It is just like some of your jokes, JO5 , don't you like it?
You thought I was being nasty to someone else, then when you found that it was absent (and incidentally not being nasty at all) you said that was OK. So I joked that as I now had your permission I would have to find something bad to say. Later I said that having your permission did not make it compulsory. To be honest I couldn't think of anything nasty to say to absent
Is it clear now what it was all about?