What should my husband wear?

If your DH is comfortable in a suit why not compromise on that theme? Smart trousers which could be from a suit, a smart shirt, not too jazzy, and a blazer or jacket which he could take off. If the jacket is too formal what about a leather one or a blouson style? These are all items he could wear again together or separately. Next has a good selection.

Hetty58

GrammyGrammy - I had exactly the same thought. We've just had someone deciding what her husband will eat - now another is choosing what he should wear.

Lizbethann55 - would you be happy if your husband chose your outfits? It's just so disrespectful to treat another adult as a small, dependant child!

I disagree. Everyone has a different marriage.

I've never worked outside our home. Home is what I do, and I do it very well, all aspects. I'm "Home Administrator", clothing included. It's not making anyone a child, it's doing tasks in a way that works in one's home/ marriage.

I do know what food is available and for what purpose. I'd find saying what is available for lunch a kind and polite thing to do - conversely him asking "has a menu been made for this food?" is kind and polite as well.

I ask my husband if he prefers this or that clothing, for me to wear to a family do - and he does the same. I look at him, see him, know what looks best on him. He tends to think he should wear tailored dress clothes or slim jeans, he sees little between - I note he can wear loafers and no tie.

This man is 70, knows he's comfortable in suits - remove the tie and replace Oxfords with Loafers - tone it down a little for this fancy do.

Hetty58. Yes I would be happy. He has chosen me some delightful clothes in the past and I always ask his advice when I am choosing something special. Or does that make me a controlled doormat of a wife. And far from being a small dependant child, he is a senior member of the judiciary. He spends his working life in suits, shirts and ties . All of which he chooses himself.

When people on here ask for advice or suggestions that is what they want. Not a lecture on how we should or shouldn't behave.

Anyway, together we have chosen a waistcoat and shirt from Joe Browns. I just hope it arrives in time.

GrammyGrammy
You obviously didn’t see Emma Thompsons trainers on the red carpet. Trainers are not just for walking or tennis.

uk.finance.yahoo.com/news/emma-thompson-does-cool-chic-121100643.html

Germanshepherdsmum

Definitely not trainers. It’s not the case that you can wear them everywhere, as someone said. You certainly wouldn’t get into some London restaurants and clubs wearing trainers, no matter how smart and expensive.

Not these days unfortunately, trainers are accepted everywhere.

We often comment that 20 years ago it was unusual to see trainers in London venues, now it’s the norm.

Try getting into the restaurants at, for instance, The Ritz or The Savoy in trainers.

I think shirt and waistcoat with smart trousers are a good idea. Same would be a thin v-neck sweater on top of a shirt and tie.

And yes, I help my DH decide outfits before an event. It doesn't make me controlling or him feeble; he appreciates that I pay a bit more attention to fashion trends than he does, and likes to have things sorted in advance.

Lizbethann55

Hetty58. Yes I would be happy. He has chosen me some delightful clothes in the past and I always ask his advice when I am choosing something special. Or does that make me a controlled doormat of a wife. And far from being a small dependant child, he is a senior member of the judiciary. He spends his working life in suits, shirts and ties . All of which he chooses himself.

When people on here ask for advice or suggestions that is what they want. Not a lecture on how we should or shouldn't behave.

Anyway, together we have chosen a waistcoat and shirt from Joe Browns. I just hope it arrives in time.

That sounds perfect.. have lots of fun..

MerylStreep

GrammyGrammy
You obviously didn’t see Emma Thompsons trainers on the red carpet. Trainers are not just for walking or tennis.

uk.finance.yahoo.com/news/emma-thompson-does-cool-chic-121100643.html

If you are going to get your style template from actresses then you are lost. Actresses are mostly notoriously lacking in style and fashion taste in my experience.

Not trainers! Please not trainers.
I hate the tendency for them to have taken over from smart leather shoes which can be polished.
In my opinion, for a fairly dressy affair, chinos are too casual.
I think a smart pair of trousers, proper shoes, a good quality shirt, and if the weather’s cold, a lightweight jumper.

By the way does your husband know that there have been three pages on Gransnet of women, complete strangers, making suggestions about what the poor man should wear to a forthcoming party? 😆!

M0nica

DH, is admittedly a different shape bu he goes for black trousers and a black polo neck sweater or shirt. Trousers can be dress trousers, jeans, or corderoy, depending on the occasion and the same for the top. Occasionally a cravat makes an appearance, loosely tied.

He also has a magmificent brocade double breasted waist coat that DD made him which comes out for gala evenings on cruises, and going to Glynebourne

A cravat MOnica? Haven’t seen one in years.

Anything goes seems to be the norm for events these days. Have you been to a wedding lately?

I think it’s usual feel most at ease in clothing familiar to you. Not something out of your style which you won’t wear again.