Wedding - what can I wear instead of a fascinator or hat?

BlueBelle

I don’t wear hats and the thought of some little bit of confectionary on top of my head didn’t appeal at all so no I did not wear a hat to any of mines weddings
Why do you feel you have to ? I don’t get it
You don’t have to bow to convention
Have a nice haircut wear clothes and shoes that suit you but don’t be bullied by convention to wear something you d rather not

Absolutely right BlueBelle. I wouldn’t have felt like myself at all if I’d worn anything on my head at my AC’s weddings. The MOTG tried to persuade me at my DD’s ( I think she wanted to!) but the MOTB at my DS’s didn’t wear anything either. Just do what you’re most comfortable with surely?

Sparklefizz

A tiara?

Brilliant or following your suit,
what about a nice un-showy crown. 😊

A kokoshnik

A beret?!

teabagwoman

I’m not a hat person at all but, when my daughter got married she persuaded me to get an appointment with a local lady who hired out hats. I ended up wearing a much larger hat than I would ever have chosen for myself, felt like a million dollars and got lots of compliments. It was a designer hat, expensive to hire but worth every penny.

I'd always hated hats and they swamped me as have a little face. However, when ourson got married (over 20 years ago) I hired one, felt amazing and actulook good in the photos. I wore a different one to our elder daughter's wedding and loved it, but at our young daughter's wedding, they seem to have gone out of fashion....

Prior to my DS’s wedding last year I went to a hat boutique and tried on various different styles of hats and fascinators. What I did discover is I don’t suit fascinators, but did buy a large brimmed hat, which I actually loved. My middle DS is getting married next year over in Barcelona and I’ll go back to the hat shop once I’ve bought my dress. It does make you feel quite special

I didn't know wearing a mother of the bride/groom hat was a 'thing'~~

It isn't in Canada.

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I have nice silver hair, beautiful above the shoulder bob. Our daughters are convinced that I should wear pretty combs for weddings, so I do.

Best pictures I could find.

I HATE hats and don't really like fascinators. Why not go with a nice hair style. Personally I think it dates back to the age when people used to wear hats on a Sunday to go to church. How many do that now ?
Few people can wear hats successfully and even fewer people can actually wear black - both of these guidelines are often ignored.

It is not common for most women in Spain or France, however, millinery is making a come back ..

Hop into a large millinery shop or Department Store, and try on a few !! You may be surprised and find one or two that suit you perfectly with a shoulder length Bob.

Also look at some of the latest magazines (bridal and fashion) and check out the photographs.

Something could appeal.

My son will get married next year and I am very unlikely to wear a hat or fascinator as neither suit me.
I have very fine flat hair and a fascinator just sits on top and looks stupid.

I didn't wear one for my other sons marriage a few years ago.

I'm sure neither my son or daughter in law will care, they just want us there.
Hope you choose to do what you feel comfortable with.

Wear what makes you happy, I live near a church and the amount of women that wear fascinators perched on the top of their heads like nesting sparrows always makes me smile, I’d find out if somewhere local does hat hire then go try some, you may find something you love, if not a band or nothing at all, it’s the bride and grooms day, enjoy.

SaxonGrace

Wear what makes you happy, I live near a church and the amount of women that wear fascinators perched on the top of their heads like nesting sparrows always makes me smile, I’d find out if somewhere local does hat hire then go try some, you may find something you love, if not a band or nothing at all, it’s the bride and grooms day, enjoy.

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I don’t think fascinators or flowers look right on an older woman, I would just wear hair in an up do, or short if you have that style.

I agree about fascinators and flowers and would also extend that to decorated combs and clips. The OP has chosen what I would term a fairly casual dress so any headwear needs to take that into account. It would I think be easier to match a hat to a rather more formal dress.

Why do you feel you should wear some headgear. If very formal wedding I'd go for a hat, fascinators always look as if you've had something plonked on your head. A hat can be much more stylish, or if informal, go with a nice hairdo.

Calendargirl

Oh, I think Camilla looks pretty good in her hats.

Camilla can certainly rock a hat, even when they are absolutely massive. 😊

Could you have a small Cortage on a hair slide or band?

I think trying lots of different hats might let you find the right one for you. Painful as it may sound 🤭

One of those lovely covered in fabric so times beads hand bands
Aka Princess of Wales, Beatrice, Eugenia . Sophie Duchess of Edinburgh
Those head adornments attached to a comb. Always think pretty and elegant. A fresh flower attached perhaps. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I wore a corsage of wired flowers like a big brooch - I was unusual and fancy enough to "mark me out" as mother of the groom but not so whimsical and girly as a fascinator.

Have a read of this, they're are done lovely ideas.

www.theluckysixpence.co.uk/post/alternatives-to-hats-and-fascinators-for-wedding-guests

Some lovely ideas. I need an edit button. 😊

Maybe a turban of the same colours as the dress?

I don't do hats or fascinators so for my daughter's wedding I wore a big, sort of floppy, fabric flower in my hair on a clip in a matching colour to my dress (teal blue 😊). The hairdresser put it in my hair.

I felt great.

My friend had beautiful, fine feathers added to her long hair, scattered, all in muted colours. So unusual and it looked lovely.