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Am I too old to show my cleavage?

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annodomini Sun 15-Aug-21 18:24:34

For years I have been hoping that I'd lose enough weight to wear my favourite dress. I bought it originally for my 70th birthday. Now past 80, I tried it on today and it fits perfectly. However, it does have rather a low neckline. Though I say it myself, I still have a good, unwrinkled cleavage, but at my age, will I look odd if I wear it? Or should I just put the dress on Ebay and buy one more befitting my age?

TrendyNannie6 Sat 28-Aug-21 17:59:48

I’d love to see a pic of the dress, wear what you want to wear, if it makes you feel good do it

MissAdventure Fri 20-Aug-21 18:26:48

I didn't mean to write crumbly, but it's quite apt.

MissAdventure Fri 20-Aug-21 18:24:40

There is plenty worse than a crumbly cleavage.
Wear what you like, when you like.
smile

kittylester Fri 20-Aug-21 18:00:24

I think anno was asking about showing her cleavage rather than hiding it.

Do your own thing anno.

Dinahmo Fri 20-Aug-21 12:07:10

Nothing worse than a wrinkled cleavage and chest, however, if you say your's aren't then wear it. If it bother you you could add a fichu or attach a strip of lace across the front.

effalump Fri 20-Aug-21 11:59:25

You go girl!

Beechnut Wed 18-Aug-21 15:58:22

Sally12

^I am sure there are plenty of elderly gentlemen, and I hope some younger ones too, who will appreciate a glimpse of your cleavage^
confusedhmmshock

My son in law said to my daughter one day, “Your mum was looking a bit booby today “ ?

welbeck Wed 18-Aug-21 15:08:56

Baggs

Why do women want to show their cleavages? Female version of builders' bum.

NB This is not saying women can't wear what they like, just asking why would they want to dress in certain ways? I honestly don't get it.

surely you do know, because they are thought to be sexually alluring, in the west anyway.
in africa breasts are seen as something of interest to babies, not men.
i don't think the builder's cleavage has ever been regarded as alluring to anyone. more as sloppy, unaware, not properly dressed. so there is no comparison.
the idea of women being sexually alluring is linked to their power, over men, and more generally.
it is a highly complex cultural idiom.
ideas of status also come into it. having a good figure.

Silverbridge Wed 18-Aug-21 14:23:53

There are times when I wish GN had a facility to create a simple yes/no poll.

Edith81 Wed 18-Aug-21 14:15:30

I would look for a pretty vest top with a Lacy bit on the front.
Although you may have a wrinkle free cleavage, you might feel a little more comfortable and it would be more appropriate.

WishIwasyounger Tue 17-Aug-21 19:07:52

Great that you're still proud of your body at 80, so go for it. I also aren't keen on showing cleavage in public, probably due to a loss of confdence in my body when I was younger. The things we carry with us from our youth..

Katie59 Tue 17-Aug-21 13:36:34

Whatever turns you on I don’t show a cleavage.
Although I have nice boobs I never did when I was young, it’s just not me. In private that’s different no inhibitions at all, OH likes that, LOL.

Baggs Tue 17-Aug-21 12:14:57

Why do women want to show their cleavages? Female version of builders' bum.

NB This is not saying women can't wear what they like, just asking why would they want to dress in certain ways? I honestly don't get it.

Elvis58 Tue 17-Aug-21 10:56:21

Hetty if you feel comfortable and good in it go for it!
I for one do not like to show my cleavage but each to their own.

Shaunwool Tue 17-Aug-21 10:28:25

If all u say is correct - wear it. Its a no brainer !

nexus63 Tue 17-Aug-21 10:14:48

i have a few tops that i thought were showing a bit to much as i am a big busted lady and all my bras are sports type that give me a cleavage, i wear a thin strappy top underneath, if its a v-neck i sometimes put a couple of stitches in and wear a broach, i have fitted a small button and loop into blouses that have a lining inside or used a plain thin scarf with a ring to hold it together. if you feel comfortable in it wear it, i am 58 and a 44d bust and sometimes just say...what the hell, i like it.

Cambia Tue 17-Aug-21 10:12:44

Wear it, look amazing and show us the photos! If someone says you can’t do something, do it twice and take photos!!

Shropshirelass Tue 17-Aug-21 09:19:51

Do what you are comfortable doing. If you are unsure of showing your cleavage but want to wear the dress then just pop a thin cotton strapped vest to underneath, I do.

NoddingGanGan Tue 17-Aug-21 05:29:59

Go for it! I'm only 61 but my cleavage isn't worth showing. Then again I've recently lost 6 stones so a lot of me isn't worth showing! And, knowing how hard it is, may I say congratulations for shifting the weight to get into the dress! Having done so, wear and and enjoy! grin

MoorlandMooner Mon 16-Aug-21 21:29:37

Has anyone else noticed that when someone starts a sentence with the words 'Sorry, but....' they will almost certainly follow it with something unkind or horrible about which they are not at all sorry or they wouldn't say it.

Sounds like you're proud of your lovely cleavage OP, so enjoy showing it off to its best advantage in your favourite dress.

Joyfulnanna Mon 16-Aug-21 21:08:34

The three presenters in Rio Off Britain show a bit of cleavage with some chunky necklaces. I think some are too heavy but they have some deep lines on their chests so that might be why. Personally, if you feel comfortable wearing it, you will carry it off. But what's your secret to an unlined chest? Sleeping on your back or that you've never sunbathed?

readsalot Mon 16-Aug-21 20:42:11

Congratulations on fitting into your dress! Of course you must wear it!

AGAA4 Mon 16-Aug-21 20:03:10

My mum's favourite expression was "when in doubt don't". I always ignored it so wear the dress and have fun.

Musicgirl Mon 16-Aug-21 18:28:13

Of course you can. If you feel you might be showing just a little too much cleavage you can always place a brooch strategically. I do this with wrap dresses. Go for it and enjoy the compliments you are bound to receive.

Millie22 Mon 16-Aug-21 17:25:47

Oh no I thought you meant something else. Thank goodness for that. I thought I was on MN for a minute.