Wedding guest dress etiquette

merlotgran

Getting the memo is just a turn of phrase. No dress rules have been issued as far as I can see.

The post is a bit confusing.

Just because guests at one wedding years ago wore muted colours, it doesn't necessarily follow that guests at another wedding in the future will be wearing similar colours. They might all be wearing bold colours and ftm420 might think she didn't get the memo if she turned up in grey or beige.

It's a Summer wedding so I think you can wear a bright colour if it suits you. I wish I could wear red.

Pastels wash me out so I'd struggle if I had to go to a wedding with a pastels dress code.

ftm420 you look really lovely in that dress…

how about treating yourself to a ‘quality’ pashmina to go with it instead of the hat? Just an idea!

I would like to respectfully ask the OP how old she is?

That’s a lovely summer wedding dress - I wouldn’t think twice about wearing it. And why waste a lovely dress that could have another ‘outing’?

That dress is lovely you should definitely wear it .

If you feel comfortable in the dress wear it but ditch the fascinator all eyes will probably be on the bridal party

Wear the red dress

You look great, I love the dress

To add.... If you did decide against wearing that lovely dress, remember the Sales are on now or soon. You might be able to pick up something else suitable at half the price.
I did that one year fabulous dress about a 1/3 of the original price.

Heavens! Hasn’t happened at any weddings I’ve been to recently. Two in the past year. Being told what colours to wear at a wedding is just ridiculous.

Is this a Bridezilla thing?

Wear your beautiful dress. Enjoy your day!

Re red dress. It does look beautiful on you. Really does. However I would agree to check with the bride. It happened to me a few years ago and I was the only one with a bright outfit, it did look a bit OTT in the photos in my opinion. I then wished I had a more neutral outfit, but I hate shopping … let me know how you solved the dilemma 🐸

The wedding is not until next July anyway so that's nearly a year away. Plenty of time to look for another dress if you decide to not wear the red one.

I think everyone is getting the wrong idea about the colour thing. It is usually just close family who co-ordinate their outfits.

merlotgran: I'll be 62 on the day of the wedding.

Unless the couple specify a colour scheme, it’s perfectly fine to wear a red dress. Many wedding guests say, “if you like your dress, wear it and enjoy the day” and advise that the only real faux pas is dressing in white, not bold colours like red.

I'm going to a wedding at the weekend and am wearing a red floral dress. I bought it to take on holiday in case we went somewhere formal to eat, but the people I went with said thy weren't planning to dress up, so I've never worn it, and I don't want it to sit in the wardrobe until it doesn't fit.

I think the mothers of the bride and groom, bridesmaids and maybe siblings of the B&G should consider the photos and maybe co-ordinate their outfits, but everyone else should wear what they like (obviously avoiding white and looking smart being a given). If you are going to be in the photos, the photographer can position you next to someone whose colours don't actively clash, but the odds are very low that it will matter.