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Freedom from guilt...for a while!

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Namsnanny Thu 21-Oct-21 16:19:06

I havent bought any new make up for years and years.

I love colour and had seen some delicious nail varnishes that were winking at me for the last few weeks.
I weakened and went to the largest Boots, knowing they would have lots of stock.

I couldn't decide which one to buy, so I bought EVERY colour polish they had!
Then as if that wasn't enough I did the same with lip stick/gloss?blush!!!

All from the same range that has little or no perfume, as I am alergic to most brands.

In my defence (do I need a defense?), I havent bought any new clothes or makeup for years until two months ago for a special occasion.

I've had such a fun day messing around with it all. Every nail has two different colours on it ??

For once I threw caution to the wind and acted just on a whim!
And I loved it!!

I think I'll start to feel guilty by the weekend, but what the heck.

Namsnanny Tue 26-Oct-21 12:30:00

You raise an interesting point about guilt Hollysteers
We are coerced by advertising
into thinking we aren't good enough, unless we buy this or that product. Which seeps into our subconscious to our detriment, hence the cake comments.

Another item I'm going to treat myself to, is a large bunch of Freesia. The scent is heavenly.

Shinamae Tue 26-Oct-21 12:32:57

Not that bothered about cosmetics but I am going to treat myself to a personal trainer

Namsnanny Tue 26-Oct-21 14:17:47

Do let us know how you get on Shinamae.
I wouldn't know how to compare one with another!

Namsnanny Tue 26-Oct-21 14:18:49

I've been to two supermarkets and no Freesia!
That treat is going to have to wait.

M0nica Wed 27-Oct-21 07:36:57

Do we have women who have been stay-at -homes wives all their lives on this thread, so that they have no independent money?

I worked, as have most women, and have my own pension as a resut. What I spend my money on is my business, not my DH's and he wouldnt dream of commenting on how I spend my money. And I do not comment on his personal expenditure either.

I have just bought myself a expensive coat, more than I have ever paid before. DH has seen it and admired it, and that is it. As long as I make my agreed contribution to our household expenses and he does the same, the rest of our money is available to be spent as we will.

DH dresses like a builder - and lapses into his North Bucks accent when talking to them - that is his choice - and always has been. Youdo not marry someone expecting to change them.

JaneJudge Wed 27-Oct-21 08:05:25

Wives having no money if staying at home to look after the home/family is financial abuse surely? I have done a mixture of working full time/part/staying at home (not through choice - through circumstance) and I am back to full time again. My husband has always earnt much more than I do but the money that goes in our joint account is all ours. He has a nicer car (I am insured on it anyway) but to be honest I really like my car so it isn't an issue at the moment. It's about sharing isn't it? I don't think it is as clear cut as his and hers.

I'd like see the coat though Monica grin

Namsnanny Wed 27-Oct-21 10:52:07

Another who would love to see what people have done for themselved in the name of self support.smile

M0nica Wed 27-Oct-21 11:22:50

janeJudge, I agree everryone organises their finances to suit their preferences, but if you are spending money that comes to you because you earned it, whyshould you need to hide things you bring into the house so that DH doesn't see.

When my children were small I remember going to a coffee morning where the conversation moved to getting money for new clothes out of husbands. I crept into a corner and kept very quiet, because, even though, as my children, were tiny, I didn't/couldn't work, we always arranged our finances so that both of us had spending money for our personal needs, including clothes. I would have no more asked DH every time I needed new clothes than fly!

Namsnanny Wed 27-Oct-21 13:24:16

I'm still on the hunt for a bunch of Freesia!

Are there things people do for themselves that gives them freedom and joy but also doesnt cost them financially?

Most things that I enjoy (excluding family) revolve around nature or colour.
But still mean spending some money.i.e.
I've always collected pebbles or stones as a momento from a trip somewhere. Some from the Grand Canyon or the Dorset coast, anywhere. They are striped, red black all colours. But it cost money to get go on these trips on the first place.

The only thi g I can think of that doesnt directly cost is listening to the bird song in the garden.
But that has an indirect cost of being able to afford a house with a garden and of course the bird food to attract them there in the first place.

I suppose I'm saying it's hard to find freedom and pleasure without cashsad.

Namsnanny Wed 27-Oct-21 13:27:11

Or ones health (I took that as a given!)

GillT57 Wed 27-Oct-21 14:08:29

well done Bijou grin I have my eyebrows shaped and tinted monthly, it makes such a difference. I have never had to 'ask' for money as we just blunder along with joint finances and generally both take a fairly sensible approach to what we buy for ourselves, but.....I have dreadful feet, need new boots, and blanched at the price of good quality wide fitting ones so sent for cheaper ones instead, which of course were awful, ill fitting, and had to be returned.

mimismo Thu 28-Oct-21 10:41:31

One reason I could go to the UK on a guilt free and extravagant trip was that my pension had been approved after living on my husband's for four years. No, he'd never questioned my purchases but, boy was it good to have my 'own' money again!!

Namsnanny Fri 29-Oct-21 12:20:57

I love the happiness in your last sentence mimismo its contagious ?
I hope you enjoyed your trip to UK and have many others?