I have similar problems, and I'm not going to recommend any brands, as allergies can happen with anything.
I contact Head Office and ask for samples - sometimes they can't supply them, but will promise to refund you if you can't tolerate something, or ask the store to allow you to try something specific.
I will say that Lancome & Space NK have been very helpful to me.
The only other trick I have is my mother's: index finger in a pot of vaseline, smear on to lashes in a upward motion, then lick your finger and repeat! useful when you can't use any mascara at all!