petite, as you say, a midi length dress pulls you down even further and looks frumpy.

Germanshepherdsmum Fri 06-Aug-21 15:53:04

Agree with all the above - jealousy as you were complimented by her husband. How I’d love to be size 10 again with slim legs. I hope you keep wearing dresses to show your figure off. Men do like them. In cold weather opaque tights will take away any remaining insecurities.

crazyH Fri 06-Aug-21 15:58:58

Wish I was a size 10 !!!!

LauraNorder Fri 06-Aug-21 16:02:55

Sounds to me as though you’ve got it, and if you’ve got it, flaunt it.
You go girl, as the youngsters say

nexus63 Fri 06-Aug-21 16:24:33

i think what other people have said is right, your friend was jealous because you looked good and her husband noticed it, i would give anything to wear a dress but i have severe psoriasis all down both legs and it is constantly peeling, i have been wearing loose leg jogging trousers for more than 10 years as they have a fluffy lining, i wore a skirt to my partners funeral a few months ago and had to wear very thick black tights. due to stress my legs have got worse so i now have to wear tights all the time as i leave a trail without them, my house (bedroom) need hoovered every day as it looks like it has been snowing...lol go ahead and wear your dresses...buy some more and enjoy them.....can you get an operation for the veins ...sorry assuming it is varicose veins.

Kittye Fri 06-Aug-21 16:45:10

Agree with everyone else. She didn’t like her husband complimenting you. Bet she had a go at him when they got home ?

H1954 Fri 06-Aug-21 16:53:29

Agree with other comments, she is marked at the fact that her husband complimented you. If you felt good in the dress then keep wearing it, regardless of your leg veins. I also have 'unslightly' legs but I do not give a toss! I wear what I like, when I like, if the sight of my skin upsets anyone.....tough!
Good on you!

nadateturbe Fri 06-Aug-21 17:01:04

I am a size 10 petite and thats the length I think looks best and Boden dresses are lovely. I have psoriasis and veins and persuaded myself to wear shorts/dresses. Nobody has a perfect body.
You obviously looked really good and your friend is jealous. How mean of her.
Keep wearing whatever you want to wear.

Pittcity Fri 06-Aug-21 17:10:58

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. Life's too short to worry about what others think.

Eloethan Fri 06-Aug-21 17:26:21

Rather a nasty remark - perhaps because her husband had complimented you!

Your husband thought it looked nice, you felt good in it. So don't let this spiteful remark make you feel sad and uncertain. I'm sure you look lovely in it.