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Funeral clothes

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watermeadow Tue 12-Aug-25 20:21:21

I’m going to a friend’s funeral and think I should wear black or dark colours, I don’t want to stand out.
I never ever wear black or navy because I have pets and couldn’t get dressed without getting hairs on my clothes. Also, if I bought black items new for this occasion, I’d never wear them again.
What shall I wear?

Thisismyname1953 Thu 14-Aug-25 21:24:17

I’m attending my nieces funeral tomorrow. Nobody has mentioned a dress code but I’m wearing a black and white summer dress which I bought recently, with a black bag and black shoes . I just hope it doesn’t rain as I can’t carry an umbrella.

Grammaretto Thu 14-Aug-25 21:32:21

How terribly sad thisismyname. flowers

Dempie55 Thu 14-Aug-25 22:18:43

Just buy something from Vinted. Wear it to the funeral then sell it on.

Esmay Fri 15-Aug-25 12:47:53

I wore black to the last funeral that I went to .but I was asked to wear a bright floral dress to the funeral of a dear friend to celebrate her love of flowers just a few months before .One of my friends had to buy a floral dress as she didn't have one in her wardrobe .
Sadly as we get older funerals occur more frequently .
I'm not fond of jackets ( they make my bottom look big )and have a black coat and wear a dress underneath .
I have a few black ones though they do have some embroidery on them .
I've stopped panicking about what to wear as I've spent lots of unnecessary money and found that other people are more casual .
Have a look on ebay .

yogitree Fri 15-Aug-25 12:57:11

Go to a charity shop?

Betsylee Mon 18-Aug-25 22:32:46

I've been amazed at what people wear to a funeral, anything seems to go nowadays. Jeans I've seen being worn, as some have suggested look on Vinted or a charity shop as often I don't want to wear the item again.

ginny Mon 18-Aug-25 23:01:11

Does it really matter what colour or style you wear ?
The fact that someone has turned up at the funeral is respect enough to my mind.

Naticastyle Thu 21-Aug-25 12:00:47

I’m sorry for your loss. As others have said, funerals today don’t always require black. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. A smart outfit in muted tones like grey, navy, or other neutral shades, perhaps trousers or a skirt with a coordinating jacket, strikes the right balance between respect and practicality. It’s perfectly acceptable to avoid buying something new you’ll seldom wear. Above all, your presence and support in this difficult time matter.

Elrel Sun 07-Sept-25 17:34:27

Opening up a charity shop one morning found our first customer, a man in a rush on the way to a funeral. He had forgotten to put his suit jacket and black tie in the car. No suit in stock but he bought a dark blue blazer and a black tie. We were happy to be able to help.
Last week I went to the funeral of a young man who loved his football team, we were invited to wear the appropriate colours instead of black. So I did, trousers and top in those colours. Many of the young man’s friends wore football shirts, the coffin bearers had especially ordered ones with ‘Forever 25’ on the backs. However all the older women , and several younger ones, were in smart deepest black, I may have stood out a little…