What should my husband wear?

He is an adult male. Why are you involved in arranging what he wears? Doesn't he know how to dress himself?

MawtheMerrier

I like the sound of chinos, smart casual open necked shirt and a linen jacket. Loafers would be nice - maybe slightly more formal than trainers but there are some lovely “smart” trainers for men too.

Trainers for an evening event? Seriously.

Susie42

Chinos, polo shirt, blazer, and highly polished tan shoes.

A polo shirt is suitable to go car booting in...not for a party.

GrammyGrammy that’s exactly what I said let the poor guy wear what he is comfortable wearing What suits the rest of the family is nothing to do with his choice and personality
If he wants to wear a suit and is comfortable in that …so be it

Never try to change someone to your ideas how would you like it if a man told you what to wear ? Everyone would be jumping up and down in anger how dare he etc etc 😂 double standards

I was about to post about my puzzlement (is that a word?) at the apparent fact that he is not deciding for himself what he wears, but I see GrammyGrammy has said it for me at 15.31.25.

Well trainers and a polo shirt are the modern way grammygrammy.

Maybe Elizabethann is choosing his attire because the party is imminent, and he has run out of time dithering like she suggests.
I sometimes choose my DH clothes because he has a busy job, often away, and doesn't have much time. It doesn't mean he can't decide for himself. I like fashion too.

I don't think it's unusual to help each other out clothes wise in order to feel appropriate when you are going out somewhere.

The OP is conscious he may look "over smart or scruffy" at this particular event so I expect she's trying to be helpful.

Maybe he knows he's got a tendency to be a bit "over-smart or scruffy looking: and has actually asked her advice??

My husband often asks me... (but I never dress him).

To be honest I find it a bit odd that you are deciding the clothes your Dh should be wearing! He’s an adult male and if he’s happiest in a suit and tie etc why not wear that, I’d want my Dh to wear what he feels comfortable in.but I wouldn’t be telling him what he should wear at our daughters party. It’s a party everyone should be having fun, not worrying that time is running out on deciding what he should wear. I’m sure he won’t get it wrong!

GrammyGrammy I think you are a bit behind the times, trainers can be worn anywhere. It is what you wear with them that matters.

Thank you for everyone who tried to help. And those of you who accuse me of dressing him, when he is in a panic two days before, I will send him round to you. Or just say " wear what you want, it doesn't matter". No wonder people are reluctant to ask for advice or help on here!!!

He likes to wear a suit and tie so let him or open neck shirt with a nice suit. Not a sweater as parties soon get too warm
I agree not trainers please!
It's your DD's do so he needn't upstage her

GrammyGrammy

MawtheMerrier

I like the sound of chinos, smart casual open necked shirt and a linen jacket. Loafers would be nice - maybe slightly more formal than trainers but there are some lovely “smart” trainers for men too.

Trainers for an evening event? Seriously.

GrammyGrammy Trainers for an evening event? Seriously.

Precisely - as Daughter "has got a fabulous glitzy dress and even I have got dressy trousers and a sparkly top." The women aren't dressing as to go on a walk at a nature park, why should the 70 year old man?

Lizbethann55

Thank you for everyone who tried to help. And those of you who accuse me of dressing him, when he is in a panic two days before, I will send him round to you. Or just say " wear what you want, it doesn't matter". No wonder people are reluctant to ask for advice or help on here!!!

He sound like he has a sense of what looks nice on him in business, just tone it down for this lovely dressy do. NO trainers.

I certainly haven’t accused you of trying to dress him but I wonder how you d feel if the shoe was on the other foot and he was telling you what to wear for the party, on the other hand he might be so disinterested in what he wears he welcomes your input
My darling dad was colour blind and always asked my mum what looked alright with what etc but he was a smart man who knew what suitable things to wear just got a bit bogged down with colours fitting together, Mum loved sorting him out and he seemed happy to be sorted 😂 maybe that’s how you two are
The problem is if your husband isn’t the casual chino man he’s going to feel dead uncomfortable isn’t he?
When you ask for advice on here you are going to get a big variety of answers which aren’t always as helpful as you expect or want but I think they are usually given in good faith
Hope the party goes well anyway I m sure it will whatever you all wear

BlueBelle and others I think sometimes we are all a bit stuck in a rut and need some ideas (wild or not) to motivate us to look at things through new eyes.

Me to DD " what are you thinking of wearing to the party"
DD " absolutely no idea, what do you think?"

If I let my OH to choose his own clothes he would look as if he dressed in the dark as he’s very slightly colour blind and he’s not very interested in clothes.

I agree with Norah’s comment but NO trainers.

Definitely not trainers. It’s not the case that you can wear them everywhere, as someone said. You certainly wouldn’t get into some London restaurants and clubs wearing trainers, no matter how smart and expensive.

Why not a suit with open necked shirt? Suits always look good and he will feel comfortable. I hope your DD has a wonderful time.

Elderly men look awful in trainers - any trainers (in my opinion).

I love it when people wear what they want....no matter what that is. Its what makes him...him!
He's not a sheep....let him do his own thing!

GrammyGrammy - I had exactly the same thought. We've just had someone deciding what her husband will eat - now another is choosing what he should wear.

Lizbethann55 - would you be happy if your husband chose your outfits? It's just so disrespectful to treat another adult as a small, dependant child!

Your DD is wearing a “fabulous glitzy dress” and you are wearing dressy trousers and sparkly top, so as far as I’m concerned, your husband is wrong in his fear of being “oversmart”.
It’s good to dress up for special occasions.

My husband is of similar slim build with grey hair and for such an occasion would wear smart trousers and shirt in black with a colourful bow tie. Suitable but a little different.